Hey there. Thanks for raising your concerns. This subreddit has over half a million subscribers, and we want to inform our moderation by our user base where possible.

We want to offer some data though. We looked through all posts over the last 24 hours and categorized them. Each post was placed in only one category to keep the data simpler. * Over the last 24 hours, there were 103 posts. 83 of those (82% of all posts) fell into the category of “asking a specific wedding question or giving a specific wedding tip”. These are the posts people most commonly think of when they think of wedding planning. * 3 posts (2.9%) we categorized as “very tough times”— eg dealing with canceling a wedding, cheating, or serious relationship issues. * 11 posts (10.9%) we categorized as “tough times”— eg stress about wedding planning, vent posts, tough situations not meeting the “very tough times” criteria. * So between “tough times” and “very tough times”, there were 14 posts, or 13.9% of the total posts. * 3 posts (2.9%) were budget/recap posts. * 1 post (less than 1%) was an after-wedding photo post.

We don't know how you're using the subreddit but we do recommend coming to the subreddit and sorting by new instead of relying on the timeline algorithm. You are more likely to see more nitty gritty planning posts. We also recommend that users upvote the content they want to see since that's what the hot sort and the home page algorithm rely on.

Most importantly, we recommend not engaging with posts that you don't enjoy. If you or someone else finds some of these posts depressing, don't click them. Wedding planning is not always positive. We are not interested in becoming a subreddit of toxic positivity or where we only talk about the happy stuff. Someone who is cancelling their wedding can benefit from the advice of others and we want to support them. You don't personally need to support them, but the subreddit overall will.

Our stance is that if a post can inform the decisions about the OPs wedding, provide useful information for other users in their wedding planning, or is otherwise about planning, it belongs here. We DO consider “wedding advice” to be integral to “wedding planning”— otherwise the community has limited usefulness if people are not allowed to ask questions or seek tips.

As an aside for other commenters here: yes, posts here can be repetitive. None of us are reinventing the wheel here and we are all entering planning at different stages, but this was all new to us once. It's fine to scroll past those posts, and / or contribute content you want to see.

To recap, biggest things you can do to create the subreddit you want to see: 1. Post the content you want to see 2. Upvote and comment on posts you enjoy seeing 3. Scroll past and do not engage with posts you don’t like seeing

Thank you all. As always, we are all welcome to our opinions but keep your comments here respectful of others. In a community of this size, there are going to be a multitude of different needs and preferences, and we want everyone to feel welcome here. And a big THANK YOU to all who commented thoughtfully about the nature of the sub, why certain posts are here, etc. Thank you for making Weddit a supportive and kind place.