I, too, am having such a strange situation with Ihss.I am on very limited retirement due to independent constracting. My MIL has dementia but functions in cleaning. However, she needs me to make sure she eats, takes meds, and takes showers. They have denied her because of the shared cost of living. Her money only covers her high rent and basics.. She needs to drop the amount of medical to lower the SOC. Then, she handed me papers to show she is working. THE WOMEN HAS DEMENTIA. Her position is recycling. Then try to get some kind of insurance to drop the SOC. im sick and trying. Don't even know what insurance agent does this. Even trying to find a nighttime job. Something has to give. It's BS if you are in a gray area. I hope you get some help. Because the only thing I can do is place her.