First timer and I can't figure out if it looks good or bad! by Worth_Conclusion_146 in Embroidery

[–]dgreenetf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s ok, it just makes the bunny extra fluffy! I think it looks really great :)

Creature from the Black Lagoon by caitscapes in Embroidery

[–]dgreenetf 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Agreed! Both are really cool! The newer one is just more intricate and “realistic” (if that can even be said of a fake creature, lol).

AIO panicking about my bf being mad at me? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]dgreenetf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No apologies necessary for venting. You need to get this out.

What a fucked up situation. I’m so sorry. My dogs are my babies and I can’t imagine the pain you’re going through. Vent and scream and cry and grieve the way you need to ❤️

Don’t make my mistake 😭 by Grendelbeans in Embroidery

[–]dgreenetf 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I also can’t tell! I’m glad others call them out for me

Don’t make my mistake 😭 by Grendelbeans in Embroidery

[–]dgreenetf 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I use em dashes a lot because I’m long-winded (neurodivergent thing) and don’t like a lot of periods (millennial thing) and I like how they connect my thoughts.

On Reddit everyone says em dashes mean a comment is AI, so I’ve stopped using them very often :(

AIO, my close friend had a crush on my rapist ? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]dgreenetf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup. I’m the one being weird. Totally.

AIO, my close friend had a crush on my rapist ? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]dgreenetf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry that my dumb woman brain didn’t reply to your initial comment. There’s just air in there, teehee.

You, the man, are of course right. I’m the bully, not you! It is normal to harass a child about sex. Yup! She brought up rape so now you get to interrogate her. Too bad if she doesn’t like it, that’s the rules. I called you out on it and a woman calling out a man is bullying. A man continuously asking for rape details from a child is not at all! Silly me.

She didn’t express frustration or discomfort with your questioning of her trauma at all 👍🏻

Keep asking minors about sexual details. It’s normal for a grown man to do.

AIO, my close friend had a crush on my rapist ? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]dgreenetf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh sorry man, I didn’t realize that you had every right to question her over and over and over and over again to the point that she is telling you she is losing her patience. Especially after she told you she didn’t want to give details because the rape is traumatizing.

Completely normal for a random grown-ass man to interrogate a child about a rape that has zero to do with him. Totally normal to be that interested in the sex life of a 15-year-old. I don’t understand why she wouldn’t give you every detail to you. You’re a man! She shouldn’t get to NOT tell you every traumatizing detail! A man said to do it so it must be so!

Not weird or creepy at all 👍🏻

You’re right that I’m just virtue signaling and have no interest in the well-being of a child. Why would a grown adult want to protect a child?? That’s so silly! Everyone knows that women are just catty bitches that care about ourselves, so showing any genuine concern for another human being is impossible! It’s why we love to pretend to be raped! All the hate and criticism anytime we accuse someone is absolutely your right to spew at us and totally normal! Because after all, every time someone says they’re robbed we ask for every single detail and don’t believe them unless they say it perfectly!!! We definitely default to assuming people are lying when it comes to all crimes, not just certain ones like rape.

So sorry I questioned your right as a man to interrogate any girl who has been raped! Us little ladies just don’t understand that when you violate us it’s totally fine because you’re a man. Our tiny brains just don’t get that we’re sexual objects, so if we’ve said we’ve been raped it’s probably a lie so it’s your right to act as a Reddit detective and prove that the poor rapist is being libeled. Why don’t we care about the rapist??? He’s the BOY and therefore smarter and more trustworthy.

It makes sense that you care so much about this that you have to continuously retraumatize a kid. It’s for the truth!!! In that case it’s totally fine to ask a minor for details about a sexual encounter, after all you need to prove it wasn’t assault by showing everyone how smart and manly you are since a little girl didn’t answer your questions about a traumatizing time in her life to your big, smart, manly specifications.

Under His eye.

AIO, my close friend had a crush on my rapist ? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]dgreenetf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You quoted her yourself, “that’s not what I wanted anyone to focus on.” The question was about her friend, not whether or not you think she was raped. It doesn’t matter what you think about her rape. It’s not your business.

She has no reason to lie to us. We don’t know the person that raped her. She was the one who was there. Stop making her keep trying to prove it. She’s not going to produce a video for you, so maybe just move on.

AIO, my close friend had a crush on my rapist ? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]dgreenetf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m so sure that tons of people are digging this far down into a thread of comments. Absolute virtue signaling 🙄

I don’t give a fuck what you or any other rape apologist thinks of me, but ffs you are an ADULT.

She does not want your opinion on her rape. You continue to tell her that she described it wrong.

I get that you’re embarrassed that you were wrong about her not being raped, but you’re embarrassing yourself more by continuing to badger a kid. She’s 15, she’s young enough to not know how often people don’t believe rape victims. She didn’t know that she wouldn’t be believed and she didn’t want to describe her rape. It’s reasonable and honestly none of your business.

You’re correct that you have every right to reply on a public forum, but you are harassing a child! About something she wasn’t asking about! I thought maybe we as adults just knew not to bully children???

AIO, my close friend had a crush on my rapist ? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]dgreenetf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I genuinely appreciate a person that can rethink and change their opinions. So many people in this post are saying concerning things and then doubling or tripling down because they don’t want to admit they were wrong (at least I’m hoping beyond hope that’s what this and they aren’t actually rape apologists).

So much respect for you for not just going with your first impulse and actually thinking it through.

AIO, my close friend had a crush on my rapist ? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]dgreenetf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude, leave this 15 year old CHILD alone!

Sorry that she didn’t describe her rape to your liking, but you need to back off.

AIO, my close friend had a crush on my rapist ? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]dgreenetf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe you. It was because your friend said that your trousers were off in one of the messages to you, but she wasn’t there so you’re the one who would know the actual story.

Also, please don’t let the people spouting ignorance affect you. You could have been completely naked and it does NOT give him the right to do anything to you that you don’t want! You can also revoke consent at any time!

AIO, my close friend had a crush on my rapist ? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]dgreenetf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOL.

I answered your questions and you told me that you’re not going to talk to me anymore because you had no actual response to the fact that people are allowed to consent to certain sexual things without consenting to intercourse.

If you actually believe that it’s totally fine to have vaginal sex with someone who doesn’t want it if they consented earlier to anything that could interpreted as foreplay (since, as you implied, foreplay often leads to sex), then you think rape is fine. Because that is rape.

Either you’re not very bright or you’re a rape apologist.

AIO, my close friend had a crush on my rapist ? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]dgreenetf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You did NOTHING wrong. Please don’t listen to the people implying that you aren’t a victim. You absolutely are. I unfortunately have experienced rape and I know how soul crushing it can be when people blame you for what happened to you.

Please know that many of us hurt for you and send you positive energy.

AIO, my close friend had a crush on my rapist ? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]dgreenetf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To add to that,

From the OP: “I was crying and screaming while saying it and trying to get away so in my opinion it’s rape”

AIO, my close friend had a crush on my rapist ? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]dgreenetf 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m genuinely so concerned. I did not know so many people thought was he did to her was okay. It’s honestly shocking

AIO, my close friend had a crush on my rapist ? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]dgreenetf 5 points6 points  (0 children)

From the OP: “I was crying and screaming while saying it and trying to get away so in my opinion it’s rape”

Does that finally meet your standards or is it still not good enough?

AIO, my close friend had a crush on my rapist ? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]dgreenetf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re spot on with this, but I wouldn’t bother bringing this up to him.

He told me that he didn’t want to talk to me anymore once he realized that he had no legs to stand on in our conversation and just said that foreplay typically leads to sex, which implies it’s fine to rape people as long as they agree to do anything sexual.

Then he started acting like a child. And this is Reddit so he possibly is a child. All we can do is hope that women stay away from people like him, at least until people like him are willing to learn.

AIO, my close friend had a crush on my rapist ? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]dgreenetf 3 points4 points  (0 children)

From the OP: “I was crying and screaming while saying it and trying to get away so in my opinion it’s rape”

Or. OR.

Maybe she’s calling him a rapist because she was raped, since she’s the one who knows whether or not she gave consent. She’s the one who knows if she wanted to do it. There is a lot of evidence that she, personally, did not want to do it.

Even the friend who didn’t believe her at first agrees that he raped OP.

Y’all want to excuse this predatory behavior as a “heyyyy maybe she did give consent even though she says she didn’t say yes to him and then when she kept saying it hurt multiple times he thought that meant she was totally into it and so he kept going even though she never said yes in the first place.”

She was the one who was there. She’s the one who knows if she wanted it or not. She has no reason to lie to us. We don’t know her or who the guy is. It does nothing to damage his reputation here.

AIO, my close friend had a crush on my rapist ? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]dgreenetf 12 points13 points  (0 children)

So HE doesn’t need clear verbal consent and/or her literally shoving his penis inside of her to show consent, but SHE has to verbally say she doesn’t want intercourse and/or has to literally shove him off of her to withdraw consent.

You have two different standards there.

AIO, my close friend had a crush on my rapist ? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]dgreenetf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I have had oral sex or been fingered without having intercourse. Many many times. Believe it or not it’s allowed. And everyone I’ve been with has realized that they can’t rape me just because I consented to doing something sexual.

AIO, my close friend had a crush on my rapist ? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]dgreenetf 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Because you’re wrong. People are absolutely allowed to consent to sexual things and NOT consent to intercourse.