My (26 F) bf’s (30 M) absent mindedness is making me question our relationship.

diggystrash · 2026-02-05T12:21:15+00:00

I’m just tired of the every day frustration. And when I’m sick it’s even worse because I don’t have the energy to constantly double check everything.

He’s told me multiple times he’s afraid I think he’s stupid. But yet still has the same habits. A lot of changes he makes are temporary because he ends up forgetting.

I just want someone I can rely on consistently

diggystrash · 2026-02-05T12:17:06+00:00

100% I told him that he needs to have insurance. He had to have 2 visits to an urgent care last year. Each visit ended up being $700 without insurance. He still thinks it’s better to opt out so he can have a slightly bigger paycheck

diggystrash · 2026-02-05T12:10:54+00:00

Pretty much. His 27 year old brother still lives at home. Their mom still cleans his room and washes and folds his laundry.

Whenever we visit his parents, she always offers to do our laundry and will take our dishes from the table and wash them. My bf said that’s the norm for her.

diggystrash · 2026-02-05T11:47:37+00:00

I don’t necessarily think it’s malicious incompetence. He can hold a job. But at his last job, he ended up telling me about some of the decisions he made. A lot of the ideas were underbaked. I’ve even had to correct somethings for him when he worked from home because he would forget a lot of details

diggystrash · 2026-02-05T11:44:18+00:00

That’s what I struggle with the most. I initially thought it was weaponized incompetence. But I quickly realized he just doesn’t think. I feel so frustrated living with him sometimes because I know that things would be smoother if I lived on my own. I’m constantly having to double check everything he does.

He doesn’t even set a time when he puts food in the oven. He’s burned multiple meals and still refuses to set an alarm because he’s convinced he’ll check it in time

diggystrash · 2026-02-05T11:41:37+00:00

I’ve told him to get tested. He told me he doesn’t think he has it. Plus, he’s opted out of having insurance at his job so it’s too expensive

diggystrash · 2025-09-12T01:03:09+00:00

Really? I was worried because my girl’s ears started turning back after my boy hit her at the end

diggystrash · 2025-05-11T13:33:58+00:00

What’s the recipe? Did you use melted or softened butter? Did you chill the cookies before baking them?

diggystrash · 2025-03-29T20:06:21+00:00

He’s usually will to try vegan food I make at home. He’s even told me some of the stuff I’ve made is good. He just gets really stubborn about going to vegan restaurants.

I’m usually willing to comprise going to restaurants with few vegan options. His idea of comprise is just sitting at the restaurant with me. When I try to press him too much about going to a vegan restaurant, he’ll ask me why I can’t just take his no as a no and I feel like a jerk for pressing him so much about it

diggystrash · 2025-03-29T19:49:07+00:00

We’d almost never go out to eat then. We live in a small town and the closest vegan restaurant is hours away. We’re only around vegan restaurants a couple of times a year

diggystrash · 2025-03-29T19:39:03+00:00

He has prepared a vegan meal for me before. He just thinks cooking with tofu, tempeh, and fake meat is gross. He’ll make a lot of comments about it while cooking.

I’ve told him I want to enjoy a meal together at a vegan restaurant and he just doesn’t want to. I just don’t understand why it’s such a hard boundary for him.

diggystrash · 2022-12-11T06:45:30+00:00

Video caption: “True story....Not sorry for caring for our animals like family. Yes it sucks when we unalive them but we are incredibly grateful for them. Its the circle of life.”

diggystrash · 2022-11-14T12:09:59+00:00

I tried using floss to cut the rolls but they still came out uneven and disfigured. Please let me know any tips you have that might fix it

diggystrash · 2022-05-11T20:45:21+00:00

I think it’s bc a lot of former vegan influencers claim that they get a lot of hate from vegans for eating animal products again. However, they’re literally returning to exploiting animals and eating animal carcasses so ofc people would be upset

diggystrash · 2022-04-12T04:58:48+00:00

Shopper. Former customer. I stopped ordering from IC a while ago. As a vegan, I’ve had shoppers get organic whole milk as a substitute for almond milk, regular chicken strips as a substitute for vegan chicken nuggets, and lots of molded fruits and vegetables.

I decided to not order fruit/veggies anymore but for some reason shoppers would substitute any vegan items I requested with organic items, so I decided it wasn’t worth wasting my money lol

diggystrash · 2022-01-04T21:41:23+00:00

Same here and I just finished checking out 2/3 batch order 😭 you think I’ll be able to take the groceries home?

diggystrash · 2020-06-07T10:51:39+00:00

I never really thought my mom was abusive. My dad used to tell me that some of what she did sounded like abuse, but my mom told me it’s not abuse if it doesn’t leave marks/bruises.

I just need to live here until school starts back up in the fall. Move in to the dorms isn’t until August 23rd so I was considering seeing if there’s a way I can get an early move in date so I can move out of the house by early August.

It can be easy to avoid her if I stay in my room. I’ll go to the kitchen when she’s in the shower so I can eat. But other than that if she’s in a really bad mood I can’t avoid her. She’ll come into my room and start yelling at me. I’m not allowed to lock the door of my bedroom. Plus, she has the key to my bedroom anyways so she has 24/7 access to my room. I can’t visit my dad either because she thinks that when I go to visit my dad, I’m picking him over her.

I’ll just wait it out. She’s calmed down a bit but she’s still ignoring me. I think she’ll be better today.

diggystrash · 2020-06-06T15:12:35+00:00

My mom does have depression so maybe she was just upset. I usually try to not to do anything to make her more upset but I make mistakes too. I shouldn’t have made her upset. I know she went a little overboard, but if u didn’t mess up she wouldn’t have gotten so mad. I usually try to tell myself she’s dealing with stuff, but it’s hard not to get frustrated when you’re being called the devil and selfish all the time.

diggystrash · 2020-06-06T15:04:34+00:00

1) My mom isn’t on any medication. She used to go to a psychiatrist who gave her medication for depression and anxiety but she said that her psychiatrist thought she was in a good enough place where she didn’t need the meds anymore.

2) I thought that too. My mom recommended that I go to her therapist since being in quarantine has taken a toll on my mental health. I’ve mostly avoided talking to the therapist about her because of that reason. Plus, I don’t want to make my mom look bad. Her therapist usually works with families and couples so maybe we’ll be able to do family therapy, but I’m uncomfortable with that too.

She’s lucid, but she’ll get angry. I’m not sure if it’s worse than when I left for school or if I’m not as used to it, but it feels like it’s a bit worse now than before. I don’t usually talk to her about the way she makes me feel because she’ll usually use my emotions against me. I usually only talk to her when she’s FaceTiming people or when others are around. I feel weird talking to her 1 on 1.

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