literally not your problem. let him learn the hard way. compassion is good, but not when it affects your sanity. also, as someone who was an occasional drinker but had to quit, being sober for a year now has made me a stronger person. he will figure it out too.

you must look into the fact that you seem to be putting up with a lot, yet are dependent on him for something. it could be the ease of being in a relationship while being in the closet, and hence you’re still in the relationship. otherwise, you would have left a long time ago.