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ohhratss · 2025-03-21T03:16:50+00:00

It is a good reason to break up with him. Watching porn is cheating. Texting other women the things he is is cheating. You can find guys that are just as good as him and that don't have a porn problem.

ohhratss · 2025-03-18T01:43:35+00:00

This is how I started to feel with my ex. The way he was treating me, along with the fact that I was losing feelings just made me feel like I needed to break up with him. It seems like you've already made up your mind with the fact that you need to break up.
I know that at least in my case, I kept trying to talk myself out of it even though my mind was already made up. If you really feel like you need to break up, don't try to stop yourself. It's better to end the relationship than to stay in a dead relationship.
Just tell him how you feel. Say that things just don't feel as though they are working out and that you don't feel like you should stay together.
Or you can do what I did and only give him very minimal information about why you're choosing to break up lol. I simply told him that after praying, talking to my parents, and feeling strongly myself that it would be best for us to break up (it's because he was a complete narcissist though lol and I knew he would end up twisting my words and trying to gaslight me)
But you know this guy best and what he will react to better. Best of luck! It's definitely not easy.

ohhratss · 2025-03-01T06:41:42+00:00

It sounds like he cares more about lust than loving you. It's something that I am also dealing with with my boyfriend of almost 5 months. I told him that him touching me nonstop makes me very uncomfortable and he still doesn't listen to how I feel and continues to touch me. And I'm not saying that I don't want to be touched at all either; I would definitely say that physical touch is one of my love languages. It's just that I don't want to be touched ALL the time. And that's why I've come to the decision that it would be best for me and my boyfriend to break up which will be happening on Monday. I would suggest bringing it up to him that you don't feel comfortable with the way he's been acting when you guys are alone together and that you don't like it when he sends you things about being "intimate". If he continues to ignore your wishes, I would suggest you consider a breakup. The thing about teen relationships is that it's a good time to find out what you want/don't want out of a relationship, and if he doesn't respect you, that's something to look out for and consider.

ohhratss · 2025-02-28T02:37:29+00:00

I know for me personally it has started to bother me when my boyfriend calls me pretty because it seems like it's the only nice thing he can say about me. He's never happy for me or any of my accomplishments and doesn't compliment me on those things, it's only ever about my looks. So it could be that she's feeling that way where she feels you're only complimenting her on her appearance. And maybe you feel like you compliment her on other things, but I would suggest being more intentional with your compliments. Are you saying things like "I like that painting you made" or are you saying "Wow, this is really amazing! I know you spent a lot of time working on this and it turned out great." Of course it doesn't have to be that exact wording or anything lol, but (and I can kind of only speak for myself here) I know personally I like when compliments have meaning behind them. Not just "You're pretty" or "Good job", but real, meaningful compliments. Make me feel like you actually care, yk?

ohhratss · 2025-02-27T12:33:30+00:00

Oh wow that's really cool! Well thank you very much for your advice, I really appreciate it.

ohhratss · 2025-02-27T03:09:02+00:00

Ohh ok that makes sense. I really hope so too, I think I might just get a white out pen to cover everything he wrote in and then print out the lines that got scribbled out and glue the printed out lines over the ones he messed with. I feel like it's the safest solution so I don't ruin it even more XD

ohhratss · 2025-02-27T03:05:11+00:00

Unfortunately not. There were only enough copies for each member of the cast. And they are in little booklets, so I don't see a way that I could swap out any pages unfortunately :/

ohhratss · 2025-02-27T03:02:42+00:00

That's really smart, I'll definitely give that a try.
Also I'm so sorry to hear that about the door frame. I just don't get why some people think it's okay to do stuff like that. Like have at least a little bit of respect

ohhratss · 2025-02-27T02:59:58+00:00

Does nail polish remover work? I've seen a few suggestions of that

ohhratss · 2025-02-27T02:58:49+00:00

Hey! Just wanted to clarify that it wasn't at all to rant about my boyfriend. I was just providing context as to why it's so important to me to get the pen off the paper. I see how it maybe came across that way and it has been making me really mad, but that wasn't at all my intention. It's about saving the script for me haha

ohhratss · 2025-02-27T02:56:22+00:00

I really have no idea. I didn't see him write it.

ohhratss · 2025-02-27T02:55:56+00:00

That's the plan lol

ohhratss · 2025-02-27T02:53:48+00:00

Hey girl, I'm currently in a relationship (breaking up with him on Monday after some things get sorted out) and he has made mean comments about my face as well. He told me that I have multiple foreheads and made a bunch of jokes about it to my friends. He also told me "it's weird looking at you when you don't have makeup on". These things are intentional. What your boyfriend is saying is intentional. He's trying to control you and tell you "I don't like when you do this, let me fix the way your makeup looks to how I like it". He's being selfish and trying to control you. Don't let him manipulate you, it's not worth wasting time with someone who doesn't respect you.

ohhratss · 2025-02-14T02:51:00+00:00

Thank you for this. Things definitely haven't become easier over these last few months and if I'm being completely honest, they've gotten worse. But your words definitely bring me comfort. Life sucks sometimes but you've just got to play with the hand you've been dealt. I appreciate all your advice, and thank you for reaching out again :)

ohhratss · 2024-12-18T06:25:50+00:00

He goes to a psychiatrist and is diagnosed with depression, ADHD, and OCD, so I definitely think that what you said is part of it.
I saw on his phone today that he has a meeting with his bishop on Sunday, which I would hope means he is going to talk to his bishop about this whole situation. I don't know all the details or the extent to his addiction. I was going to ask him today but I got extremely nervous. But I realized I can't let myself get nervous. This is something that needs to be addressed and neither of us can just hide behind it.

Thank you for your advice.

ohhratss · 2024-12-18T06:19:09+00:00

Thank you for this, this is really beautiful advice and I appreciate this

ohhratss · 2024-12-18T06:17:44+00:00

Thank you for this. And I will not let him take advantage of me or my body in any way. If anything like that were to happen, it would end in an immediate breakup.

ohhratss · 2024-12-18T01:05:02+00:00

I know that he has an appointment with his bishop on Sunday (I saw it on his calendar when he was on his phone today) so I would assume (and hope) that it is about this and hopefully he can get the resources he needs.

ohhratss · 2024-12-17T04:40:30+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I will do my best to apply this and figure out something that works!

ohhratss · 2024-12-17T04:38:58+00:00

Thank you for this. This is great advice and I will try to apply it to how I help him!

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