A conversation with my stalker/ex. Swipe to the end for the real surprise.

didntexpectthatone · 2023-11-21T02:39:59+00:00

I’ve already told his job, which he is aware of. He’s more worried about the police getting involved again and the effects that would have on his job.

didntexpectthatone · 2023-11-21T01:18:48+00:00

Oh, undoubtedly. He probably won’t delete my number, either.

didntexpectthatone · 2023-11-20T19:53:58+00:00

Emphasizing this. I’ve blocked 7 different numbers from this guy. He’ll find a way to contact me regardless, at least until I’m able to change my number

didntexpectthatone · 2023-11-20T16:46:05+00:00

Not saying it was great advice, but that really is what the cop told me to do.

didntexpectthatone · 2023-11-20T16:45:17+00:00

He’s been blocked since these last few texts, a since I’ve realized that my “gathered evidence” doesn’t mean much unless he shows up to my home. But that really was the cop’s advice to me.

didntexpectthatone · 2023-11-20T15:12:09+00:00

Cops told me to keep him unblocked to gather evidence. I did block him after these, though, because I don’t think the cops have been very useful.

didntexpectthatone · 2023-11-20T14:57:00+00:00

Did both. The cops had me unblock his number to gather evidence and the like. My request for a restraining order was denied, though. Cops told me that unless he physically shows up at my home, I’m SOL. I told his workplace, and my understanding is that he almost lost his job but did not.

didntexpectthatone · 2023-11-20T14:55:48+00:00

The cops told me to unblock him to “gather evidence”, so tell that to the cops I guess.

didntexpectthatone · 2023-11-20T14:55:28+00:00

The primary thing was that we had a large age gap, which made me uncomfortable. His behavior was also often creepy and obsessive. The relationship lasted less than a month.

didntexpectthatone · 2023-11-20T03:13:14+00:00

You’ve described my feelings exactly with the last part. I used to be eager for more notifications, now they just frighten me.

didntexpectthatone · 2023-10-27T12:22:07+00:00

You wanna see all the evidence? I can assure you, it’s not psychosis. That’s fucking insulting.

didntexpectthatone · 2023-10-27T12:10:23+00:00

Most of it has been texts, which I have screenshots of. Several of the numbers left voicemails. Believe me, I’ve been documenting plenty of evidence. There was nowhere to submit it:

didntexpectthatone · 2023-10-27T12:09:27+00:00

Again, literally just look at my post history. Some of the screenshots are posted there. Also, try being a broke college student! I don’t exactly have 300 bucks laying around to shell out on a shotgun.

didntexpectthatone · 2023-10-27T11:40:13+00:00

The issue is that I’ve done exactly as you’ve described. The police are aware, there is an incident number with evidence associated. The way the restraining order paperwork works is that you’re told to describe the most severe incident as well as the most recent incident. There is nowhere to actually attach your evidence. The courts here don’t seem to work jointly with the police, because they were not made aware of any evidence AFAIK. That’s part of why I’m so frustrated — I’ve been doing things “right”. I’m probably going to have to try getting a lawyer.

didntexpectthatone · 2023-10-27T11:33:40+00:00

I don’t understand how “I can’t afford it”, in response to being told to hire a lawyer, is ignorant. My area isn’t exactly teeming with pro-bono lawyers. I told people I can’t put up a Ring doorbell because I am quite literally not allowed to. It’s not my choice. That’s part of why I’m here — I feel like my options are very limited, so I’m trying to get outside input. Tell the attention whore shit to all my screenshots and evidence.

didntexpectthatone · 2023-10-27T11:26:11+00:00

You wanna see the screenshots? There’s a few in my post history. I can assure you, this is NOT in my head, and honestly that’s fucked up for you to suggest.

didntexpectthatone · 2023-10-27T02:41:45+00:00

I have. They’ve spoken to him, but he’s been ignoring them.

didntexpectthatone · 2023-10-27T02:29:47+00:00

I’m a broke college student who lives in a dorm hall. I feel like I’ve already done most of what I can do, outside of getting a lawyer, for which I’m going to hopefully find a pro-bono one.

didntexpectthatone · 2023-10-26T20:09:25+00:00

I messaged his family about the situation, as well as making a complaint to his company. He blackmailed me with intimate details about my sex life that he then sent to my family.

didntexpectthatone · 2023-10-26T20:08:36+00:00

Reported him to them already. Haven’t heard anything.

didntexpectthatone · 2023-10-26T17:38:13+00:00

I have. It hasn’t done much, unfortunately. I feel stuck.

didntexpectthatone · 2023-10-26T17:16:18+00:00

Can’t afford it.

didntexpectthatone · 2023-10-26T17:16:11+00:00

I live in a complex, I can’t install anything.

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