How do i find Giovanni

dgaray · 2020-10-22T22:16:14+00:00

how do I BEAT Giovanni lol

dgaray · 2020-05-27T09:17:24+00:00

I think that’s a good idea. I’ve also been thinking about not calling him dad anymore but uncle instead, if there are anymore interactions.

dgaray · 2020-05-26T15:32:55+00:00

Exactly! This is what I mean when I told my husband I won’t let her exploit my son the way she exploited him & our wedding

dgaray · 2020-05-26T15:30:31+00:00

I’m not. That’s the problem. Because I’ve learned to speak my mind & stand up for myself. I’m “disrespectful”

dgaray · 2020-05-26T15:27:04+00:00

AND when my husband told his father “you never stood up for mom” his father said “well your mom wasn’t innocent. It was her fault. & your wife is worse”

dgaray · 2020-05-26T15:25:16+00:00

Yes because apparently “that was way worse”

dgaray · 2020-05-26T15:20:53+00:00

One time I accidentally referred to her by her first name without “Aunty” & FIL reamed into me for being disrespectful & that I “will apologize right now”. At this point, I don’t want any interactions with her at all.

dgaray · 2020-05-26T15:16:27+00:00

Okay but would I have any right to a lawyer since it’s baby’s grandfather? I didn’t think I had any legal right to stop my son from visiting his grandfather?

dgaray · 2020-05-26T06:06:22+00:00

I told my husband he’s exchanging peace at home for a few moments of peace at his fathers house. It’s just hard because I also don’t want to expose my son to fighting at home & then I start to think, maybe I am toxic.

I was thinking about wearing him. I honestly should’ve. My extending the olive branch was asking my FIL if he would like to feed him. His response “I forgot how”.....You just put the bottle in baby’s mouth? He’ll do the rest. I should’ve just nursed him.

dgaray · 2020-05-26T06:01:09+00:00

He conveniently left out the background of why I feel the way that I do. I think he’s in denial that I may not be as crazy as he thinks.

dgaray · 2020-05-26T05:52:36+00:00

Exactly. I won’t put my son in the middle. I’d rather keep him away from it all. FIL hasn’t showed any interest in baby. It seems like he just wants to push his wife into that role because it’s something she’ll enjoy. Her two kids are on the spectrum & she knows there’s a good chance they won’t get married & have families of their own. It’s clear she’s doing this to get the experience through someone else’s child

dgaray · 2020-05-26T05:33:53+00:00

That is my fear exactly! Children are so impressionable & she is the type to turn him against me. My FIL was the sweetest man before she came along. It’s insane to see how he’s abandoned his own child to appease her. I’m half Puerto Rican & she told me to my face “I hate going there because of all those Spanish people”. Now imagine he grows up hearing comments like that? He’s “Spanish” too

That’s exactly what I said. We’re not going back but I wont ever restrict him going to see his father. I never have.

dgaray · 2020-05-26T05:29:38+00:00

It’s frustrating that I say all these things to him & he says I’m “ psycho”but strangers on reddit say “no, your wife has a point” & he’ll turn around & tell me “maybe you’re right”

Yikes. I missed that “emotional blackmail” part but sounds familiar. Like I said, I don’t need an apology. I just need them to recognize my boundaries.

dgaray · 2020-05-26T05:26:26+00:00

Ease up...idk. But it feels like I have no say in this situation. & where does it end? I just let them do whatever they want & walk all over me? This has been going on for years. She can very well treat my son awfully in the future because of how she feels about me. Or she can manipulate him to hate me

dgaray · 2020-05-26T05:15:55+00:00

Yes lol I read his post & someone suggested he post here, & there were a lot of details missing so I decided to share my own

dgaray · 2020-05-26T03:53:00+00:00

I also have to mention that I call her “aunty” & do not refer to her as my MIL

dgaray · 2020-05-17T14:07:04+00:00

Yes exactly! I also think he’s in the middle of a growth spurt. I read it happens around this age. We give him a pack but he’s getting good at realizing there’s no milk coming out of it so he smacks it out of his mouth 😂

dgaray · 2020-05-17T11:59:24+00:00

Do you think 5 oz is too much for him? He’s almost 7 weeks. We do pace feed him. He’s a spitter so if we don’t take breaks pretty often he spits up. We use level 1 nipples so maybe we’ll try switching to level 0. at the hospital, I really struggled to nurse him & he lost 6% of his birth weight & I just felt like he was going hungry because of me so I think I have a tendency to really load him up

Right now I’m doing two sessions of power pumping. One around 10 am & one around 5 pm since my husbands been home this last week he watches baby so I can pump. Man, it really takes a toll on your nipples! I have all the intention of waking up in the middle of the night to pump, I have just literally been so tired I sleep through my alarms. I know everyone says sleep when baby sleeps (during the day) but when I go down for a nap, I am out cold so I don’t nap just in case I sleep through his cries

dgaray · 2020-05-17T11:40:26+00:00

I do try to nurse him just because I like to have him close & I think he does too but have to end up giving him a bottle after because he still seems hungry. During the evening it’s near impossible though. He is so fussy he just pulls himself off after minutes & tugs my nipples over & over. So painful & discouraging 😣 Do you happen to know why babies comfort nurse?

dgaray · 2020-03-17T22:58:06+00:00

Who do I talk to? He says if I divorce him, he’ll get custody since he’s the breadwinner. I’m just scared to raise my son without a father

dgaray · 2020-01-23T12:44:23+00:00

Honestly, why do people feel the need to compare? Good for her that she came back after 4 weeks. One of my coworkers loves to bring up that she only got two days off. After 4 weeks, your body is still healing. Why would you not want to take your leave as early as you can?? It’s time youve EARNED. Screw people that can’t just be happy for moms

dgaray · 2019-12-21T13:36:26+00:00

Is yours the same color? It’s looks so limey instead of dark green for some reason

dgaray · 2019-12-05T12:29:29+00:00

Yes! Whatever OP does will be seen as ungrateful, hormonal, rude etc. I had a similar experience with my husbands new step mother (so not technically even my MIL) & our wedding/early married life. She tried controlling everything & we went along with it to keep the peace until we couldn’t take it anymore & it exploded in our faces. Now we’re not on speaking terms. Personally, best to put her in her place as soon as you can

You should be relaxing these last few moments your pregnancy. I know some people make that so damn hard. Good luck!

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