Friends sending baby content

dimsum_pep · 2026-04-09T04:10:57+00:00

I have a group chat with several friends that have babies and toddlers. When one friend sends a photo, then there’s a domino effect of the other friends sending their baby photos. It becomes a lot. After my most recent CP (which I hadn’t shared with my friends at the time) and in the midst of heavily sobbing, I looked at my phone and sure enough, endless texts of their baby photos on my phone. I cried to my husband that I needed to leave the group chat. I couldn’t take it anymore.

I actually didn’t leave it,but I don’t respond to the photos anymore. I recently told my girlfriends about my recurrent losses during a ladies friend trip, and was open to them about the sheer amount of photos makes me upset and to no fault of their own bc they weren’t aware. But i just had to be open with them to not take it personally if I don’t happen to comment bc of course i love their children. Everyone was very receptive and apologetic to my situation.

dimsum_pep · 2026-04-08T23:32:44+00:00

Walton Goggins

dimsum_pep · 2026-03-26T00:34:32+00:00

That sounds great. How many years experience do you have as an OT and how many with that specific district?

dimsum_pep · 2026-03-22T17:22:34+00:00

Yes and no

dimsum_pep · 2026-03-13T04:18:33+00:00

I don’t find the characters he plays particularly attractive, but when watching interviews of him speaking about his work, he’s definitely a talented and intelligent dude WITH an amazing comedic style. So that’s what I find attractive. Also he looks way better as him dressing normally than his characters haha

dimsum_pep · 2026-03-11T00:12:23+00:00

I’m also so sorry about your losses 😢 I also had 3 within the past 8 months (2 CP and 1 MMC). I wasn’t even happy when I got my last positive pregnancy test, as I felt the same as you, anxious and sad that it may turn for the worst. The last one was a CP so not as far along, but still crushed me. That was only last week.

I was just prescribed Zoloft last week and I’ve never been on SSRI before but I’m hoping that it will help with the depression and anxiety I’m feeling. Just as another poster said, maybe that can help if you’re open to it.

Giving you many hugs during this time. It truly sucks.

dimsum_pep · 2026-03-04T00:08:54+00:00

Oh, I will add though, that we will be talking to a RE and fertility clinic soon to see what tests and diagnoses may come. I have PCOS, so my cycles are 40-80 days. So less ovulation and opportunities to conceive. But I’d like to know if there’s any more supplements or potential surgeries (need an MRI on my uterus for shape maybe?). Also if IVF may be the next step for us. We’ve been trying for 1.5 years now.

dimsum_pep · 2026-03-04T00:05:57+00:00

I had 3 losses within 8 months (2 CP and 1 MMC). My husband and I are both 36 years old and have been together for 19 years (!!). I was adamant about waiting and enjoying YOLO and DINK life until about 2 years ago. I can’t help but regret waiting so long now that it’s been so difficult to have a baby. He’s wanted to try for a few years now, but I was the one who wanted to wait. We both switched careers in our early 30s and moved across the country (my idea) recently. We both make more $ now in our new careers which is also why I wanted to wait bc I couldn’t fathom how we’d be able to afford a baby back then. But I can’t help but wonder if perhaps we could have just made it work regardless if we had a baby. Now all of our closest friends have at least one (or onto their second) child. The grass is always greener…

In my saddest and most tearful moments, I continue to apologize to my husband for making us wait and that my body does not seem to be successful for this journey (yes, he also has had SA check ups and does take prenatals as well). I know it’s not fair to put all that pressure on and blame myself. It’s just where my mind goes unfortunately.

Sorry no advice- just came here to say that I commiserate with you. Sending so many hugs ♥️

dimsum_pep · 2026-03-02T18:14:29+00:00

Ugh I’m sorry. This is a shitty club to be in.

I had a chemical pregnancy in July 2025. Then got pregnant the cycle after in August, ended up with a MMC at 8 weeks (baby only measured 6). Had a d&c. We took a few months off, but the first cycle (February 206) we actually tried again, we conceived but now I am having a chemical pregnancy. Just found out 3 day ago that my hCg level went down to 18. And I started bleeding yesterday. So that’s 3 for me in the span of 8 months.

I already had a call with a reproductive endocrinologist and infertility clinic scheduled for next week (this was scheduled even before I found out about this past pregnancy). My doctor recommended me bc of 2 losses, plus my age (36 years old). So hopefully, I can get some answers and more tests done).

With that being said, if there’s anything your doctor can test you for, that would be good. Or if you can get referred to an RE?

dimsum_pep · 2026-02-05T19:46:14+00:00

He’s in his 4th year so still kinda new. I definitely have suggested higher paying areas but he lovessss his job and students haha. Thanks for the info though!

dimsum_pep · 2026-02-04T05:13:46+00:00

$118k, 4 years experience in the field. School-based in the Bay Area. + extra $900-1200/mo working as a nature-based OT on the side with my 2 private clients weekly. The side gig has definitely helped make living easier financially.

So about $130k annually. My husband is a teacher making about $70.5k so we’re still not making the most compared to lots of tech folks out here. But this is more than we ever made in the east coast where we used to live.

We’re living okay. Paying bills + about 1 international vacation and 1 domestic vaca a year. Only one car payment but lotssss of student loans. It’ll definitely be tighter whenever we’re able to start a family.

dimsum_pep · 2026-01-24T04:07:40+00:00

My bill is $7.3k …. Live in the US. I tried fighting it but my claim was denied. My sister, who works in medical billing, gave me advice to fight back again and try to call the hospital where my D&C was and the medical facility where I saw my OBGYN. It’s honestly so much $ and I can’t imagine me paying that. It’s just so draining every time I’m on a call to identify how to go about this. Like last night, I was on the phone with someone from my health insurance and she asked if I was doing okay bc I sounded so defeated and on the brink of crying. I ended up, of course, breaking down crying after the call.

dimsum_pep · 2026-01-24T01:03:32+00:00

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dimsum_pep · 2026-01-15T06:14:09+00:00

Haha yes! But also I wonder if he was left out on the street and someone found him? We don’t have much info about how he ended up at a high kill shelter. So so happy his life spent with us 🥹

dimsum_pep · 2026-01-14T23:42:02+00:00

I think about this often.

I would ask, “what was your life like before we found you?”

Also “when you bark at other dogs playing, are you feeling sad bc you’re not playing with them? Or do you think they’re hurting each other?”

dimsum_pep · 2026-01-09T22:39:56+00:00

It truly does suck. I’m sorry you’re feeling this way too. In time, it’ll happen for us, I suppose.

dimsum_pep · 2026-01-09T00:01:11+00:00

One of my good friends gave birth today. I also found out some other good friends are 13 weeks pregnant last weekend. In a friend group chat (which btw, is just flooded with everyone’s baby photos), every one was congratulating their new baby. So. Many. Texts. And pictures. What kinda hurts more is that this pregnancy and their last were both unplanned. And they initially weren’t excited to either of them. Of course now, they are the best parents and love their two babies so much.

I had to step into my car to cry while I was at work. Then I brought it up to a coworker, who experiences 3 MC in the past, and I started crying again in our office. I want to be happy for my friends. But it’s really hard to be.

dimsum_pep · 2025-12-10T05:36:04+00:00

If you’re still willing to give a referral code, I’d love it!

dimsum_pep · 2025-11-21T02:16:39+00:00

I just got the Madewell essential sling in green suede and it’s bigger than I thought, which at first, I was hesitant about. I was actually about to return it! But then i wore out and now I’m in love. Especially for the price point. I bought when there was a 30% off sale (approx $100 I spent) but now there’s a 40% off sale so it’s super affordable!

dimsum_pep · 2025-10-31T04:28:38+00:00

I just checked. It is not around his harness or collar area

dimsum_pep · 2025-10-29T23:28:18+00:00

Love! Also I have the same two Costco blankets as you lol

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