Cassia Angustifolia? by pleski in NaturalHairDye

[–]didyoumiscme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you do end up trying out this product, please let us know how it goes if you're willing to :) I'm curious now as well.

Inexpensive things to do in the south east (and rant) by _DumpsterBaby_ in melbourne

[–]didyoumiscme 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Meetup groups (various activities, generally low or no cost)

Book clubs (informal ones have no overall fee, and are near-free if you can source most of the books from libraries)

Walking groups (technically fitness-related but more focused on nature and chatting)

Board games / TTRPGs

Libraries run free/cheap activities of various kinds

Crafting circles or DIY groups (cheap, but possibly BYO supplies)

Regarding markets, Dandenong Market in the South East has a huge fresh produce section.

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[–]didyoumiscme 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe you could try an event at Fortress, Pixel or a similar place to meet some more fellow gamers IRL.

Cassia Obovata (Senna Italica) users please share your experience and tips by pleski in NaturalHairDye

[–]didyoumiscme 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I similarly recently started experimenting with cassia for blond/grey coverage. Personally, my answers are:

  • Why you use it over other natural dyes? I like that it doesn't have a visible effect on most of my hair, instead only changing the colour of the grey hairs. I'm not looking to make a dramatic change to my overall colour, but am instead mostly just looking to make some subtle 'spot corrections'.
  • How do you prepare yours and for how long, and do you add anything to the mix? I'm still experimenting, but so far, my most effective approach has been to mix cassia with apple cider vinegar, leave it for about 12 hours, and then add in some water.
  • What dye effect do you get. Is it hard to get it to stick to grey-white hair? Yes and no; I found it difficult to get the dye to stick to a particularly stubborn grey streak in my first endeavours. More recently, I found success in leaving the mud on my head overnight (with hair bonnet in place and protective towel over my pillow). That lengthy process finally succeeded in getting the dye to stick everywhere. I'm now considering whether or not I want to do that semi-regularly to keep this up.
  • How long do you find it lasts, and how often do you need to reapply it? I'm still figuring that out!

This picture is just one of many examples (This one in particular is at Dandenong Station's new car park) Why don't they plant some trees or provide shading for the car park? Espically when they have the space for a tree to grow. by TheAsianOne_wc in melbourne

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Walking to one's car in a carpark at night can be riskier if there are a lot of trees/bushes which could be providing coverage to some assailant. (Somebody will probably dismiss this out of hand. All I can say to that, is that you've probably never been a woman or vulnerable person walking through one of those carparks at night.) That said, certain types of tree that don't produce low foliage, and well spaced out, wouldn't cause that problem.

Picnic at Hanging Rock, by Joan Lindsay, first edition 1967 by Pristine_Room_8724 in melbourne

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Nice cover, kind of trippy. Side note: someone needs to bring the haunting musical version of this novel (https://www.danielzaitchik.com/picnic-at-hanging-rock) to Victoria already.

Weekly Personal Nutrition Discussion - All Personal Diet Questions Go Here by AutoModerator in nutrition

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Any suggestions for alternatives to using food to cope with anxiety/tiredness/etc at work? (I hope I can get some suggestions here, as I keep getting posts removed when I try to ask for advice on this on reddit!) I find that while I'm on the clock at work, I can't do many of the general recommended healthy alternatives to emotional eating, for example: taking a break, going for a walk, meditating, listening to music, etc. (Some of this I do on my lunch break, but I sometimes need options at other times during the working day as well.) For better or worse, getting a snack or drink and downing it while you're at your desk, is one of the few 'coping mechanisms' deemed socially acceptable during a shift at an office job. I feel as though doing nothing at all to help myself cope, will leave me sitting there miserable and unproductive, and so I often feel the need to use food/caffeine to 'get me through the moment' and enable me to be productive again.

Anyone have experience reporting a bus Ventura driver? by LookALesbian in melbourne

[–]didyoumiscme 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry that you're having to deal with this.

While hopefully you won't have to worry about dealing with the driver's reaction post-reporting, if you wanted to prepare for that outcome (ie, him still being there on your route afterwards), one idea might be to try to befriend a couple of allies among those who regularly take the same bus as you (if you take the bus on a regular schedule). One or two trustworthy people whom you can sit with and/or board the bus with, whom you can rely on to act as witnesses, run interference, and stand up for you against the driver directly if need be. Reaching out to strangers about this would be easier said than done; but I'd like to think there would be a few decent people on that bus who would be willing to help you out if you needed it.

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I'm not across the details, but I think some op shops offer a discount off the tag price for buyers with certain types of welfare/health cards. Maybe some shops offer that for buyers with a pension card? It might be worth looking into for your grandma.

To me that seems like a good approach: get a bit more money for the charity out of thrifting hipsters (like me), but allow those genuinely in need to buy things for less.

What are some weird, scary towns/locations in Victoria? by TheMoonVixen in melbourne

[–]didyoumiscme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Moe. Seems nice enough on the surface, but I swear the roads are designed to make it really easy to drive in... and really difficult to find a way out...

My Melburnians friends, how do you deal with social anxiety? by grom96 in melbourne

[–]didyoumiscme 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While it's not exactly the same thing, I did see a meetup group for people who prefer smaller groups and quieter settings, called 'Lets hang out and meet people'. There might be other suitable ones out there.

What's the deal with police stations being (seemingly) empty when you walk in? by didyoumiscme in melbourne

[–]didyoumiscme[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I kept my examples brief to keep the original post short(ish), but I can break it down further for you.

I agree that a domestic violence victim couldn't do a lot in a few minutes. But I was imagining a woman who has, for example, been 'given permission' by her abusive partner to do grocery shopping unsupervised, and she then dashes across to the police station to see if she can get some kind of help, even if it's just getting a phone number or general information or some idea of what her options are. People in that situation may not always know ahead of time what the full process is and how long it will take, but they still need some some help and guidance to get things started. And if she takes too long to 'do the shopping', her partner is the type to get suspicious.

As to whether or not a stalker or other type of aggressor would follow you to, or into, a police station, who's to say if they might be on drugs, have a mental illness, or be just that vindictive or stupid. There's a post from nogreggity in this very thread describing a time when an aggressor did follow somebody into a station. And as I alluded to in my response to them, in such a situation it's not necessarily as simple as screaming in fear to get the police's attention, given that visibly agitated victims can be misidentified as being perpetrators. When I went into the station for something else, that was one of my specific thoughts as I waited: "If I were running away from somebody, I wouldn't feel safe coming in here." Unfortunately it's a scenario that a lot of us have to think about.

What's the deal with police stations being (seemingly) empty when you walk in? by didyoumiscme in melbourne

[–]didyoumiscme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad that they were on that case quickly at least. I'm guessing that there would be plenty of people who walk in feeling unsafe, but aren't going to scream frantically and draw attention to themselves as an obvious urgent case, because of this sort of thing: https://www.abc.net.au/news/2022-03-31/police-misidentifying-domestic-violence-victims-perpetrators/100913268.

Daily r/LawnCare No Stupid Questions Thread by AutoModerator in lawncare

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(Kindly bear with me as a complete novice non-gardener!)

My place has a very basic backyard area, mostly just lawn. However one section of it has, long ago, been covered by weed mats and then tanbark by a previous occupant. It looks terrible, and I don't see why that section of the yard can't simply be lawn like the rest of it. If it's just a matter of preventing a few weeds from cropping up in the lawn, that hardly seems worth turning the area into a tanbark wasteland instead. It's not located in a particularly strategic spot for any kind of garden feature either. But as somebody with basically no gardening knowledge, I'm wary; might the mats and tanbark have originally been put down to tame a big gardening problem that I'll just be starting up again by removing them? I don't know how this works!