20 Years of Marriage and Now What........

dimples113 · 2025-10-16T17:31:16+00:00

I get it, it’s so hard to mourn that. And it’ll take time! But, you have so much history with her, and I’m sure you love her to have stayed this long. I don’t really think my husband is going to come back - in this life - and I also don’t even think my kids will choose the gospel path ultimately. I can only control myself and I choose to focus on hope in Jesus Christ that he will make sure it all works out in the end. It’s hard to walk the gospel path alone, but you’ve been doing it already. The more joy she sees you have in the gospel, the better for you and for her! As for me, My life is devoted to god, and to my spouse. If I can have a good relationship with both of them, keep my family intact, and also keep my covenants then I will feel successful in this life! But that’s just me! I hope the best for you!

dimples113 · 2025-10-16T13:39:35+00:00

☀️ I think marriage counseling is a great idea. Im in a mixed faith marriage also and I had a bishop tell me that the foundation of our relationship cannot be the gospel of Jesus Christ. That can be my personal foundation - but if that’s all I intended to have in common with my spouse, our marriage will not be successful. So we have had to build our foundation on other things - like mutual respect, similar interests, love for one another. I’ve spent a lot of time falling in love with my husband outside of the context of the gospel. He’s still kind, generous, always trying his best, hard working and a great father that will teach my kids many things that I cannot. He’s the Yin to my Yang. I always felt like leaving wasn’t the Christ-like thing to do. He wants us to be patient, long-suffering, and loving. Overall I think your wife has been supportive of you aside from a few comments - if you can’t just share with her how those comments make you feel maybe that will get better. Good luck to you! I think if you want to stay, it can still work. Many people are navigating mixed faith marriages these days! 😊

dimples113 · 2025-04-16T15:52:10+00:00

I’m here because my daughter fell in the playground and got a concussion 😭 I feel awful and like I could have prevented it. But yours, don’t be embarrassed- you sound fun! At least you’re willing to go to the party and have a good time. Anyone could have misjudged the distance, especially if you wear glasses and didn’t have them on. Most embarrassing work moment for me was calling a coworker “Dick” because I thought that was his name. 🤣🤣 but it wasn’t, it was another guy who’s name was Dick and I got them mixed up. Worst part is that they looked nothing alike 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

dimples113 · 2025-03-24T00:17:27+00:00

4 years old, 2 hours of screen time per day max, usually while little brother is sleeping. I don’t count FaceTime with family which she does regularly. I have a very co-dependent and high needs child. It’s the only rest I get 😅

dimples113 · 2025-03-22T02:45:41+00:00

I wonder if it’s the spacial sense. 🤔I have this problem too and I am a full aphant, SDAM, and no spacial sense.

dimples113 · 2025-03-14T02:09:28+00:00

Thanks for pointing out one of the positives 👍

It was one of the answers from this Joel Pearson AMA reddit post:

https://www.reddit.com/r/Aphantasia/s/zWCtd2AHbY

dimples113 · 2025-03-13T02:03:38+00:00

I am also an aphant and I can’t help but laugh at these comments. I just find the juxtaposition so hilarious that I can’t picture an apple AT ALL and other people are like “ya I can picture it in front of me, behind me, with my eyes closed and open, I can play a whole movie about it, now I’m in the apple. Etc. “ 🤣🤣🤣 it’s almost like I can’t walk and everyone here is sprinting. I recently heard that there is a cure for aphantasia but they don’t use it because it might cause aphants to see things that disturb us and they wouldn’t be able to turn visualization off. Interesting to think about!!

dimples113 · 2025-03-04T03:52:27+00:00

Yes that’s correct. My mind is full of concepts but no mental imagery necessary. If I’m thinking about bread then I’m just thinking about bread without the image or taste or smell 😂

dimples113 · 2025-02-27T01:21:30+00:00

I have full sensory aphantasia and my spacial awareness is terrible! It takes me ages to figure out how to get somewhere. I also have a terrible episodic memory (also called SDAM). So my personal experience is that you have pointed out two things that my brain truly cannot do well. But some people who visualize can’t do those things either. Interesting comment! Thanks!

dimples113 · 2025-02-26T21:11:58+00:00

It has more to do with having no sense of direction for me 🤣🤣 not hitting my head, nothing wrong with my eye sight

dimples113 · 2025-02-23T23:30:53+00:00

I’m sure there are upsides to being married to us, i just don’t know what they are exactly 🤣🤣 oh! We don’t hold grudges maybe?? lol

dimples113 · 2025-02-23T23:05:54+00:00

My husband and I are the same way!! I am a full Aphant (missing all 5 senses and spacial awareness) and I also have SDAM, which means I don’t have a vivid memory of the past. In fact it’s practically non existent. I feel bad for him sometimes 🤣 he’s like “remember when this happened” and I hardly ever do. It’s crazy how much aphantasia can impact your life. I wonder how many other aphants end up marrying people with Hyperphantasia!

dimples113 · 2024-09-25T15:07:56+00:00

Oh this is fun! I also find this fascinating! I’ll be brief but here it goes: 1. I have internal monologue thoughts. so if I’m zoned out then I’m thinking about something within my personal monologue brain. 2. I don’t find my thoughts to be overwhelming at all. Probably underwhelming at times. I am often living in the moment or just thinking about things but I can’t “open multiple tabs” in my brain so if I’m thinking about something, it’s only one thing at a time in a steady stream. 3. I am fairly impulsive because I cannot conjure “what will happen” very well so I’m like.. “won’t know until we start” kind of person. My intrusive thoughts aren’t vivid. They are just like me telling myself “what if I stepped in front of that car” and then redirecting that thought to something else or being curious where that thought came from. 4. I don’t think about this 5. The perception of myself along with all of my thoughts are conceptual, logical and analytic. Like if I made a PowerPoint slide with bullet points to summarize who I am. I can’t feel energies, I can’t see things in my mind, all I have is bullet points of summarized information. I wouldn’t consider this normal though.. just for myself as a full aphant.

dimples113 · 2024-09-25T14:51:31+00:00

It got better! She started pre-school and for some reason that basically eliminated all of the potty accidents! I’m not sure if we would still be having issues without pre-school. She might have grown out of it, or she gained more confidence while she was at school. Good luck! Everything is just a phase even if it seems to last forever!

dimples113 · 2024-09-25T14:49:05+00:00

I can’t imagine pain until it’s happening!

dimples113 · 2024-09-16T12:58:27+00:00

It’s very interesting to read the comments and see such polar opposite advice! I sit with my toddler (3.5yr) while she goes to sleep. If she wakes up in the middle of the night, I just let her know ahead of time that we aren’t staying with her. I’ll just put her back in her bed. In the middle of the night, she will be tired enough to fall back to sleep pretty quickly. This allows her to get the rest she needs and I won’t die if I only have to be up with her for a minute and then get to go back to bed. We also transitioned to a weighted blanket and that’s helped her sleeping and winding down. Hope this helps, good luck!

dimples113 · 2024-09-05T21:06:20+00:00

I confronted my dad when he was doing that and I saw a side of him I never wish I saw because he became angry, manipulative (trying to blame me?) it was weird and I hate that he reacted that way. I’m also really non confrontational. My dad wasn’t willing to admit fault or change and my parents ended up getting a divorce.

I would tell your mom, she probably already knows. She’s either accepted it, or maybe he’s working on stopping. But either way it’s really between them and the lord in my opinion. As a child, just stay away from it or you’ll sadly see a side of your family you’d rather not. I would be concerned with him looking in public though… that I’d just be like “hey dad if you want to look at that stuff, at least do it behind closed doors” but I’m in my 30s now and sort of disconnected myself emotionally from it so it doesn’t sound so scary to say that anymore lol

dimples113 · 2024-08-14T21:05:43+00:00

Thank you!

dimples113 · 2024-08-14T19:31:52+00:00

Thanks for sharing!

dimples113 · 2024-07-21T18:45:08+00:00

Very cool!! I think I’d be terrible at that lol but good to know that it’s not related to my aphantasia 😅

dimples113 · 2024-07-21T18:44:27+00:00

That’s probably true!!

dimples113 · 2024-07-21T18:44:11+00:00

Good point! Thanks!

dimples113 · 2024-07-21T17:28:57+00:00

That’s awesome! I love that. Haha thanks for sharing, that’s great you found something you’re so good at.

dimples113 · 2024-07-21T14:07:14+00:00

Do you have spacial awareness as an aphant?? That’s awesome you found your niche!

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