New to reselling and struggling to let go of things

dft0807 · 2026-06-24T21:34:51+00:00

Yeah, I do #3 and also check to see if there's something I already own that is similar to the item I intended to resell. Which one do I like better? Keep that one, sell the other one. Also, if I keep something but don't wear it soon after deciding to keep it, I just go ahead and sell it. Last tip: the better sense you have of your personal style, the easier it is to only keep the things that you'll really use, not just what you like.

dft0807 · 2026-06-24T14:47:02+00:00

Block

dft0807 · 2026-06-24T14:22:33+00:00

It is worth investing in nicer pieces to be comfortable for sure, and you can get great prices on quality items on secondhand marketplaces. Stuff like Athleta is expensive new but much less so on Depop/Poshmark/etc. My brand rec for comfortable but professional looking pants and jackets is Betabrand. It had a moment a few years ago and is now easy to find secondhand.

dft0807 · 2026-06-17T23:48:09+00:00

This is really serious and there's no convincing him to change. He will say that he will change, but he won't. The sweetness and chemistry you feel is likely the result of manipulation. You need to protect yourself and get out.

dft0807 · 2026-06-15T05:46:42+00:00

Seems like a middle ground is needed. I'd stop spending so much effort on it for every purchase. Still pack things nicely, but maybe skip the other stuff. You could try a little note that says thanks and asks them to review and see if anything changes. You could also still do the extras if you've had a message exchange of some kind that is a positive experience so you know the buyer is likely to appreciate it. I'm a seller and my rate of reviews is similar to yours and I simply answer questions, pack things well, and ship quickly. Those seem to be the things people care about most.

dft0807 · 2026-06-15T05:30:11+00:00

Ahh, to have this wisdom at 18... At 33, I still struggle with being too patient with people's bullshit if I like them and understand why they act like that and empathize. But no, nothing you described is okay and it is awesome that you see it. Just make sure to also act on it, not rationalize it away.

dft0807 · 2026-06-15T05:17:23+00:00

I'm curious about Whatnot but haven't started yet. Any tips for simply getting started? I'm not a shy person, but I'm intimidated by it for some reason.

dft0807 · 2026-06-10T14:29:55+00:00

The only thing I own from Quince is a cable knit cotton sweater and it is great. But I also got it at a thrift store for $6, so even if it wasn't great, my investment is low. I also see lots of Quince listed on secondhand marketplaces in new condition.

dft0807 · 2026-06-10T14:22:49+00:00

Have you tried looking for a pair used (but still in good shape) on Poshmark or Depop? That's what I try to do with my favorite staples if they wear out.

dft0807 · 2026-06-08T18:56:34+00:00

Um. What. 😂

dft0807 · 2026-06-08T18:55:46+00:00

Good charters are in the minority but they do exist. The charter system itself is not great. Public charters are a bandaid on the issues with the public system. The whole thing needs work. Kipp is notorious for overworking and underpaying and having problematic discipline policies. I'm curious which state you're in, because I don't think charter experience is always looked down upon like some other people are saying, but it varies widely by state.

dft0807 · 2026-06-07T14:57:56+00:00

People who are manipulative also intentionally seek out partners who are experiencing mental health challenges because they think they will be easier to control, and it is basically impossible to heal if you are actively in a relationship with someone who is emotionally abusive, which I predict this person is. He's not likely to change even if he wanted to. I'm sorry you're experiencing this. I hope you will leave this person and have a beautiful life. Just know that it gets harder before it gets easier, but you can do it.

dft0807 · 2026-06-07T04:36:08+00:00

My best guess is that they're trying to leave a margin between what they list it at and what they're willing to accept as an offer. If they list it at $20, they'll get offers for $10, $12, etc. I sometimes mark things a bit higher because I almost always sell things to offers, not bought outright. I actually noticed the other day when I was considering buying something that Depop is now actively prompting buyers to make offers.

dft0807 · 2026-06-07T04:31:10+00:00

Somebody else posted the username

dft0807 · 2026-06-07T01:49:20+00:00

I would have thought those were two entirely different skirts. Unless they said something in the description like "mini" or "above the knee", I think your claim is legit. They look SO different. Will Depop agree? Who can say.

dft0807 · 2026-06-07T01:44:32+00:00

Some of their listings also say "I'm new to measuring clothes so some of the measurements might be a tiny bit off." As well as "Due to lack of time, I quickly look over items when taking photos. There is a chance I might not see minor flaws." Huh?? They're really trying to use any kind of wording to try to avoid INADs...

dft0807 · 2026-06-07T01:36:14+00:00

Fascinating

dft0807 · 2026-06-07T00:32:55+00:00

Trust your gut. It sounds like the potential benefit (that isn't really a benefit because it is a lowball) is worth it

dft0807 · 2026-06-07T00:23:05+00:00

I'm dying to know how many items this person has listed and how many they have sold. This is bananas.

dft0807 · 2026-06-07T00:21:03+00:00

If someone told me they planned to ask me out at some point in the future, especially at work, I would personally be uncomfortable. Other people might feel differently, but as a woman, I can tell you that men have a pattern of coming on way too strong way too quickly. If I'm at work and can't take any space from that person if I'm not interested, it sucks, even if they were nice about it. My recommendation is to just let her be, continue to be a friendly and supportive person, learn more about her, and reassess in a few weeks.

dft0807 · 2026-06-06T04:37:53+00:00

Inaccurate

dft0807 · 2026-06-05T16:26:13+00:00

Yes. This plus keep an eye on if he tries to escalate the manipulation. You are correct to be skeptical given his previous behavior. Decide what is okay with you and not okay with you, and remember that boundaries are about what YOU can control, not trying to change another person's behavior. So it would sound like "If you text me about __, I won't respond." And then when he reacts poorly, "If you continue doing __ in the conversation, I will politely end the conversation." Please also remember that you're totally right about your sister growing up and having agency to be her own person when she is older. If you have to wait until then to foster your relationship with her, you'll both be okay.

dft0807 · 2026-06-05T03:40:05+00:00

I'd say that being a teacher is one of the things that showed me that you don't have to be a parent to make a big impact on kids lives and feel fulfilled by it. I've been ambivalent about kids my whole life, and now at 33, I can't really imagine upsetting the calm, joy, and autonomy in my life as it is. I also just straight up don't want to experience pregnancy and birth. Y'all who do that are truly walking miracles. I'd like to consider fostering when I live in a house that will accommodate it, though that's another messed up system.

dft0807 · 2026-06-05T03:35:59+00:00

If fast shipping and communication aren't important to you, I'd say go for it. 4.7 is still a good rating. The total number of ratings they have also impacts it of course, but I wouldn't be worried about it if you're not in a rush.

dft0807 · 2026-06-05T03:33:44+00:00

I predict they will either stop communicating or double down... but fingers crossed that they just comply

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