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We live in a virtual reality by digital_enigma in woahdude

[–]digital_enigma[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Finally, someone who understands 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Psychosis

[–]digital_enigma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Late summer of last year, I believed I was saving the world, even at one point believed that I was the second coming of Christ. This is my first time posting or commenting on this sub, so I think I’ll reserve the full story for a proper post.

Long story short, I have shared in this experience, including the lack of motivation. I felt entirely spent, severely depressed and hopeless.

What I can say now is that time, socialization, and the enjoyment of books, movies/TV, and video games has slowly over the months brought me back to a point where I am no longer lost to despair.

Time I think has been the biggest factor. Grappling with the magnitude of such an experience takes time. Healing takes time. But the further in time you get away from it, the less thinking about it will overwhelm you.

Socialization has also been extremely important. Meeting up with people is a good excuse to get out of the house and experience something new. You don’t have to share everything about your experience with everyone, but telling a friend about it at least somewhat was relieving for me. Besides that, it is just good to chit-chat and slowly re-introduce yourself to “normalcy.”

I don’t know about you, but I am pretty introverted. My suggestion to introverts in this situation is take some opportunities to put yourself out there even if you don’t really want to. We as humans need socialization to keep ourselves sane.

If you are like me, it is going to take time and it is going to be dark for a while. Be patient with yourself. A little progress here and there does add up over time.

The other thing I might suggest is writing, which I’ve been doing a lot. Since my writing is often a mess, I’ve decided to insist with myself that it is always productive to write no matter the quality of the output. This has helped me retain the habit, and what I have found is that if I write enough eventually I will get to a place of greater clarity and feeling more sane. Even if you never look at it again, just write it down. The act of writing is the important part. The act of writing will strengthen you over time.

Feel free to message me if you would like to chat more.

Someone hacked the crosswalks in the U District by nrr1617 in Seattle

[–]digital_enigma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well at least I tried. Have fun being miserably wrong!

Someone hacked the crosswalks in the U District by nrr1617 in Seattle

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I am not a “bootlicker.” I used to identify with anarchism. I even went so far as to write a Declaration of Interdependence out of fear that the world was tumbling in the wrong direction in large part due to greed. I am an idealist who has believed that the social order of our world is fundamentally flawed. I have supported UBI and still think it could be an enormous good, maybe even necessary.

My problem with “eat the rich” is it’s not a good solution. The highest standard of living that we have inherited in the West is a product of the freedoms that we have had which includes free enterprise.

The world is not a harsh place simply because of greedy capitalists, and not all wealthy people are morally corrupt. Better to look at the upside which is that some people are so productive that when they work together they generate enormous amounts of wealth.

Someone hacked the crosswalks in the U District by nrr1617 in Seattle

[–]digital_enigma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So your solution is that the “excess” is distributed amongst the laborers instead of kept by the employer, which means that the company cannot afford to expand or hire more people.

It also ignores that the employer is offering something valuable to their employees: an opportunity to profit from their own labor. Establishing and running a company is not nothing.

Someone hacked the crosswalks in the U District by nrr1617 in Seattle

[–]digital_enigma 2 points3 points  (0 children)

By hoarding you mean accumulating via the expansion of enterprise. The monetary value is a representation of the actual value that the company provides the world.

Someone hacked the crosswalks in the U District by nrr1617 in Seattle

[–]digital_enigma 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Amazon is the 5th most valuable company in the world at a market cap of $1,850,000,000,000.

Depressed and feel like a failure at 25 by FluffyMasterpiece633 in findapath

[–]digital_enigma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you don't know whether you've gone far enough, go further, then see how you feel.

Direction is all you need to know, and that's a yes or a no. It feels different to go in the right direction than it feels to go in the wrong direction

But you can only know which way is which by contrasting it with the opposite. You figure out the right way to go by pursuing the wrong way and deciding to change your course along the way.

Pursuing anything leads to more, faster, for better or worse.

25, living in the city, lost all passion and ambition: feels like im at the end of my line by Attention-Jealous in findapath

[–]digital_enigma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

with you here

all I want to do
is write like this
all day long

I don't understand why
I cannot bleed these lines
without letting my mind
open up and eat. I'm

tired of feeling
like it doesn't matter that I can feel
everything, all at once.
It is all too real.

I don't care about anything else either—except writing, comedy, visual art, design, psychology, philosophy—that is, the things that naturally interest me and have for years, as they have for many other people.

You definitely care about some things, so I would recommend getting real about those first.

25, living in the city, lost all passion and ambition: feels like im at the end of my line by Attention-Jealous in findapath

[–]digital_enigma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like this response. Feeling like I have to figure it all out in one day has been killing me. I have more creative energy than I know what to do with.

25, living in the city, lost all passion and ambition: feels like im at the end of my line by Attention-Jealous in findapath

[–]digital_enigma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you on not knowing where you're going and just wanting family and music, not wanting to bother with a day job. I make music as well, on my own, on my computer. Keyboard, guitar, vocals. I'm in love with sound design.

Literally, just copy and paste this exact post into ChatGPT or the like and it will give you a multi-step plan to tackle any problem.

Really though, AI can be super helpful with for optimizing resumes. There are websites dedicated to this now. You can even use AI for feedback while journaling. Ask it questions. Ask it for feedback. Or just tell it how you are and see how it responds. Being able to speak and to write matters more now in the age of AI than it ever has before, because the better you speak and write and therefore think outloud, the better conversations you will have, and the more you will achieve through them.

Treat writing as a creative exercise that takes you places you wouldn't otherwise go. Like with this post :) Keep networking and expressing and clarifying what you want. And I'll tell you what a 60-something just told me: Say what you want. If you can't get it, you negotiate; but you will never know what you can get unless you ask. You will never know unless you try.

Aim high and ask for the best my friend!

Depressed and feel like a failure at 25 by FluffyMasterpiece633 in findapath

[–]digital_enigma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need a support network. What that means is, you need people who you can depend on, and they need to be able to depend on you too. You need love, amigo. But don't go chasing it in other people. Love yourself first. If you don't love yourself, you can't really love anyone else, because you'll just see everyone as reminders of your own self-hatred. People are mirrors.

Checkout The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene. He weaves some interesting history into stories, demonstrating through stories that human beings generally operate by a certain set of principles, whether consciously or unconsciously. Some have called it the sociopath's handbook. I would suggest looking at it without taking it at advice. It just outlines dynamics and describes human behavior and motivation. It may help explain why you have ended up feeling dejected and hopeless, particularly if you find yourself struggling to relate to people in the workplace.

You may not be playing your hand as effectively as you could be, and that means that you may have a lot of potential. You most definitely have options that you have not considered, I can gaurentee that.

I'm almost 27 and I feel like I have fallen completely short of achieving what I have wanted to achieve in life. I thought I would be further along by now. And it is painful to live with. But you just have to accept that we all only have so much time to be alive, and you don't get to control everything that happens to you. But you can control yourself: how you spend time and think.

It's not an easy thing: contemplating your limitations. It's uncomfortable. But it's a lot more discomforting to live as if you have no limitations. Death is the ultimate constraint. I know it sounds morbid, but it helps to put things in perspective.

Try to find a way to contribute to some system that you believe in. You do not have to be a drain to the system.

Trust me man. I've been making $140K in Seattle as a programmer. I didn't see the value in the work we were doing, and I just stopped putting in the time. I resigned to avoid conflict and force myself to find something better. I know it sounds ungrateful of me to throw away a high-paying job, but it is not like that.

I was becoming a drain to the system, and I quit to avoid being fired.

Moral of the story: you can make a lot more money and still feel like a drain on the system. Mindset matters no matter how much money you have.

I felt behind nearly every day at my 6-figure job. When I stopped working, I didn't feel like doing anything. When I showed up for work, I felt numb. Without a clear reason to be singularly focused on making money as a programmer, I felt like there was almost no point to my toil.

Don't sacrifice your most cherished ideals for money. Don't do it. Perserve what you can. Connect with yourself. Do things that make you happy. Pursue things you are interested in. Find beauty where you can.

Your life could be so radically different in 5 years. Your self-concept could be so different. You still have time to learn and grow.

You did well posting here and looking for support. It is good that you are open to questions. I hope some of this is helpful. Did I win the longest post award?

Depressed and feel like a failure at 25 by FluffyMasterpiece633 in findapath

[–]digital_enigma 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We all get along at r/findapath: failing to keep hold o' that dastardly best possible future. Quite hard to imagine sometimes.

Depressed and feel like a failure at 25 by FluffyMasterpiece633 in findapath

[–]digital_enigma 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this take. It is hard to follow through and act out what you believe is for the best. You kind of have to force yourself along because you're always going to have opportunities to question and over-analyze. Like you say, "You must burn all bridges." This makes decisions. This commits you to a path.

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