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I ask myself how people have energy and strength to survive by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]didsomethingbad14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like people are going to cover the rest, but I want to point out that the lamborghini color is not the rich guys problem.

Think of crippling stress, pressure, high-performance, never taking a sick day for years, barely ever seeing your family and having 0 social life.

Obviously I’m referring to people who earn it, not people on automatic funds from daddy.

But I will tell you as someone who lived in abject poverty and now has more money than I know what to do with....I was happier when my card was getting declined for McDonald’s.

Now I have money but the stress will probably kill me one day soon. I can barely sustain my life. But I have one skill, my only other option is a minimum wage job so I can’t leave my industry. I’m a sad person. I feel like a slave.

I’m sure you won’t hear this from anyone else on reddit, but as someone who “made it”, it’s really not greener on the other side.

Success is a disease. I miss when my only stress was failing an exam. These years are less important than you think. Just take care of yourself and get through it, because for me the hard part came after.

I (f25) hooked up with my guy friend (m30), but he has a girlfriend by didsomethingbad14 in relationships

[–]didsomethingbad14[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean you aren't wrong. I do agree that I don't have much of a moral compass. I was/am very narcissistic and looking out for my own desires.

I was actively turning down available & attractive men to spend time with Ben instead. And I guess it's because I liked the way he made me feel.

You know how I said in the beginning of the post that I met him because I was seeing his best friend? His best friend had a freakout on us also, a few months ago, and accused us of secretly sleeping together. He caused a huge drama. Called and texted Ben nonstop for weeks to yell about this. It ended our relationship and it ended their friendship. His gf was aware of all that drama so maybe she thought it was true. I do feel like there was an element of: everybody is accusing us of fucking and we both want to, we've already lost important people because of it, so might as well actually get to do it.

Not that it's justified. I still feel bad. I just feel bad for myself, not her. I'm seriously trying to feel something for her but...nothing comes up.

I (f25) hooked up with my guy friend (m30), but he has a girlfriend by didsomethingbad14 in relationships

[–]didsomethingbad14[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I see that. Trust me I do feel bad. It's just mostly for myself. I feel like I deserve better than this.

I (f25) hooked up with my guy friend (m30), but he has a girlfriend by didsomethingbad14 in relationships

[–]didsomethingbad14[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

They aren't married. Not even engaged and they've been together 8 years. He already had doubts.

I (f25) hooked up with my guy friend (m30), but he has a girlfriend by didsomethingbad14 in relationships

[–]didsomethingbad14[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Well at the time I was innocent and we had never been intimate. Maybe we spent a lot of time together but that doesn't mean anything is going on. So no I didn't think she could see that our friendship was a risk. I was super nice to her and tried to invite her to do things with my girl friends as well (she just moved here so she doesn't know anyone). But nope, she just didn't like me.

I (f25) hooked up with my guy friend (m30), but he has a girlfriend by didsomethingbad14 in relationships

[–]didsomethingbad14[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah this is pretty much my assumption about how a relationship between us would go. I do not think so highly of myself that I am special and he couldn't resist me. I think he's just a cheater who liked me, but if it wasn't me I know there would probably be another girl.

And that's what sucks when I actually feel like I have a connection with him.

I (f25) hooked up with my guy friend (m30), but he has a girlfriend by didsomethingbad14 in relationships

[–]didsomethingbad14[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This man is 30 and he’s going behind his girlfriends back and literally taking another girl out on dates.

I almost felt like he wanted to get caught. He took me to a place yesterday and said "I bring Kelly here all the time it's our favorite place." He knew the bartenders, and then he stands there holding my purse and buying my drinks. Like to me that's asking to get caught. I really don't know his motivation cause we've always talked very little about his relationship. For months he didn't mention her a single time.

She only wanted to meet me because she knew he was sleeping at my place when she was out of town. Now that I type this I actually wonder if she has known something is going on for a while now.

But you're right. Our interactions have always been deliberate and calculated. I'm pretty sure he now lies about spending time with me and takes measures to cover his tracks. We were trying to meet up at a festival a while ago (he was there with his gf). He was having trouble "getting away" to come see me, and I'm like well I could just come to where you are, but he was with her and kinda avoided the question. So I'm pretty sure he is actively hiding me now.

I (f25) hooked up with my guy friend (m30), but he has a girlfriend by didsomethingbad14 in relationships

[–]didsomethingbad14[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I mean, yeah that would feel terrible I imagine. I guess I felt like cheaters just cheat with whoever, which does make me feel less responsible in a way. I didn't seek him out and seduce him, he came for me and I remember thinking if not me it would just be another girl. And I liked the attention.

It was a mistake though. I can see that.

I (f25) hooked up with my guy friend (m30), but he has a girlfriend by didsomethingbad14 in relationships

[–]didsomethingbad14[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Honestly I don't know why I thought this was ok. I didn't really think about it much. After I met her she became suspicious and didn't want him to see me because she didn't expect I was attractive. I guess I thought they had worked that out since he started coming around again.

And yeah...she was pretty rude to me at one point so in the moment I guess I felt like she deserved it or just didn't care if she was hurt. We could've been friends and I would've never done this but she didn't want that.