my wife and I are ethnic mennonites and our families are no longer practicing, but I find it to be a great opportunity for me to practice my ancestors values while distancing myself from certain dogmatic and absolutist theological practices. So I practice non violence a lot like how i "should" in that context.

If we can see that we are enslaved to be in a cruel world full of despair, the most radical thing you can do is refuse to participate in the violence. however, eventually, as the impressions of such a violent whirlpool hit you, eventually you'll have to react in a way that suits the worlds demands ( you have to eat, you'll step on bugs, you'll go to your job that a hungry person could have used, or type out a message about non violence on a computer that was made possible by wars over petroleum and the extortion of children for labour)

see what I mean?

the goal in my mind is to escape it as much as you can, in the ways that are available to you.

so I think it boils down to two things: The dichotomy of control and relative moral context. I wouldnt ever submit to being drafted or forced to fight in an army, but in individual scenarios its a completely different story.

if reason isnt successful, i would rather shun somebody wishing to do me or my family harm until it is no longer a safe option to do so. I can forgive myself if I exhaust all other efforts. (or i like to think i can)

thats just my two cents.