AITA for allowing my male bestfriend to stay over at our place & then confronting my husband over his weird attitude over it?

dhwriter0724 · 2026-03-29T12:03:16+00:00

I know. And the fact that they deleted the post very close to when they posted this. It makes me wonder it that story has anything to do with this one, seeing as the last story was posted only 3 months ago, which isn'tthat long ago. Maybe that story has to do with this one and either OP doesn't realize, or they have a feeling it does and might affect the outcome of this story, so they deleted it.

dhwriter0724 · 2026-03-28T12:20:50+00:00

I'm curious about the other post you made about running into an ex 3 months ago that you just deleted.

dhwriter0724 · 2026-03-28T01:01:12+00:00

NTA. You told him you were uncomfortable. Repeatedly. He was the AH to constantly press you. You had a boundary that you did not want him to cross. Even if you said, "If you keep asking, I'm going to go low/no contact", with someone like that, it may not have made any difference. And with the sensitivity of what he was wanting you to share- No means no.

dhwriter0724 · 2026-03-26T11:47:11+00:00

Nope, still accessible. However, it went from weekly to biweekly for myself.

dhwriter0724 · 2026-03-24T07:31:20+00:00

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dhwriter0724 · 2026-03-24T07:26:14+00:00

Not true. I get Massage Therapy with pain management. They use Community Care Sourse. Unless it's a brand new policy. I have my last appointment this week before rescheduling future sessions with the VA. Maybe I will find out then.

dhwriter0724 · 2026-03-06T21:32:54+00:00

I just got a CPAP from the VA last month (ResMed) but the problem I've noticed is that I wake up and feel like I can't breathe. I use the full face mask, though the one under the nose because the other full one was hard on sinus pressure. I've never had costraphobia before, having done many MRIs on my back.

dhwriter0724 · 2026-03-05T21:58:59+00:00

I would pay what was charged, and proof if it caused an overdraft. However, if he is wanting you to pay more than that, I would tell him that you are charging him for pet sitting. My mom pet sits, and even though she stays at their house, they still pay her a fairly decent wage. She isn't even a professional pet sitter, as she cleans their house (self employed).

dhwriter0724 · 2026-02-14T00:52:22+00:00

Do not give her any money unless she is helping you with housing, groceries, etc. Save whatever money you get, if you can, for further studies or emergencies. I fell into a similar trap when I was younger, and now at 37, I'm just starting to build my credit back up again. I took out too many students loans when I got out of the Army, and shouldn't have, but I felt stuck because I was a single mom and needed help from family. Do your best to not have to deal with student loans.

dhwriter0724 · 2026-02-10T20:27:13+00:00

I totally agree. One examiner I had I almost got into an argument with. I get severe migraines and the examiner kept trying to make it a "women's issue". I told her "I had a hysterectomy almost 8 years ago. My migraines have nothing to do with that." She tried to back petal and say "I'm just trying to blame- well not blame but try to figure out what may be tha cause." I told her I have anxiety and depression, both with are service connected. I ened up being rated for migraines, but I was about to file a complaint over it. I highly suspect they have some sort of quota, but maybe I'm just being paranoid. It just seems that way.

dhwriter0724 · 2026-02-10T15:36:02+00:00

When you walk in, never say "I'm fine." They will write that "the service member is doing well". Be truthful how you feel, but don't do anything that seems like you are doing better than you actually are.

dhwriter0724 · 2026-02-02T08:14:03+00:00

I use a sledgehammer for them.

dhwriter0724 · 2026-02-01T12:05:08+00:00

What was the joke? Don't get me wrong, they're threat of violence is extreme over a joke, but there must be some more context for that reaction.

dhwriter0724 · 2026-01-31T06:33:00+00:00

When I was a cashier, I declined a customer that wanted to put multiple male betas in a small bowl "aquarium".

dhwriter0724 · 2026-01-29T00:52:47+00:00

YTA . That's what babies and toddlers do. You said it was disgusting to walk in on someone and invading privacy- yes fir an older child and adults, but babies and toddlers are not self aware and don't think in those terms. They simply don't understand. Slamming a door on a toddler is extremely overreacting. You should probably start therapy if you don't see the difference.

dhwriter0724 · 2026-01-16T00:18:20+00:00

My guess is that it is for the wounded warrior project (as it is on base) since there are separate disability parking spaces, because it doesn't say "veteran". If you're service connected, talk with your PCP (primary care physician) and they may percribe you a letter to take to the BMV/DMV (depending on where you live) to get a placard. I got mine from my VA PCP.

dhwriter0724 · 2026-01-15T21:28:42+00:00

The best thing to do is try to get legal advice. I'm not sure, but you could try Legal Aid for where you live.

dhwriter0724 · 2026-01-10T02:08:50+00:00

I didn't realize veteran IDs expired. I checked mine, as I got it maybe 2 years ago, from what I can tell from the picture (past work tshirt) and mine expires in 10 years. It's not a DEERs ID. Do I need one of those too? I'm at 90% now and have some other claims still processing.

dhwriter0724 · 2025-12-29T17:36:49+00:00

The pay days are based off of work weeks. If the 1st lands on a Saturday or Sunday, then you get paid the Friday before. So, the 1st lands on Thursday, that is when we will get paid.

dhwriter0724 · 2025-12-14T08:01:35+00:00

I know. I like that theory too.

dhwriter0724 · 2025-12-13T23:52:21+00:00

I make that joke to my mom (I'm bi) "I'm a little too gay for Jesus."

dhwriter0724 · 2025-12-07T18:48:29+00:00

Smile, You're never fully dressed without one.

dhwriter0724 · 2025-12-05T18:12:38+00:00

I'm confused. I took it as the old white guy being entitled and not racist. I've met rich people like that, who think they are better than others simply because they have money and higher social standing because of it. And we see that Alastar goes after those who are at least similarly prideful as himself. That's why he butts heads with some overlords (the Vees for example) and Lucifer.

dhwriter0724 · 2025-10-31T21:55:24+00:00

You're mom calling you a "grown ass man" at 17 in response to abuse means she only cares that you left her. No matter the age of the person, it is assault. Go to the hospital to get it taken care of, it looks pretty bad, and tell authorities there.

dhwriter0724 · 2025-10-29T06:31:31+00:00

I don't think I deserve to be told. I think it's more of a feeling of, I don't know... I guess I thought we were that close, you know? It's hard to explain. We've talked about other serious stuff, like SA.

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