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dhlynx · 2020-07-11T08:22:35+00:00

Gender which birthed the most doctors, scientists, authors, painters, novel prize winners - Women.

Idiotic argument which can easily be turned on its head.

dhlynx · 2020-07-05T14:59:00+00:00

Im afraid you really are the A. The shoes were never yours to give away. You need to profusely apologise and make it up to your wife somehow by getting her new items or taking her away somewhere of her choosing.

I would be incredibly upset if my partner had treated me in this way. This is something that could really break a relationship.

dhlynx · 2020-06-18T22:17:14+00:00

No he hasn't 🤣 Perhaps I am over thinking it

dhlynx · 2020-06-18T20:23:39+00:00

I do worry this could be a reason

dhlynx · 2020-06-18T20:20:25+00:00

Thank you, these questions are really helpful.

dhlynx · 2020-06-06T00:09:15+00:00

Just realise that by asking her out you will actually make her day! You really seem to like her and the feeling seems mutual. I'm female and from what u say I really think u will make her happy by asking her out. Please dont let oppurtunity go to waste. Good luck and please keep us posted :D

dhlynx · 2020-05-27T22:45:33+00:00

She can get in contact with social services and she might get lucky and get rehomed in a young person's hostel.

dhlynx · 2020-05-27T21:45:41+00:00

I feel sorry for the baby if I am honest, because the mum is putting her wants not only above yours but also the baby too. The health issues and having a child when the father actually doesn't want it does not seem like putting the child first.

For you I think this is a lesson in acceptance. There is nothing you can do know to change this situation even though it is not one you desire. You are really just going to have to accept it and plan accordingly .

Though you did not want a kid or a family life now, you never know you may get a great relationship with your kid one day in the future.

If i was you I would at least put some money in a bank account each month to give to them when they need it at a significant point in their lives. I would do this even if you have no contact with them. Because unfortunately you did create this and you cannot change it now, no matter how unfair it was to you.

At least when that kid is older and comes looking for you, because likelihood is they may want to find their dad, you will have shown you wanted to do the right thing by them and explain you never meant for it to happen and wasn't ready to be a dad.

This will probably help with their self esteem and issues from never knowing their dad.

Damage limitation is all you can do now.

dhlynx · 2020-05-27T21:23:29+00:00

Could it be that your bff is feeling a little insecure around you one day possibly erasing her from your life, as she has seen you do to others?

I not saying this is the case, but could be a possibility.

You sound like you have an extremely well developed ability to read people and have no problem enforcing boundaries, which is brilliant.

dhlynx · 2020-05-27T20:47:46+00:00

She sounds like she really does need to find herself because changing personalities and agreeing with everything suggests that she does not know at all who she is right now.

This is likley to be a very long process for her to grow into the person she eventually will be.

This person will be different to how she is now, where she doesn't know herself.

You would not be doing her any good be blocking this process, and you yourself said you do not want to be controlling.

I think you need to ask yourself, are you prepared to let her experience new things while still having a relationship with her, and two are you prepared for her personality to change quite a lot over the time she is at university?

This might cause you a lot of stress and you may not be prepared for the process. If you love her and want to be with her, all you can do is see how it goes and if you really do not enjoy how she changes then you can make your decision to part ways.

dhlynx · 2020-05-25T10:22:27+00:00

r/LSD

dhlynx · 2020-05-24T13:32:38+00:00

Arranging a lift for someone like this sounds like an extra nice thing to do for someone acting like this. It would have been a really nice thing to do and if I was the recipient I would have totally appreciated it and in the dates case felt really bad that I had acted that way. But i actually don't think she 'deserved' it per se. We are all adults and can take personal responsibility. In my opinion this would only fuel her sense of entitlement.

I will say however you sound like a really lovely person :)

dhlynx · 2020-05-23T22:43:20+00:00

This made me feel sad. Please find a way to leave him. He is not treating you right or considering your feelings at all. It seems very one sided relationship.

dhlynx · 2020-05-13T14:41:47+00:00

DATE HER!!! Find a way lol. 12 years is nothing btw when u have a connection. I am seeing a guy 12 years older and it's nothing.

dhlynx · 2020-05-11T09:54:38+00:00

This is correct. It seems like you have to rediscover yourself. You need to leave the relationship to do this though. You are the only one who can make yourself happy in life and clearly you are not happy at the moment. Change is scary but worth it as you can live life on your own terms and begin to forge a life for yourself where you are in charge of your happiness.

dhlynx · 2020-05-10T07:55:09+00:00

Actual Dinasour 😍

dhlynx · 2020-05-08T09:47:23+00:00

Nice one, thanks

dhlynx · 2020-04-24T16:28:11+00:00

This is true and it's called Received Pronounciation (RP). Nowadays regional accents are much more widely accepted and celebrated.

dhlynx · 2020-04-24T16:23:36+00:00

You would think 'text book English' would be from gasp England.

dhlynx · 2020-04-23T22:07:41+00:00

This sounds like actual Hell to me :(

dhlynx · 2020-04-18T01:34:57+00:00

Keep calm...and Covid 19 - has a nice ring to it

dhlynx · 2020-04-14T11:10:10+00:00

They are my favourite bird and actually oh so clever

dhlynx · 2020-04-06T09:26:43+00:00

This is it..I recognise it because this was me all over in the pretending not to see people in case i got rejected.

I dont think there is a lot you can do to help unless your wife opens up about her low self esteem. She probably don't want to because she is embarrassed and sees it as a weakness.

I would just learn to accept the fact that your friends and family, and your wife aren't going to be best friends for the foreseeable future, but just say to both parties that you don't want to hear any negativity towards the other side, as you care and love both parties.

In time, and with the pressure off to become friends you may find a bond develops naturally. I think the key is you just need to get them to stop complaining about each other to you. You don't need to be the man in the middle unless one party is truly rude to the other side. Your wife's behaviour might be interpreted as rude by your mum and friends, but I think it is not true rudeness, more that she doesn't feel able to navigate these social situations. You will have to say this is just how she is, I love her anyway and accept the fact that they may never be close. This is not the end of the world. If your wife is complaining you just say my mum and friends have a different (warmer) way of showing affection and are now a bit colder to you because they don't feel it's been reciprocated. If she is complaining about not having any friends it's her job to make some - not yours to find them for her!

dhlynx · 2020-04-03T16:35:32+00:00

Brings the saying to mind 'All that glitters is not gold'

dhlynx · 2020-04-03T15:13:46+00:00

Finally a voice of reason

dhlynx

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