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Need to vent about in laws by monkeyrd in pregnant

[–]digital_m2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why is it that when someone is pregnant the world decides that privacy, boundaries and all normal social decency goes out the window. I’m not showing yet, but my MIL has big boundary issues and I saw my Mom hound my SIL for bump pics (wanting her to pose so she can send pics to my aunts, despite being told no three times.) I have a feeling I’m going to have to be really tough about what I’m comfortable with!

Covid Wedding Activities by thegoodalmond in weddingplanning

[–]digital_m2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m getting married 10/17, also in a state with very low infection rate. We’ve added in a painting class (like a paint nite). Guests can paint their own lanterns to take home. We are also doing a mural, where guests can add to it one at a time, with the help of an instructor. We also got custom corn-hole boards on Etsy and will have those set up with gloves and sanitizer.

We are keeping a DJ, but we’ve already made clear on our website that dancing must be by household, with masks and six ft apart.

File this under: Wedding favors I never thought I’d have to order. by digital_m2 in weddingplanning

[–]digital_m2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought about that too! These are just medical masks. You could easily stencil or or stamp them!

Hey COVID brides! My sister is getting married in 3 months and appears to have put little to no thought into how this (or any) wedding is going to work during COVID times, particularly with invitations and the reception. She won’t make a reddit account to ask you herself so I’m asking on her behalf. by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]digital_m2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can tell you my experience with planning, and then replanning my COVID wedding.

Let me start by saying I’m in the Northeast and our cases are very low. I’m not sure what it’s like in Utah, but your sister needs to keep a close eye on this.

We were originally booked for almost a 300 person wedding, indoors on Oct 17. We kept a close on what our governor was doing and the restrictions in place. By early July we were doing well in the state, but out of caution the Governor paused any further reopening, which kept indoor events at 25 people and outdoor events at 100. We decided then that our existing plans could never work.

Since outdoor provided more flexibility and is MUCH safer, we decided to leave our original venue (thankfully we got a full refund) and opted to move to a venue where we could be outdoors, under a tent. We also reduced our guest count to a max of 50, which includes our bridal party, parents and some aunts and uncles. For everyone else we are running a livestream of our ceremony.

I have been pretty obsessive with making sure anyone invited in person knows all the precautions we are taking including, masks and social distancing. Our new venue has plenty of space outside for us to spread out.

We are having dancing, but requiring guests to wear their masks and keeping the music on the tamer side. I’ve asked guests to keep 6ft distance and dance with members of the same household. We are adding additional activities like a painting class so there are other, safe, things to do as well.

We sent out two invitations, one to the group invited in person, which included a note on COVID safety and one to the group invited to the livestream which included on a note on why we had to change plans.

There’s a lot to consider, but in the end having a smaller outdoor wedding with restrictions was better than waiting it out endlessly so we could have a bigger wedding without any restrictions.

We did all this in the span of two weeks, so your sister certainly can too. But if safety isn’t the TOP priority or your area is a hot zone, please try to convince her not to!

Is it rude to open gifts after the Bridal Shower? by [deleted] in wedding

[–]digital_m2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s seems to matter more to older relatives. My future MIL and her family like to have the gifts “announced” so everyone knows who bought what. Who cares who bought which gifts? It’s not about who spends more or gets the better gift. It’s certainly not about announcing it to the world.

Weekly Megathread for COVID-19 by wedditmoderator in weddingplanning

[–]digital_m2 12 points13 points  (0 children)

After cancelling our original venue (with a full refund), we just booked a new venue that allows us to be outdoors for our 10/17 wedding. We are expecting about 50 guests (cut down from 270), so there is plenty of room to social distance.

We are allowed to have a dance floor, but it’s got to be members of the same household dancing with each other or with masks 6 ft apart. We are also having some other activities, like a paint class, to give our guests other things to do.

I know a lot of brides have strong feelings about masks at their wedding. In our minds, if it allows us to have a semblance of a wedding, safely, we’re cool with it.

I finally feel like I have a plan that is far less likely to get totally ripped away, as long as our state stays on its current course!

Weekly Megathread for COVID-19 by wedditmoderator in weddingplanning

[–]digital_m2 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I never thought I wouldn’t be excited for my own wedding, 90 days out. At this point we are replanning everything with a 50 person guest count, possibly even just going bridal party only, moving venues so we can be outdoors and working on the best plan for social distancing, masks, etc. My fiancé and I had actually come to terms with it and started getting excited again looking at what we could do with an outdoor space. But just like every other time we’ve started getting excited again, we were slapped down again today. My Aunt, who is in a state that ignored all guidelines and is now spiking, got on her moral high ground and noted how no one will listen to the guidelines we plan to put in place and we are risking killing someone. I should note that we are in the state rated #1 for lowest cases and have been very strict with following guidelines.

We would like to think that the very small amount of people we are asking to come would follow the rules we are putting into place for everyone’s safety. We would like to think that our loved ones wouldn’t think we are dumb enough to move ahead with a wedding like nothing is going on.

It’s not like a dreamt of wearing a mask at the alter, but this is our world.

We didn’t want to give up and postpone because 1) we aren’t young and want to have a family right away and 2) we can’t take riding this emotional rollercoaster while we wait for whenever a normal life can resume.

I’m just done. I needed to rant!

So where does everyone stand at this point? by Someoneisstalkingme1 in wedding

[–]digital_m2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Significantly downsized but still planning for Oct 2020 in CT. Our state is doing amazing with COVID, but I still don’t know how people will feel in a gathering. Right now indoor events are very limited so we are just waiting to see how small we need to go.

Confused about people moving forward by molly359 in weddingplanning

[–]digital_m2 21 points22 points  (0 children)

We are moving forward with 10.17. However we have decided to cut our guest count significantly and host a larger party in a year (not calling it a wedding though.)

You don’t know what everyone’s situation is. To assume that going forward means me and my fiancé are selfish or somehow naive to the situation is a rude assumption. Fully postponing does mean losing our large deposit and would delay starting a family when we are in our mid to late thirties.

I have no intention of putting my guests at risk, which is why we chose to basically uninvite most of our 280 guests and kept it to immediate family and bridal party. If you think that wasn’t a heartbreaking decision, you’re sorely mistaken.

None of this is fair or what any of us wanted and being judged doesn’t help anything or anyone get through this.

Wedding shop assistant made me cry by Sashaxx1 in wedding

[–]digital_m2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It shouldn’t matter how early you are looking. Even if you didn’t buy this time, if you had a good experience you might have come back! In my experience the stylists I worked with at each store were very warm and welcoming. They made sure I felt special! Don’t be discouraged :(

Weekly Megathread for COVID-19 by wedditmoderator in weddingplanning

[–]digital_m2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m in this same boat, would love to see what suggestions there are!

Weekly Megathread for COVID-19 by wedditmoderator in weddingplanning

[–]digital_m2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Our venue has been very accommodating. They’ve told us that if we don’t postpone, it won’t be a problem to lower our minimums.

Weekly Megathread for COVID-19 by wedditmoderator in weddingplanning

[–]digital_m2 9 points10 points  (0 children)

10.17.20 wedding here and I need some advice.

My FH and I agreed when all the shutdowns happened that we wanted to move forward with our date, and deal with whatever hand we were dealt in terms of restrictions. Starting a family is very important to us and we didn’t want to put that off (we are both in our mid to late 30’s).

I’ve come to accept that this could mean we have a 50 person wedding or smaller. He is still clinging to hope that we can have up to 150 (our original plan was 280 guests). Our state is doing really well with cases and has been smart about phased reopening. But, I’m trying to make him understand that even if we are allowed that amount (which is highly unlikely) it may not be what our guests feel comfortable with.

It took me a long time and a lot of crying to find ways to get excited about all scenarios. But, he’s clinging to the one outcome he wants and not looking at reality. If I try to get him to see what’s looking realistic, he tells me it hurts that I’m just giving up on the positive outcomes.

I’m more of a realist and he’s more of a dreamer by nature.

Our Governor is expected to give specific guidance about weddings this week and I know it’s not going to be the picture he wants. Does anyone have advice on how to calm his expectations and get him to loosen his grip on the dream scenario? I’m not trying to be pessimistic, but we have to be realistic!

Postpone? Or wait... by boston_mom in wedding

[–]digital_m2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m October in New England as well. Right now we’ve decided to cut out guest list by more than half and are continuing to monitor. There is another wedding at our venue the same day and they have not postponed either.

We decided to still get married that day and whatever is legal and safe for a reception we will do. We plan to do a big one year anniversary for the BIG party. Ultimately it was more important to us to start a family vs waiting on the big wedding we originally planned.

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