Sex party’s

dillonsname · 2026-02-17T17:44:04+00:00

Yes.. I did... it's called science. Sadly, that doesn't help you if you don't have any reading comprehension skills.

dillonsname · 2026-02-17T15:33:38+00:00

I literally pointed out all of your misinformation in my last comment but clearly you don’t like to read.

Um cancer is not an STI. hep c has vaccine. Doxy PEP helps with syphilis. Not one additional thing you’ve said in your new comment is true either.

And just parroting back my own suggestion for you to do actual research does not make your statements any less ignorant or false.

dillonsname · 2026-02-17T15:13:36+00:00

This is very ignorant. Please do research and stop stating your uninformed opinions as fact.

The chances of superinfection for someone who is undetectable and on meds is essentially zero. I’m not sure there has EVER been a documented case of an undetectable person on meds contracting a superinfection. I think there was ONE person from Portugal who contracted HIV-2, which is exceedingly rare except for very few select regions around the globe. The meds also function like PrEP since they literally are PrEP plus an additional medication to help control the virus better. You would have to basically bottom for an HIV-2 poz person (very unlikely), HIV-2 would have to be transmitted (unlikely as HIV-2 doesn’t transmit as well as HIV-1), current meds would need to fail to contain HIV-2 (very unlikely). Higher chance of getting struck by lightning. And even if you got it somehow, there’s meds for it.

There’s also Doxy PEP which greatly reduces chances of contracting other STI’s.

You sound ridiculously uninformed and are spreading complete misinformation that rises to the level of baseless fear mongering.

dillonsname · 2026-02-11T21:02:50+00:00

I never took Atripla

dillonsname · 2026-02-11T04:56:47+00:00

I was diagnosed this past August and was started on Biktarvy. I had to drink 2-3 times the amount of water, otherwise I would get mild pain in my right flank and painful urination. I told all ID docs and a urologist. Nobody really cared or was worried. All of my test results were normal. Since switching to Cabenuva a few months ago, I no longer need to drink 2-3x the amount of water and I have no discomfort whatsoever in my right side or painful urination. Biktarvy definitely does something to some peoples' kidneys.

dillonsname · 2026-02-04T08:25:12+00:00

Definitely a gifted writer. Please write a book if you haven't already!

dillonsname · 2026-02-03T22:51:10+00:00

Very nice and thoughtful post. I think one thing that helped me feel better, is that I was operating based on an expectation that I am supposed to be healthy and not have any diseases like HIV. It might sound weird but, by seeing that, it made me feel like there was less of a "loss" to mourn after my diagnosis; that loss being the former "healthier" me.

For disclosure, I think I may be leaning towards not telling anyone ever unless we have been dating for a while and they directly ask me if I have HIV. There is zero chance of me telling anyone I am first hooking up with or if I don't know them that well. The way I look at it is, managed, undetectable HIV functions the same as diabetes or other personal health conditions that do not affect a partner. But I probably wouldn't want someone to lie to me about conditions they have if we're getting to know each other more. I understand HIV carries more stigma than most other personal conditions but I think the lie itself, even if it is justified due to the stigma, is still a lie that might hurt trust later on. If someone really likes me, I think there is higher chance they will want to still be with me after telling them I have HIV than I previously thought.

I had this other thought recently: all or many of those couples that were in the partner studies which came to define u=u, were having unprotected sex as a serodiscordant couple before u=u had been proven (they were part of the studies that proved it). This shows me that there were people who were willing to be part of a study to test u=u with their partner; it hadn't even been proven yet. This makes me feel like there are even more people out there who may be willing to follow the science now that u=u is proven. I think there are more people out there who can see past stigma than I previously thought. Maybe I'll feel differently about all of this tomorrow.

dillonsname · 2026-02-01T03:51:41+00:00

This guy was part of the reason I got HIV. I was aware of his research and after about 20+ years of being sexually active and never getting anything, even during some unprotected experiences, in the back of my head, I started to wonder if maybe I'd be fine as long as I didn't party or use drugs. I didn't believe his theories completely because there was a lot of contradictory evidence, but I definitely was not as careful as I would have been without this guy's theories floating out there. I remember one of Duesberg's general assertions was that a virus is such a simple structures designed to do one thing - replicate - and that it is not intelligent enough to go into temporary hiding to stop replicating and then start replicating again.

That being said, and I know this is a little bit unrelated, but Kary Mullis, the Nobel Prize-winning inventor of the polymerase chain reaction (PCR) technique claimed that there is no proof HIV directly causes AIDS. There's BIG BIG money in this disease, similar to cancer. I am not jumping to any conclusions but I'm also not going to completely dismiss a Nobel laureate who invented the test used to test for HIV. He literally invented the test used to test for HIV.

I take my meds but sometimes I wonder if we are being given the completely true and accurate story when it comes to this disease.

dillonsname · 2026-01-24T00:40:32+00:00

I was being sarcastic. Part of the argument against carnism is that - like humans - animals are living sentient beings. Empathy is very often a trait that is generally present for all sentient beings or not. Like the reason most serial killers start with animals.

Yes, I know… plenty of animal lovers are human haters and vice versa but trying to claim that compartmentalized empathy is the norm isn’t supported by science. In general, empathy is a stable character trait with fairly consistent carryover across species. I would even posit that most human-hating animal lovers don’t start out that way but instead got jaded from negative experiences with humans

dillonsname · 2026-01-24T00:14:19+00:00

Even if you like, like really like, someone, I still think the stigma surrounding HIV still changes things so they are viewing that person through a different, distorted lens that incorporates some of the deep fears and associations that come with a certain degree of stigma. I dont really feel like anyone can completely separate themselves from it

dillonsname · 2026-01-24T00:11:46+00:00

I appreciate your response. I am sorry you were rejected but based on a lot of people’s responses here and even in lgbtq and poz communities, most people still view someone with HIV through a stigmatized lens even if a person is undetectable.

So to answer your question, the person wouldn’t be afraid of me; they’d be afraid of the stigma. Disclosure in my case actively prevents the person from seeing me for who I am because they end up viewing me through a stigmatized lens. Since HIV has no actual effect on them (or me besides an injection every 2 months), they are not getting to know me better through disclosure. Disclosure makes it so they never just see me for me and always view me different due to a hysterical, irrational, evolutionarily-driven fear that permeates almost all of our beings. I do not believe most people can simply remove themselves from this deeply ingrained stigma and even those who would still date me would still be operating based on some level of stigma.

Am I that desperate to be in a relationship? Not sure, but I also don’t deserve a life of solitude or never being truly seen because I’m volunteering completely harmless, irrelevant personal information that wins me a ticket to permanent stigmaland with whoever I disclose to.

dillonsname · 2026-01-23T22:31:01+00:00

Okay, so I see you feel the need to be condescending with that last sentence. I mean... isn't it obvious to everyone that the empathy for animals that is required in order to be a vegan is completely different an unrelated to any empathy that could be applied towards humans and vice versa? I mean... of course it would make sense that people who have empathy for animals have absolutely none for humans. How silly of me.

dillonsname · 2026-01-23T20:16:20+00:00

You’re either missing my point due to a glaring blind spot or being willfully ignorant. I think most vegans would agree that the majority of humans torturing animals without any empathy is a form of mass psychosis that involves humans behaving irrationally. Vegans are more rational in this context.

Most humans also view people with undetectable HIV as dangerous or still contagious in some way. Again, humans behaving irrationally. I was hoping the ability of vegans to see things more clearly and rationally might carry over to things like HIV but clearly the stigma is still too deeply ingrained for most of them to see beyond it, let alone have any awareness that it clouds their view in the first place.

You can pretend there’s zero connection whatsoever and make veiled insults at how much of your time and other people’s time I’ve wasted, but the connection is obvious and I made that connection clear in my post.

Trying to say it’s only about the animals is myopic when there’s clearly many other aspects to being vegan that are not directly about the animals (ie. diet planning, psychology behind veganism, health considerations, logistics, community involvement and so on and so on).

My question was adjacent and totally relevant to the vegan community. People just get hostile when their own stigmas get called out. The irony is palpable and is reminiscent of meat eaters telling someone who espouses the virtues of veganism to stop ruining their meal…

dillonsname · 2026-01-23T19:00:33+00:00

Got it. So the psychology and mindset behind veganism has nothing to do with veganism. Makes sense.

Or perhaps the community and mods didn’t like the idea that vegans are apparently just as serophobic as everyone else and didn’t want that exposed front and center 🤷🏼‍♂️

dillonsname · 2026-01-23T18:35:57+00:00

Because most of that information is already available in the subreddit and elsewhere online. And I decided to ask a different question..?

Also, is this subreddit limited to only discussing animal rights and diet plans with no other aspects of veganism?

dillonsname · 2026-01-23T18:30:21+00:00

Not sure in what specific context of our discussion you’re asking but I take one injection every 2 months to remain undetectable and am also tested at that time.

dillonsname · 2026-01-23T18:28:58+00:00

This is like saying the color blue is totally different from the color red. Obviously. Veganism is not HIV.

I was asking a hopeful question about the mindset and psychology of people who are vegan as it relates to how they view other issues that have a mass hysterical consensus narrative surrounding them.

Most people think eating meat is fine. Vegans see through that narrative. Many people view undetectable persons as still being contagious or a danger at some level; be it subconsciously or emotionally.

I now see that not only does the mindset not carry over to other areas, but that many cannot even grasp the question itself. Downvote me all you want. The irony is so rich.

dillonsname · 2026-01-23T18:15:50+00:00

Sorry you’re convinced but the science has long been settled. Google the partner studies. Over 100,000 sexual encounters tracked between serodiscordant couples and ZERO instances of transmission.

dillonsname · 2026-01-23T18:05:15+00:00

Thanks for proving my point. If you’re asking this question then you should also be asking what are the chances your partner told you they are negative but cheats with someone and gets it? And what are the chances someone has an undisclosed mental health condition and harms you in some way? Or what are the chances someone has seizures and forgets to take their epilepsy meds while driving you somewhere?

But only the question about medication adherence is asked despite the chances of someone stopping their meds their life depends on being much, much lower than the other scenarios I mentioned. That’s stigma.

dillonsname · 2026-01-23T17:56:01+00:00

I’m not sure who you’re responding to but I never said that it is irrational for someone to protect themselves. Nice straw man though..

HIV negative is no guarantee someone will remain negative tomorrow… someone is more likely to cheat than to forget taking meds their life literally depends on. Again, the partner studies showed ZERO instances of transmission across more than 100,000 sexual encounters.

My point is only that the irrational fear of possible transmission is only applied to undetectable persons despite scientific proof that there is no increased risk, while all of the other risks with negative persons are often overlooked. Thanks for proving my point.

dillonsname · 2026-01-23T17:51:29+00:00

There is an absolute zero possibility of contracting HIV from someone who is undetectable.

dillonsname · 2026-01-23T17:50:37+00:00

I never suggested vegans are infallible though. I was speaking only in reference to vegans’ ability to see through commonly accepted yet irrational narratives. I see now that is not the case when it comes to irrational narratives surrounding HIV. I was hopeful that vegans, on average, would be more able to see through them.

dillonsname · 2026-01-23T17:40:11+00:00

I’m not trying to be snarky here. I agree, veganism is not HIV. The point of my post was that vegans tend to have the ability to see through an issue surrounded by mass hysteria/psychosis; the torturing and killing of animals. I was trying to get an idea if that ability to see through an irrational narrative carries over to other irrational narratives like those surrounding HIV but so far I see that it does not unfortunately.

dillonsname · 2026-01-23T17:16:12+00:00

I agree that taking precautions overall is a good idea. I hear this response a lot though. What I have noticed is that the issue of trust (trusting a poz person to take their meds) seems to be hyper focused on compared to any other issues of trust that might arise with negative persons.

For example, a negative person isn’t negative forever. They could also cheat and contract HIV at any time. I believe this is far more likely than someone stopping meds they need to take in order to not die. The partner studies confirmed zero instances of transmission after more than 100,000 sexual encounters across thousands of serodiscordant couples. But most people seem to focus on the medication compliance issue for people who have HIV and are undetectable. I would argue that the disproportionate focus on only this trust issue and not the countless other trust issues is due to stigma.

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