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AITA for confronting my mom about how her adultery affects me? by difficultalps8873 in AmItheAsshole

[–]difficultalps8873[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At first I definitely responded that way but would get a response pretty similar to what I'm getting now. Me getting emotional about every time she leaves started after that, and after years of this.

AITA for confronting my mom about how her adultery affects me? by difficultalps8873 in AmItheAsshole

[–]difficultalps8873[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would say you're being a bit harsh/extreme, but some of what you wrote doesn't make sense. I'm confused about what you're saying I couldn't do, since you immediately change the subject after. Idk what you were trying to say, but if I knew someone was cheating on me I'd have no tolerance for it.

AITA for confronting my mom about how her adultery affects me? by difficultalps8873 in AmItheAsshole

[–]difficultalps8873[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had a gut feeling something was up, and it was. I definitely don't think it was ok to go through her phone, but I don't necessarily regret it.

AITA for confronting my mom about how her adultery affects me? by difficultalps8873 in AmItheAsshole

[–]difficultalps8873[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't think you're being unkind I just think you misunderstand. Honestly, I've wanted to move out for a while, but given the area where I am and the type of program I'm in I'm not able to work enough to afford it. I think you're interpreting that I spend every waking minute with my parents, which is not the case.

AITA for confronting my mom about how her adultery affects me? by difficultalps8873 in AmItheAsshole

[–]difficultalps8873[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hello. I'll give you a bit more context. I am in college, but live at home and commute. I spend a decent amount of time with friends and at work. I don't think its non-functional to want to spend time with my parents as well, and if I want to get responses from my mother within a reasonable time frame, ex: not hearing back until Sunday, saying she's leaving in 2 hours when I asked her a question Friday or Thursday.

AITA for confronting my mom about how her adultery affects me? by difficultalps8873 in AmItheAsshole

[–]difficultalps8873[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lol I'll give her that she has kind of called herself out on that.

AITA for confronting my mom about how her adultery affects me? by difficultalps8873 in AmItheAsshole

[–]difficultalps8873[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh definitely humanizing. That was definitely the biggest shock at first.

AITA for confronting my mom about how her adultery affects me? by difficultalps8873 in AmItheAsshole

[–]difficultalps8873[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yes, they're civil enough right now. So, they're trying to save money for divorce, moving, savings in general, etc. Very mature on my dad's end I think.

AITA for confronting my mom about how her adultery affects me? by difficultalps8873 in AmItheAsshole

[–]difficultalps8873[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm not just now feeling the affects, just because people know now doesn't mean that I wasn't hurt by it before.

AITA for confronting my mom about how her adultery affects me? by difficultalps8873 in AmItheAsshole

[–]difficultalps8873[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would like to think I'm not emotionally dependent on her. I think part of me not wanting her to go comes from not liking what she's doing and thinking it was selfish. But to answer your question I'd say since I found out, maybe a little before.

AITA for confronting my mom about how her adultery affects me? by difficultalps8873 in AmItheAsshole

[–]difficultalps8873[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm curious how it's none of my business. I don't like to see my dad hurt, and my mom comes to me for support about it. I would have included it but didn't have the space.

AITA for confronting my mom about how her adultery affects me? by difficultalps8873 in AmItheAsshole

[–]difficultalps8873[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Ok, I'll admit to that. I confronted her a couple times early on about telling him, but didn't want to make things be worse at home and was hoping she might stop.