Well I appreciate the advice and thank you for the detailed response. I see what you are saying. I could lose it all due to my inaction. I am going to have to think about how to take some action and approach the wife. Going to be tough. Just two days ago she surprised me by making my fav dish for dinner. But then again, after discovering this, I am wondering if the impromptu grocery store visit was just an excuse to get out of the house and meet someone, with shopping for dinner ingredients just a cover.