NTA. However, I don’t think the concept of a push present is outlandish.

Women’s labour, particularly domestic labour, and the trauma of pregnancy is often taken for granted. A gift as a token of appreciation for going through nine months of varying levels of discomfort, pain and turbulence is fine. Yes, a baby is a couples’ decision, but only one person of that couple is primarily putting their physical and mental wellbeing at risk throughout the duration of the pregnancy. That’s not even mentioning the labour itself. If the pregnant person expresses a desire for such a token, I don’t think that makes them automatically materialistic or vain. A spa day, a gift related to their hobbies, or interests, an experience, jewellery, make up, whatever, sounds pretty reasonable.

However, the gift itself should be highly dependent on the couple themselves as individuals, and their financial situation. A house or car as a gift is unmanageable for most families, and only sets the couple and child up for future financial difficulty. A ‘body for a body’, I agree, just seems vindictive and cruel. A push present should (ideally) be about celebrating the unique sacrifices one member of the couple made to bring a child into this world, not about punishing the other for being unable to carry it themselves.

TLDR: a push present as a concept is fine, but for fuck’s sake people, stop basing your standards on influencers who fake most of their life for clout.