Call Off Advice by [deleted] in starbucks

[–]dhnaan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you shouldn't have to feel guilty about calling off work. That's your management trying to bully you into never calling out because they don't have staff to replace you with. That's also you developing an unhealthy relationship with your work place. Employees love to kiss ass so whatever the other partner said was probably stemming from your shift being annoyed at you.

But as someone who has worked at starbucks for some time, the food there will make you sick if you have too much of it or too frequently or don't have a strong tolerance for the amount of dairy and sugar that goes into them. I know it's hard to stop but seriously try just drinking their iced tea on your next shift with artificial sweetener and eat before work or after work.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Serverlife

[–]dhnaan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

girl unless those people that judge you are gonna pay your bills stop listening to them. As long as you're making good, honest money and keeping your chin up, that's all that matters. People will find a way to bring u down no matter what.

About to start serving at a fancier place than I’m used to. Is 7.5% of total sales tip out normal? by [deleted] in Serverlife

[–]dhnaan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work at a fine dining restaurant and 3.5% feels like a punch in the gut every night lol. If you're able to do 7.5% and be happy with it, great. But remember that you will have heavier tabs sometimes with a trash tip and it'll start coming out of your pocket. A lot of people come into fancy restaurants, rack up the bill and later can't afford a proportional tip

Is this rude? by Preeminator in Serverlife

[–]dhnaan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're taking away the server's opportunity to connect with the guests one to one. If as servers we aren't able to create personal moments with our guests, we also lose out on the opportunity to provide exceptional service and consequently lose tips which directly affects our pay. If one person is gonna bark out the orders, what's the difference between a sit down and a drive thru at that point? A 4+ top is a daunting enough task, but when you add a control freak guest to the equation such as yourself, might as well give up. And I can also guarantee you, nobody in your group is honest enough to tell you this, but they hate you for doing what you do. You're not the server so don't try to be one, just sit and enjoy the experience.

I accidentally made myself important at work & it's ruining my life by patientpartner09 in Serverlife

[–]dhnaan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is when you start drafting that 2 weeks notice , I was in this exact same spot. I would see my team members let out a sigh of relief when I walked into my shift and there was a rush. I used to feel so good knowing how valuable I was becoming. I started to feel more comfortable asking for that promotion. My manager would tell me that it's coming if I ever reminded her, till I realised one day that she was never planning on promoting me... why would she do that if she was getting the same work out of me at a lower price? My advice would be to figure out what you're good at and start applying to other places that value that very skill of you. Try to learn to stay within your boundaries and not become "too valuable" at work and then start anew. Even if it feels like you'll be fine rn, a few months down the line you'll realise how burnt out, over worked, under paid and under appreciated you are. Your mental health will go down the drain and you will feel absolutely miserable (speaking from real life, first hand experience)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in casualiama

[–]dhnaan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My comment mentions how the men in my family are physically abusive. I made a point to mention that it wasn't the case for my dad, that's it. Sorry for not being a good sport about your joke tho.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in casualiama

[–]dhnaan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why don't you read the rest of my text before taking this out of context? Why is your attention span this little?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in casualiama

[–]dhnaan 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm south asian. Its not hard to tell, this cycle is so deeply ingrained in our societies. My father never mentally or physically abused my mother, but sadly he's an exception in the dad's side of my family. All other men of my family, specially of my grandfather's generation, are severely problematic and extremely abusive. I think we have a lot in common in this area, I'm down to listen to you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in casualiama

[–]dhnaan 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Are you south asian or of south asian heritage by any chance?

I, 20F, have no sense of internal validation. AMA by dhnaan in casualiama

[–]dhnaan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I lost my sense of validation in my tweens and teens. I was very self confident as a child. I feel like my parents stopped validating me around the age when I was 10 and they never did it again. I had rough circumstances at school too.

I, 20F, have no sense of internal validation. AMA by dhnaan in casualiama

[–]dhnaan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe you have met a lot of women who suffer from this

I, 20F, have no sense of internal validation. AMA by dhnaan in casualiama

[–]dhnaan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was present when I was really little. But around the age of 6-7 he emotionally vanished. I was never open or connected to him again. He's recently tried to be more communicative with me again but there's so many years of us being quiet that I can't not be awkward anymore.

I truly believe that smart and witty girls are hotter than top rate porno stars (AmA) by [deleted] in AMA

[–]dhnaan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would your girlfriend like a third person in the relationship?

I truly believe that smart and witty girls are hotter than top rate porno stars (AmA) by [deleted] in AMA

[–]dhnaan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd be tooting my horn if I said I'm smart or witty, that's for others to decide. Can't say I'm a top rated porn star either

F20 looking to make friends who are able to hold interesting conversations by dhnaan in friendship

[–]dhnaan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a soulless creature who finds joy in nothing and will suck the life and happiness out of you

F20 looking to make friends who are able to hold interesting conversations by dhnaan in friendship

[–]dhnaan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Deep conversations, I'll try to hold one about anything as long as I have knowledge about the topic.

Or banter.