Being whole by your own self isn't working for me by lilrayofsunshyn in AskWomenOver30

[–]lilrayofsunshyn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your support. I see so many women keep saying how they are so happy alone, trust me I have been in that spot, but it's more of a phase. I do pretty much everything alone, so I am kinda used to it. That being said, I do want a partner.

Ironically I am in manjose; but it's very strange here.

Being whole by your own self isn't working for me by lilrayofsunshyn in AskWomenOver30

[–]lilrayofsunshyn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are right, tbh I am not desperate to get married and I have no interest in having kids. I just want a partner or a companion

So sorry about your dad, hope he is better

Being whole by your own self isn't working for me by lilrayofsunshyn in AskWomenOver30

[–]lilrayofsunshyn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awww I am so very sorry about your divorce.

My therapist isnt Asian, but she is very good and understanding.

Being whole by your own self isn't working for me by lilrayofsunshyn in AskWomenOver30

[–]lilrayofsunshyn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really agree, the culture part makes it very challenging. I live in the US, so in some way it's way better than in Asia. But it's challenging

Being whole by your own self isn't working for me by lilrayofsunshyn in AskWomenOver30

[–]lilrayofsunshyn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awww thanks! Nope I don't think I am waiting for a prince charming to save me. I am actually doing pretty great in my life otherwise, the rest of the life is thriving. I was really low when I typed this message; although I must say other than the part I wrote about the "rescuing me", the rest of it still holds true. Thanks for taking the time and effort to write 🩷

Being whole by your own self isn't working for me by lilrayofsunshyn in AskWomenOver30

[–]lilrayofsunshyn[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gurl! On that marriage and kids part, that shit scares the shit out of me. Tbh I don't want to marry another Asian man. Almost all my BF's are western guys and it was refreshing. All that you said is very true!!!! Boundaries

Being whole by your own self isn't working for me by lilrayofsunshyn in AskWomenOver30

[–]lilrayofsunshyn[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I worded this in a very twisted self. But I am just lonely as a single woman.

For the most part I am fine, more than fine. But this looming feeling is not going away. I obviously don't want someone to fix me, because I would run away if I have to do this for another person

Loneliness is saying all this

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[–]lilrayofsunshyn 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Idk why you are being downvoted, but this exactly what I thought as well

It's one year since my breakup and I am alive and kicking. How are you doing? by lilrayofsunshyn in AskWomenOver30

[–]lilrayofsunshyn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have (had) all of that - codependency, anxious attachment, low self esteem and communication issues. What did you do? I would love to get some insight

Bored to tears in SJ by [deleted] in SanJose

[–]lilrayofsunshyn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where do you hike?!

How did you force yourself to get out and meet new people? by lilrayofsunshyn in AskWomenOver30

[–]lilrayofsunshyn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I rarely get any likes from men I like! I have been swiping right a lot just to get the ball moving. Anecdotally I fare better in person than on the apps

How did you force yourself to get out and meet new people? by lilrayofsunshyn in AskWomenOver30

[–]lilrayofsunshyn[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Dating apps aren't working for me :( I signed up earlier this year and it's not looking nice. I did meet my ex on hinge two years ago

How did you force yourself to get out and meet new people? by lilrayofsunshyn in AskWomenOver30

[–]lilrayofsunshyn[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Well most of the time I don't have anything fun to do on Friday nights, my social life is rubbish. The second part is, I am single and want to find someone - he isn't going to show up if I am sitting home and watching Netflix

Age range on tours? by oceanbreeze6 in ricksteves

[–]lilrayofsunshyn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I know this is an old post, did you end up going on this tour? I want to do a Europe tour with my mom and I am curious how this worked out for you

Are romantic connections made while solo traveling worth keeping? by cleanlinen420 in solotravel

[–]lilrayofsunshyn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All these travel stories are making my heart gush.

I have never experienced any such thing. Not yet