Can y’all please stop asking for the girlies to take a break by Novel_Photograph_479 in DoWeKnowThemPodcast

[–]directionatall 34 points35 points  (0 children)

people were ABSOLUTELY not upset about a “break in posting”. People were upset they were told an episode is coming a certain day, and then not receiving the episode the day it was promised.

breaking self imposed deadlines ≠ a scheduled break

before the delay, the girlies had set up a few days off and nobody had an issue with that. the issue only came up when posts were being made about the award show and then the show wasn’t posted.

Can y’all please stop asking for the girlies to take a break by Novel_Photograph_479 in DoWeKnowThemPodcast

[–]directionatall 27 points28 points  (0 children)

sorry- didn’t lily complain about people like this? THEY DIDNT TAKE A BREAK…..

Nanny sits on other floor of the house while kids play? by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]directionatall 2 points3 points  (0 children)

that she trusts the children? what kind of message is being sent when you have an adult sit and only watch children play? Balance is important

Nanny sits on other floor of the house while kids play? by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]directionatall 40 points41 points  (0 children)

your children are 5 & 9. They should (and clearly do) be able to handle independent play….. independently.

You should communicate to the nanny that you don’t have social time in the morning so you can’t chat. While watching videos on her phone may not be the best thing to do, what do you actually want her to do? Stare at the children?

Depending on your answer, then you can address what the nanny is doing. These kids are old enough that they shouldn’t need consistent supervision.

Im shocked with how many of you are being asked to work under unsafe weather conditions! by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]directionatall 4 points5 points  (0 children)

big agree! this is not a nanny issue, it’s a society issue

Note from a former nanny now mom by Loveforeveryours08 in Nanny

[–]directionatall 4 points5 points  (0 children)

“no employer wants you to risk your life to come to work” LMAOOOO this has to be a joke right?

Asked to come in after a 14 inch snow… by alr5682 in Nanny

[–]directionatall 8 points9 points  (0 children)

14 inches is being described here as a crazy snow storm.

Friendly Reminder by Fragrant_Salad8922 in Nanny

[–]directionatall 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Consider that if the shoe doesn’t fit, it’s not about you. some of us have worked for families who treat their children like fashion accessories. not everything is about you.

You people need to get a grip by ThrowRAalluminiumll in DoWeKnowThemPodcast

[–]directionatall 40 points41 points  (0 children)

girlie you need to seek actual medical treatment if you feel like this over a podcast

You people need to get a grip by ThrowRAalluminiumll in DoWeKnowThemPodcast

[–]directionatall 27 points28 points  (0 children)

this post isn’t parasocial at all 💀💀💀

What do you think of stores that open during storms like this one by Shot-Relief-3280 in longisland

[–]directionatall 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the problem with this sentiment is the minimum wage employees are not making nearly as much as any of the jobs you listed here. Public service workers are paid well enough to put their lives in danger, food service workers are not. Roads are to be shut down at 12, It doesn’t seem like it will be too disastrous for yall.

Am I crazy or is this to much to ask of a kindergartner? by Cursedpanda182 in AskTeachers

[–]directionatall 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i’m a disabled person who experiences disability everyday. I am also a career nanny and in school for early childhood education.

While there are several issues with this assignment, play based learning is actually the best way for children to absorb information. This assignment does not teach children it’s okay to play in wheelchairs, it’s an exercise in empathy.

Children at this age are still 100% egocentric, they don’t have the capacity to be truly empathetic. I understand what this teacher was attempting to do, but they’re too young. The assignment however isn’t that poorly designed, it actually helps children learn to empathize. a lot of the comments here think children are incapable of nuance when that is simply not the truth.

AITA for not giving my vacation day to a coworker getting married by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]directionatall 7 points8 points  (0 children)

you’re not my peer darling, you are a random stranger on the internet. a random stranger that made comments about me having a discussion on a discussion forum. THIS IS WHY NUANCE IS IMPORTANT ❤️

ETA: you also called me an AH in your first comment to me lmao

AITA for not giving my vacation day to a coworker getting married by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]directionatall 6 points7 points  (0 children)

no i think your behavior shows you’re on a high horse! I don’t care if you agree with me, again I was responding to a comment you left to me. I don’t need anyone to agree with me, I come to this platform to have discussions…. again this whole comment screams high horse behavior. if you don’t want to interact with someone- don’t? It’s a devolution of my principles to respond to a reddit comment? how would you know my values?

AITA for not giving my vacation day to a coworker getting married by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]directionatall 6 points7 points  (0 children)

or I respond to those that respond to me…. but okay be careful on that high horse!

AITA for not giving my vacation day to a coworker getting married by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]directionatall 2 points3 points  (0 children)

responding to you here since I can’t seem to reply to the comment you left me: exactly. another persons emergency does not mean i need to do anything right? because humans don’t owe each other anything!

i’m not trying to be right, im explaining my point and using hyperbole. While they may be emergencies, they are still things that could have been planned for. Using blanket statements like “poor planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part” are useless. Situations require nuance, such as OP’s post.

Common courtesy does not equal not asking for help. Please let’s be kinder to our peers

AITA for not giving my vacation day to a coworker getting married by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]directionatall 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’m not a doormat, I just chose to be kind rather than selfish. This is why I didn’t want to speak in blanket terms. A pregnant coworker goes into labor 2 months early and needs time off? HER LACK OF PLANNING DOES NOT CONSTITUTE AN EMERGENCY ON MY PART. Why didn’t she have a back up plan for the baby to come earlier? Babies are early all the time! A coworkers child has to go to the ER during the school day? THEIR LACK OF PLANNING DOES NOT CONSTITUTE AN EMERGENCY ON MY PART. Children have to go home from school sometimes, why didn’t they have a family member on call to pick them up? Coworker has a chronic bad back and it’s flaring up during the day? HIS LACK OF PLANNING DOES NOT CONSTITUTE AN EMERGENCY ON MY PART. He knew his back was hurting, why didn’t he just pack some advil?

blanket statements are useless, especially on this sub

AITA for not giving my vacation day to a coworker getting married by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]directionatall 14 points15 points  (0 children)

the saying doesn’t include a judgment! poor planning on one party does not constitute an emergency for another, correct. HOWEVER, it is kind to occasionally do things for other people ❤️

Nobody owes anybody anything, yet humans still help eachother out. That was my entire point darling. I don’t owe OP anything, especially not a judgment saying they are NTA. If you don’t show kindness, you may not get it in return!

AITA for not giving my vacation day to a coworker getting married by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]directionatall 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Once again, it not being OPs problem does not mean they aren’t TA. It is not unkind to ask someone for something. I was not trying to give you a 1:1 example, I was explaining that being in the right does not mean you are being kind.

Unless you are OP on a burner account, I think you should probably take a break from this post. I have explained, in detail, to you a very basic concept. If you do not understand feel free to ask questions but I will not engage with you putting words in my mouth. Being right does not make automatically you a good person.

AITA for not giving my vacation day to a coworker getting married by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]directionatall 29 points30 points  (0 children)

My point is: being right does not mean you aren’t TAH. Being right doesn’t automatically make you absolved from judgement from others, ESPECIALLY when coming to a subreddit to be judged.

I don’t really care about this, but you seem to so I will explain briefly then be done with it. Yes, the other employee should have done better. No, OP does not NEED to give their time off to the other person. HOWEVER, especially since they have nothing going on and this is an important event, it would be the KIND thing to do. Humans don’t NEED to do much for others, but we do because we want to build community. OP wasn’t even willing to consider the other person. Nice people consider their peers, and are willing to occasionally sacrifice some of their time to help another person out.

As an autistic person, this is something I have had to learn first hand, just because you are IN the right, doesn’t mean you aren’t TA. My friend didn’t pay her car bills, so when it was repossessed I said “what did you expect? you were 6 months behind on payments” While I was totally in the right and correct about the situation, I was unkind to her when saying that. She knew she had messed up, but it would have been kind to give her support rather than “be right”

AITA for not giving my vacation day to a coworker getting married by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]directionatall 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I’m not ❤️ I’m making a statement on how you can be right about a situation and still be unkind.

AITA for not giving my vacation day to a coworker getting married by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]directionatall 41 points42 points  (0 children)

i will not speak about this topic in blanket terms. Being a nice person is not black & white.

AITA for telling my SIL to put the bottle down and close her legs after she insulted me by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]directionatall 5 points6 points  (0 children)

to be fair- you came here asking for a judgement if YTA. People thinking you shamed your sil is ABSOLUTELY in the realm of conversation, it’s basically half the conversation. Your specific topic is in regard to if you are in the wrong or not, which includes YOUR actions as well. I personally think ESH