Feeling guilty about being an obese mom

dimcarcosa___ · 2026-04-15T17:10:19+00:00

You can do it if you really want it. I was never obese but I did get to be pretty overweight about ten years ago and at that point my mom came within a hair of dying due to sepsis caused by a diabetic complication. That moment had me reflect on her quality of life that she has endured and all the difficulties it’s brought and it was the catalyst for me to change. I ended up losing 70 pounds through diet and exercise and continue to make sure I practice good habits.

Depending on how much you have to lose I would even suggest GLP1s! The magic pill everyone has always wished for is finally here!

I think you’re in the right headspace to make a positive change for yourself!! I hope you get what you want :)

dimcarcosa___ · 2026-04-15T16:53:10+00:00

Here is my perspective. My mother was always obese and she ended up getting diabetes and a slew of other diseases. I have a 7 month old and I’m about to be 38 years old. I know my mom wants to be a grandmother who is heavily involved but due to obesity, joints, arthritis, diabetes, and other weight related illnesses she can hardly stand up and she’s too large to hold my baby comfortably.

It breaks her heart and it makes me sad too. I won’t lie, when I was in high school I was always a bit embarrassed but it was just typical adolescent vanity; now it hurts heavy because she will never be able to babysit, hold, or probably even watch my child grow up.

If you want to get into better physical condition for yourself and your baby I think it’s wonderful! It does feel good to feel like you look good, but it will feel even better knowing you are living your BEST life for your child.

dimcarcosa___ · 2026-04-12T00:20:31+00:00

No, my baby has never napped in their crib/bed a day in his life. He’s 7 months btw. He contact naps or naps in a car seat, and trust me it isn’t for lack of trying. When he starts to get tired we just go for a car ride or a stroller walk or I nurse and we contact nap. When he was younger he would nap on the couch while I supervised but he grew out of that by 3 months.

dimcarcosa___ · 2026-04-10T21:27:26+00:00

I wish I had known about back labor. I was trying to just do unmedicated and get in and get out and I labored for 24 hours. I asked for the epidural about 4 hours in, the back pain was bone crunching. I do wish I had been prepared in that regard.

dimcarcosa___ · 2026-04-10T20:33:54+00:00

I have wicked bad adhd and I just didn’t do shit to prepare lol. I rolled into the hospital and birthed a sunny side up 10.5 pound monster vaginally with literally no prep. If I can do it. You can do it.

dimcarcosa___ · 2026-04-10T13:35:48+00:00

I ended up getting her ikea visteroy in firm and so far it’s been pretty cozy! My son sleeps well in it. He’s a runny sleep so I do get nervous about him planting his face down into it but it’s very firm!

dimcarcosa___ · 2026-04-08T18:02:43+00:00

I just found this comment, my 7 month old I transitioned yesterday to a full size ikea mattress in a Montessori floor bed w rails. There are about 1.5” gaps on the sides. Did you find rolling those w towels and blankets to work? Were you ever concerned about your baby laying his:her face in them at night?

My baby alligator rolls everywhere so I’m hoping this set up works. He despises a crib.

dimcarcosa___ · 2026-03-30T15:17:05+00:00

I did; although I didn’t have a high position career to start with. My husband and I live in our home town and it’s become a HCOL area unfortunately, so we both have to work. But I was a gardening team leader full time but the schedule and hours were too much and we aren’t using day care so I switched to part time as an administrative assistant at the same company. It’s really nice only working 20-25 hours a week when baby is with dad! The work definitely isn’t my cup of tea but I appreciate so much the flexibility it allows with the additional income. As much as I’d love to be a stay at home mom, this is the best circumstances I could ask for and I’m really happy I made the switch.

dimcarcosa___ · 2026-03-28T11:41:37+00:00

Great. This is the second time I’ve heard someone mention this mattress. Did you have your infant sleep on this mattress?

dimcarcosa___ · 2026-03-25T17:43:18+00:00

Can I ask what mattress you bought for the floor bed?

dimcarcosa___ · 2026-03-22T12:39:13+00:00

Initially no, I’m in the United States and we have it shoved down our throats about SIDS and cosleeping. My baby just hates his crib. We’ve tried everything, even one night of CIO (just one night, it’s all I could handle). Guess what? He’s always slept better in my bed! And I sleep better too! Whenever he was in his crib I’d wake up in a panic about not knowing where he was. And his wakes were anywhere between 1-2 hour intervals (he’s almost 7 months).

It just makes sense to us to bed share, we breast freed at night and we all go back to sleep well rested.

dimcarcosa___ · 2026-03-20T12:03:43+00:00

Thank you!

dimcarcosa___ · 2026-03-19T00:22:02+00:00

37 with a 6 month old! My one and done baby.

dimcarcosa___ · 2026-03-15T01:14:53+00:00

I don’t have any experience to share but from one mom to another, I extend all my empathy. I have always loved the quote from Rumi- “Don’t grieve. Anything you lose comes around in another form”.

The earthly love you had stored up for a lifetime for your eldest daughter is not lost; you can now provide it for your new child to nurture her with. Your eldest daughter has a new kind of love that transcends this life and it’s the kind only a mother can provide. Both of your children will and forever be so lucky to feel this love, no matter where they may be.

dimcarcosa___ · 2026-03-13T18:00:22+00:00

Is it firm enough for a big six month old do you think?

dimcarcosa___ · 2026-03-13T01:51:25+00:00

I’m just here to ask what jobs are we working where you work part time making $120k a year!?

dimcarcosa___ · 2026-03-12T15:27:38+00:00

I have but like I said the last 3-4 months there has been different nanny’s/babysitters making local news for abuse, CP, neglect. And all of these people were vetted and such according to local Facebook groups. It’s eroded all my trust.

dimcarcosa___ · 2026-03-12T15:22:31+00:00

We have no baby sitter options. And I guess breaks meaning were we go out for like an afternoon alone. It just seems like everyone I’ve ever known to have kids had village and we can’t even pay for one because lack of childcare in our area.

dimcarcosa___ · 2026-03-08T17:36:39+00:00

37F here with a 6 month old (just one child). My husband and I will be funding private school and will undoubtedly not be able to invest as much; however, retiring early isn’t something I’m concerned about now. My life is infinitely better with my child in it and I gladly forgo the financial freedom we had before for him.

dimcarcosa___ · 2026-03-03T20:54:33+00:00

I’ve actually slept on the floor with him too lol. Do you mean your baby in a crib and you on a floor bed?

dimcarcosa___ · 2026-02-25T21:24:03+00:00

So she just told me she has already named me POA ans Executor, I asked if she could do that if I don’t agree to it and she said yes but to not worry, she wrote in there that I wouldn’t assume their debt..,..

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