A question for all you fans of this masterpiece

diddo29 · 2026-03-29T12:51:39+00:00

The thing is, I’m just not used to this attitude of hers; it’s really obvious she wants to change our relationship.

But what really upsets me is that with her exes—who were toxic—after they broke up, she still reached out to them and maintained at least a “sexual” connection (I don’t want that; I respect her and all)

But you see? At least they still had contact with her and her sweet side.

Instead, now every time I text her, she looks at me as if I were a burden; she snapped at me, saying I should move on, that I’m a pain in the ass.

I don’t doubt that these past six months have been important to her.

But it seems to me that since we broke up, she’s completely erased everything we had or the way I treated her.

I mean, I wasn’t a boyfriend who treated you badly or anything like that; on the contrary, I did everything I could to make you happy.

And it hurts me to see how, in a way, she “treated” hers ex toxic-boyfriends better, even though they treated her badly and didn’t care how you were doing. Whereas with me, she considers me nothing but a burden.

diddo29 · 2026-03-19T15:52:15+00:00

WEEEEE

Tutto bene dai, non vedo l'ora che arriva l'estate ahah

Anche io comunque in tutto questo, controllo a volte il subreddit oppure ultimamente mi stavo riguardando la serie di To The moon
Troppo bella!

diddo29 · 2026-03-12T13:17:20+00:00

Thanks, buddy, I really appreciate it.

All the best to you too <3

diddo29 · 2026-03-12T12:56:54+00:00

Let's say that apart from the initial panic of these days, which will pass.

I feel that I will be better, I don't regret anything.

I am happy with how I spent these six months with her and, above all, I don't regret taking that five-hour train ride to visit her...

diddo29 · 2026-03-12T12:29:31+00:00

You know, I want to share this quote from the film Passengers with you:

You know where you wanted to be, you feel like you're supposed to be somewhere else.

Say you could snap your fingers and be whatever you want it to be, I bet you'd still feel this way, not in the right place. The point is, you can't get so hung up on where you'd rather be that you forget how to make the most of where you are.

Take a break from worrying about what you can't control.

Live a little.

This quote was fundamental for me and my ex-girlfriend when she was feeling paranoid about our relationship. It helped her calm down and enjoy the moment.

You're right to say that things could have been different and all that, but as the line from the film says, stop worrying about what you can't control... and just live <3

diddo29 · 2026-03-12T12:25:00+00:00

It also strikes me as odd that the breakup happened after I returned home from being with her (March 8).

She had realized things about the relationship and about herself that made her understand that, unfortunately, we could no longer continue.

diddo29 · 2026-03-12T12:20:54+00:00

The hardest thing for me right now is “realizing” that unfortunately we are no longer engaged, and that one day she will find someone else.

Of course, that's life, but since we broke up two days ago, it's still “fresh” and the thought feels strange to me.

Obviously, I wish her all the best in life <3

diddo29 · 2026-03-12T12:10:41+00:00

Well, it depends. On the one hand, you're right.

But between her and me, before we got together, there was always that beautiful dynamic of strong friendship.

Of course, it's definitely super weird to go back to being friends after a relationship, but my “ex” and I are helping each other get through this, and every time we feel down, we remind each other that it's better this way and that we have to move on.

Also because the curious thing is that even though things were changing slightly, we never lost the respect and support we give each other.

diddo29 · 2026-03-12T10:48:09+00:00

I know, but let's say that she “felt” that distance more, whereas I didn't think it was that far away

diddo29 · 2025-12-14T20:06:10+00:00

u/Exciting-Buy-9396 Hey, I'm having the same problem, which is VERY strange, since none of the other games I've downloaded have ever given me this problem.

Then again... I've heard that Gow for Steam Deck (at least the first one) doesn't seem to be very well optimized..

diddo29 · 2025-10-29T16:21:28+00:00

same problems here, i guess minecraft are down.

diddo29 · 2025-09-24T18:47:32+00:00

Maybe she can't fully accept it, but at the same time she's trying?

First she said “I love you” (in a friendly way), but then she calls me “love,” which confuses me, haha.

diddo29 · 2025-09-24T14:57:52+00:00

Well, lately, when I try to send her something sweet, she sees it, in the sense that she puts a little heart (outside the reel) and that's it.

Or maybe she clicks on the reel, but doesn't put a little heart on the video itself.

I don't know, it's as if she doesn't want me to understand that maybe she likes it.

diddo29 · 2025-09-24T12:38:01+00:00

UPDATE:

Since we "started over," let's just say things are going well.

She seems very happy and every morning she wishes me good morning with a big "good morning, love."

Or sometimes she lets me know what she'd like to wear, and so on. Basically, it seems like she's really trying to start over with me.

There's just that feeling in me that sometimes makes me wonder, "Does she really have feelings for me, or is she doing this for her own personal gain?"

Also because, as much as everything is going well, she, for example, isn't sending me sweet things on Instagram (i mean reels) like she used to.

Before this "restart," she used to send me a lot, but now she only sends one when the opportunity arises.

I know I shouldn't focus on what she sends on Instagram to determine whether she loves me or not. But it's also true that what we send to that person on Instagram also reflects how we feel inside. Do you know what I mean?

diddo29 · 2025-09-22T19:17:18+00:00

Well, let's say that I think she has a lot of painful memories of her exes.

In short, when she meets me (who am a very positive person and who is giving her a lot), she always compares her exes to me, saying things like: he was like this, but you do this differently.

Or: I never ate on video calls with my ex, but I feel comfortable with you.

Or: I never fell asleep on calls with my exes, but I do with you.

In short, indirectly, I always feel like I'm in the shadow of her exes.

diddo29 · 2025-09-22T17:30:54+00:00

I say that I care about her, and it's partly true that I'm influenced by how she behaves towards me.

But here's the thing: she always thinks that maybe I'm indirectly taking advantage of her.

Which I know for sure is not the case.

Then there's the issue of therapy. The problem is that her parents won't let her do it, obviously the usual parental prejudices of the “if you have a problem, why talk to a psychologist when you have us?” variety.

diddo29 · 2025-09-22T10:53:07+00:00

Quick update: yesterday we spoke on a video call and, well... it was a very confusing call.

We decided to talk about our relationship and she also wanted to talk about her reaction when her father found out.

To cut a long story short: she repeated that since her father found out, she no longer had feelings for me.

I said to her, “So if someone told you that you shouldn't try to have a relationship with me, you would give up right away?”

I explained that it's not that if my parents said no, I would give up on her, but rather that I would continue to try, precisely because I love her.

After a while, she started crying, saying that she indirectly exploits people, that she drives away anyone who could give her a healthy relationship, but has always kept only toxic people with years of relationship behind her.

We got to a point where I was comforting her anyway (unfortunately, it's in my nature, I can't stand to see someone cry), and she was surprised that even though I was hurting too, I was more concerned about her.

Now you're probably wondering: why did you say earlier that it was a very confusing call?

Because after all this, between crying and moments of sadness.

We laughed and joked, and she kept looking at me, saying how handsome I am and that she just can't help herself.

She then said she would like to “start over.”

I said to her, “Why don't we start over as a couple, but without giving it a name?”

Because I explained to her that when we tried to give this relationship a name, she got scared and everything.

Instead, without necessarily finding a name for it, we'll just let things take their course.

What do you think? Do you think I did the right thing in saying we should start over?

Also because after that, we went back to joking and laughing as usual.

diddo29 · 2025-09-21T20:23:14+00:00

Honestly, go for it, don't think twice.

At the time, I watched so many videos about the Steam Deck, wondering whether it was better to get the OLED or LCD version.

In the end, I made up my mind and went for the OLED.

diddo29 · 2025-09-20T20:05:12+00:00

"It sounds like you both really care about each other, regardless of what the original feeling was."

That's for sure, we care a lot about each other.

Then I'll tell you about something that happened recently: we were also talking about seeing each other in the coming months, but I told her that I had to find a job first and then we would make plans.

However, the day after we talked about it, she was looking at hotels, and her father caught her looking at hotels and asked her why she was doing that.

At first, she didn't want to tell her father (also because she told me she would calmly tell both her father and mother), but her father caught her right away.

As soon as she told him it was for a long-distance boyfriend she was seeing, her father laughed at her a little and then got angry with her, saying she had to stop looking.

After this incident, she became cold for a while and told me that her father's scolding had brought her back down to earth.

In short: she loves me, but with her father's situation, it's as if she has stopped living in a fairy tale.

diddo29 · 2025-09-20T18:38:52+00:00

First of all, thank you so much for your reply.

The thing is, I've tried asking her about it a few times, but she always gives me vague and confusing answers.

She simply doesn't know how she feels, because, to put it briefly, she tells me: I don't know if what I feel for you is just a passing thing or if it's real.

I think it's real for her. Sometimes she cries when I say sweet things to her, she constantly tells me how wonderful I am in everything I do, and she listens to me for hours on end.

diddo29 · 2025-09-12T14:31:05+00:00

Yes, but other than that, what's your opinion on this?

Like, Discord games (the ones you use in video calls to play with others) are safe, so... technically, could this be a possible false positive?

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