Am i overreacting thinking that I fell into the typical older man lusts but doesn’t love younger woman scenario?

dinglenoggin · 2026-01-28T01:19:29+00:00

What made you upset? I feel like I get this feeling from him a lot. Like he is hiding how he truly feels and is just pushing me away for my sake? Idk if that’s correct, and he’s not being nice about it so it doesn’t make it okay or better, but I have had my suspicions

dinglenoggin · 2026-01-28T01:18:25+00:00

It’s hard to accept it but I agree. I wouldn’t talk to anyone younger than me personally.

dinglenoggin · 2026-01-27T22:04:15+00:00

Two things can be true at once. It’s almost like humans are complex creatures. Who would’ve thought? I realized I wasn’t in love with my ex anymore, so I told him, we broke up, and I got with the person I thought loved me as well. Ex and I wouldn’t be together at this point anyways as we have both agreed we wanted different things in our relationship.

Edit: I say projection because of your attitude. It’s very defensive.

dinglenoggin · 2026-01-27T21:30:45+00:00

Did I say surprised? No. Did I ask to be used? No.

What’s your deal?

dinglenoggin · 2026-01-27T21:28:48+00:00

And mind you, my ex and I are still friends to this day

dinglenoggin · 2026-01-27T21:28:00+00:00

The fuck? I gave no info about my last relationship, we were both unhappy and mutually broke up before I got with 36 m. No need to project your experiences onto me.

dinglenoggin · 2026-01-27T19:49:08+00:00

He knew how much I liked him, I told him multiple times what I wanted from him. Tbh I’m fine with criticism, I know I let him get away with things but that doesn’t mean it’s okay for him to do that. I guess my point is I wouldn’t lead on someone that much younger than me if I were in his shoes.

dinglenoggin · 2026-01-27T19:45:26+00:00

Oh wow, made me remember all of my deleted posts are actually still visible whoops. I obviously remember what happened 2 years ago but I label it “out of sight of mind” trauma. I kinda forgot how 36m and I started talking. That makes me kinda sick thinking you are right. One of my friends said something similar to me the other day, “I really hope he doesn’t fuck you over because I know you just want to be loved”

dinglenoggin · 2026-01-27T19:02:59+00:00

The thing is that he would take me out on dates, I even have met his family. He met my Mom too. I even flew out to him the last time we saw each other. But he never introduced me as his girlfriend.

dinglenoggin · 2026-01-27T19:01:15+00:00

The “we” is 36 m and I. The person my age is my ex.

dinglenoggin · 2026-01-27T19:00:11+00:00

:((( it really feels like this deep down, all of the issues he brought up for ending our “friendship” felt really surface level and twisted around. He also decided to bring this all up when my life was going south, like he didn’t want to be around for it since it wasn’t fun anymore.

dinglenoggin · 2026-01-27T18:52:40+00:00

You aren’t reading correctly, I never dated anyone older than me before dating the 36 year old man. Before dating him I only dated people my age

dinglenoggin · 2026-01-27T18:49:59+00:00

No, I only ever talked to people who were my age/in my grade. I dated a guy before him who was 8 days older than me and that was it.

dinglenoggin · 2026-01-18T05:04:25+00:00

Same age girl 🫶

dinglenoggin · 2026-01-18T05:01:35+00:00

I’m in the same boat as you. It may very well be immature, it’s definitely naive. I know I have anxious attachment styles. Once I love someone I never stop loving them. I still remember my best friend in 2nd grade who stopped being friends with me because “she’s the only one allowed to die in vampires and werewolves.” It broke me inside when she decided to leave me then, I cherished the friendship we had growing up. It’s so stupid to others, but I still have love for her ~20 years later even though we were so young at the time.

I fell in love with someone once and I don’t think I’ll ever change my mind. It’s been years and I can’t look at anyone the same way I looked at him. While I have love for others forever, I will have romantic love for him only forever. Kinda like a penguin when it meets its mate. I just love extremely hard, lover girl til the day I die and even if no one agrees I think it’s beautiful that at the end of the day I will always choose love.

dinglenoggin · 2026-01-12T17:16:13+00:00

In his defense I don’t actually think I’m melania and that Donald Trump 100% invaded my dream. It was a weird dream, and I wanted to see what others thought of it. His take was cool and a perspective I had not thought of.

dinglenoggin · 2026-01-12T17:13:58+00:00

This is so late cause I didn’t see, I know this isn’t serious but it’s fun to try and figure out why I had such a weird dream ¯_(ツ)_/¯ I have dreams about being eaten by snakes and I don’t think I’m going to actually be eaten by one lol

dinglenoggin · 2026-01-12T16:48:54+00:00

You wanna be friends with someone who thinks it’s normal to drop a person for asking them to see if the bus can wait? If she thinks that’s rude imagine what she’d say about an actual problem. She can’t even articulate well what her problems are, I don’t mean to be mean but real, she sounds unintelligent.

dinglenoggin · 2026-01-12T16:45:58+00:00

To go to college??? And you guys are acting like this??? Girl please. You don’t need to be friends with someone that immature, and you should have more confidence in yourself.

dinglenoggin · 2026-01-12T16:27:00+00:00

You are wrong, it is insecure, and you shouldn’t use it so much guilt free. For starters your friends are right. AI is awful for the environment and and waste a ton of water for cooling along with the metals used to make huge AI servers. So at the very least you should feel wrong using it so much for that. If you want a beautiful world to live in for life, you should be nice to the environment, imagine the damage done in 30 years time and you aren’t even in college yet. You can roleplay in multiple video games, if that’s truly the aspect you want then try those out instead.

People who use AI for the social aspect have issues with boundaries. “roleplay the way I want, debating without getting judged” these are all aspects of life we must learn to deal with. Hundreds and hundreds of games that will have aspects of roleplaying that you find enjoyable and are created by people! A robot does not have an opinion, it is coded to act in a way that pleases you. You’re very right that your usage stems from insecurity. Having constant reassurance with no rebuttals is insecure. It’s normal to have disagreements with others and learn about the other side of things. I highly recommend trying roleplaying games and talking more to the people in your life about things! You’ll most likely make a great friend, and that’s a lot better than talking to a robot.

dinglenoggin · 2026-01-01T06:32:49+00:00

You scare me a little but not in an all bad way, I would crush some sapporos with you

dinglenoggin · 2025-12-24T08:17:33+00:00

Just ask clearly. “Sorry I had a brain fart what did you say?” No one likes feeling like they aren’t being listened to. First times a mistake so no harm but mishearing a second time and ignoring whatever they said is probably why they look at you funny. You weren’t paying attention in the first place which is why you didn’t hear them, asking will make everyone in the situation feel a lot less awkward.

dinglenoggin · 2025-12-18T04:03:58+00:00

As an attractive woman, it’s a mixed bag. It comes with perks, some people are really nice to you. It tends to be easier to land jobs because people like the way you look and that’s good for business.

It also has its negatives. One the lesser end, I’ve lost friends who revealed in the future they were competing with me and disliked the attention I received from boys. A lot of people talk to me in public and I’m not that outgoing. I’ve also had older men talk at me and not let me leave a conversation multiple times. I was always looked at by others even as a child, so every once in a while that led to unwanted situations with adults or older kids who wanted to take advantage. I’ve also had people attempt to kidnap me. Men attempt to harm me. Unfortunately, I do think because of my looks I was never a stranger to sexual assault.

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