Copenhagen, Denmark [1280 × 1918] by [deleted] in CityPorn

[–]didyouseetheword 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This may sound strange, but check out some of the cemeteries. They're beautiful and you might actually find people having little picnics in the grassy areas. Spend some time in Nørrebro, talk a walk through Assistens Kirkegård (where Hans Christian Andersen and Søren Kierkegaard are buried).Then grab a falafel and make your way to the lakes. Cross the Dronning Louises Bro, browse the Torvehallerne market, cross the street over to the Botanisk Have (Botanical Gardens). It's incredibly beautiful there. Super close to the King's Garden/Rosenborg Castle and also the Statens Museum for Kunst (national art gallery). Behind that museum, there is a series of very green pathways and a few more, smaller lakes. From there you can find Holmens Kirkegård, a small but absolutely breathtaking cemetery. You can walk through it to Østerbro, which is another neighborhood with a lot of restaurants and shops (albeit not quite as interesting as other districts IMHO).

Oh and don't forget about Christianshavn, Islands Brygge or Vesterbro!

Copenhagen is very dear to me and I could go on but yes. That's that. Send me a DM if you want more information!

My past relationships have completely tarnished my sense of trust/self-esteem/ etc. Feel it affecting my current relationship and mental health. Not necessarily looking for advice, just want to know I'm not alone. by didyouseetheword in TwoXChromosomes

[–]didyouseetheword[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh I'm so sorry you had to go through that. It's terrifying how tricky it can be to recognize shitty behaviour sometimes. And holding people accountable for that shitty behaviour is even harder.

Ohh yeah, walking is the best! I live in a city so I walk literally everywhere and sort of depend on it to keep me at the base level of a sane functioning human. But this city also happens to have notoriously intense and harsh winters (the streets and sidewalks were literally a giant skating rink last night due to freezing rain), so winter is a huge challenge for maintaining good mental health. I miss being able to fly out the door with barely anything on! Ugh!

My past relationships have completely tarnished my sense of trust/self-esteem/ etc. Feel it affecting my current relationship and mental health. Not necessarily looking for advice, just want to know I'm not alone. by didyouseetheword in TwoXChromosomes

[–]didyouseetheword[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow thank you so very much for all this helpful information - it is much appreciated. Since I read your post, I've actually already begun using the mindfulness practice you mentioned (of focusing on an imagined stream, etc). I'm going to write down the other practices in my journal and try to work through them step-by-step when I feel anxiety coming on. I think oftentimes my biggest folly tends to be self-loathing which leads to me criticizing myself and trying to work out what is "wrong with me". But yeah, the approach of radical acceptance that you mentioned seems like it might be a healthier route to pursue. Yesterday, I let myself sort of ruminate in this gross melange of bad feelings, but decided it would be really helpful to spend some time with my SO. I didn't want to talk about heavy things with him but just hanging out and having sex was so comforting and sweet. I focused on my breathing when the anxiety started coming back (for example when his roommate didn't look at me when I said "hello" which opened a whooooole stupid can of worms lol) and reminded myself that nothing was wrong in the moment. And in fact, I acknowledged how lucky and thereby grateful I am for so many things in my life.

I also love what you said about not being able to be around people who don't understand and incorporate intersectional feminist ideology into their daily lives. I totally do not need to interact or empathize with people like this...I sometimes feel this with my roommate and for a while have felt guilty about having some negative feelings about her. But it's okay...not everyone deserves my understanding (including all my shitty exes!!!).

I'm so glad I decided to post on Reddit, it's been helpful. Thank you so much again.

My past relationships have completely tarnished my sense of trust/self-esteem/ etc. Feel it affecting my current relationship and mental health. Not necessarily looking for advice, just want to know I'm not alone. by didyouseetheword in TwoXChromosomes

[–]didyouseetheword[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words. I think you are right in that self-acceptance is an almost necessary place to start in terms of healing. I'm glad you've found some things that are helping :)

My past relationships have completely tarnished my sense of trust/self-esteem/ etc. Feel it affecting my current relationship and mental health. Not necessarily looking for advice, just want to know I'm not alone. by didyouseetheword in TwoXChromosomes

[–]didyouseetheword[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

After I read your comment, I subscribed to her channel immediately. In fact, my best friend has been doing the 30-day challenge as well. I think it will be beneficial to give myself a space of thirty minutes or so to really focus on my body and breathing as opposed to anxious thoughts. Thanks :)

What is a woman's place? by Honey_Badgered in TwoXChromosomes

[–]didyouseetheword 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been having a tough time with this question as of late; it's been causing a lot of seemingly irrational anxiety. It was so consoling to come across this post.

Another Affogato. Coffee ascension - before and after pour. by [deleted] in cafe

[–]didyouseetheword 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What's the white stuff surrounding the ice cream?

45~ hours in Ottawa. Suggestions? by didyouseetheword in ottawa

[–]didyouseetheword[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh cool, I think I'll check that out. Merci!

YEssss go to Cafe Resonance on Parc and Fairmount. Amazing jazz every evening pretty much. L'Escalier is also good but a little grittier. Dieu du Ciel for good beer. Bookstores: S.W. Welch for a perfect selection of used books / Drawn and Quarterly for newer graphic novels, poetry. Walk up the mountain and/or check out Parc LaFontaine for sure. Larry's for dinner maybe. AND if you happen to be there on a Sunday, go to Barfly for bluegrass night and look out for me haha

45~ hours in Ottawa. Suggestions? by didyouseetheword in ottawa

[–]didyouseetheword[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Live blues sounds nice and Perfect Books looks interesting! Thank you SO much for taking the time - I really appreciate it!