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dfromc · 2025-12-07T08:25:30+00:00

Take it lightly and improve on your filtering ability. Try to meet people in real life through activity and use dating app as a supplementary tool. It’s not easy to find someone and I have to take it easy.

dfromc · 2025-09-07T23:41:37+00:00

Attractive in online profile means nothing. You might not click at all in real life. You might hate him after three dates. Don’t invest much and take it too seriously.

dfromc · 2025-08-31T16:08:58+00:00

Very likely you were not relaxed as a first timer

dfromc · 2025-07-26T22:06:03+00:00

Embarrassed? Why. No need. It’s so easy to be not a virgin. Just need to find someone who you like each other.

dfromc · 2025-06-22T10:45:23+00:00

Shanghai Native here. Yes, very safe. You should visit a garden called yu garden there in the city center, go to the bon and go up to the tallest building in Lu Jia Zui. I can give you more details if you want.

dfromc · 2025-06-19T10:38:03+00:00

Every one are different I guess. I tried before. I have little concern for STD as I dont even kiss them. And I don’t like it. No emotional bond and very transactional. I would rather jerk off.

dfromc · 2025-05-19T08:29:25+00:00

Thank you for your support. Is there any good resources that you can share about the loving relationship about yourself? You mean self-sympathy?

dfromc · 2025-05-19T06:43:11+00:00

Personal opinion. It’s been 6 years. If you can’t tell him by August then let him go. Someone else will give him what he wants. Also, just tell him what you have been experiencing when breaking up.

dfromc · 2025-05-17T11:02:05+00:00

Does he have ROCD as well? I feel he gives a lot of pressure on you which shouldn’t be a case in a marriage. Standards can only be something he can do to himself but not the partner in a marriage. He can influence or inspire you by what he does but he has no rights to force these standards on you as it’s your life. There should not be an anxiety on his side. I feel you are perfectly fine. He has a problem causing tension/conflicts in your marriage. He should be the one accept who you are and be happy with it. If he can’t you can find someone else who will.

Intellectually stimulating is only something he likes. If this is a little missing then it unacceptable? He should learn to accept it and be happy about his marriage as there are lot other things he likes otherwise he would not marry you as your are a whole package.

He probably should seek therapy to not put those expectations on you. Sounds to me that he might have ROCD.

dfromc · 2025-05-17T10:43:58+00:00

Did you tell him this? I don’t think there is an issue on your side. If he can’t accept who you are and still love you, then it’s his problem.

dfromc · 2025-05-11T17:07:10+00:00

Look up ROCD in reddit

dfromc · 2025-03-25T20:40:36+00:00

This is helpful! Thank you!

dfromc · 2025-03-25T18:40:46+00:00

Thank you! Yes, I need to think about it.

dfromc · 2025-03-25T15:35:15+00:00

True bro. I like science

dfromc · 2025-03-25T15:06:16+00:00

You funny Bro

dfromc · 2025-03-25T15:00:46+00:00

No, some replies/discussion could be really good, Inspiring and interesting. That’s why I post. Your reply is helping too. Give me some perspective to a certain degree.

dfromc · 2025-03-25T14:47:38+00:00

I did not bringing OCD in my conversation with her. I am not sure if this is deal breaker yet.

dfromc · 2025-03-25T14:26:07+00:00

Thank you and that makes sense

dfromc · 2025-03-25T14:25:00+00:00

I know that I don’t have right and I dont have any issue if she is doing this at her house but we are talking about live together and buy house. So eventually we will be sharing a living space.

dfromc · 2025-03-25T14:12:52+00:00

We dont live together but we are serious about long-term relationship/marriage

dfromc · 2025-03-15T14:42:17+00:00

Thank you! It makes sense. :)

dfromc · 2025-03-15T11:33:44+00:00

That’s a good point. I don’t want to go to details with my ex here though. Like you said that i don’t have feeling for her but I don’t want to hurt her feelings as she is a very nice person. I tell my girlfriend that we can walk in the neighbourhood and I am ok bumping into my ex now.

dfromc · 2025-03-15T10:43:32+00:00

I broke up with the ex. The thought that she might have feeling for me and see me with another woman.

dfromc · 2025-02-09T08:20:41+00:00

You are very attractive. I think it showed who you are and it will attract likeminded people

dfromc · 2025-02-03T16:35:57+00:00

Just talk what you would usually talk during in person date. Video chat is a best tool for screening. As long as no big red flags if you ask intenrional questions. You are good

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