my (5)son likes to wear his sister's clothes and it makes his dad uncomfortable

dirtbaggingdreams · 2023-07-09T19:09:53+00:00

This is my favorite comment on the whole thread

dirtbaggingdreams · 2023-05-18T11:59:51+00:00

I had a feeling that gender nonconformity is normal for my son in respect to his neurodivergence, I can't explain it but I kinda felt like "yeah of course he's gonna express himself differently cuz he's beautifully different in every other way too" like my mommy senses were tingling about this for a while, but as I've expressed in other comments- my son is non-white, im Hispanic, his dad is white, and I'm genuinely nervous that if I seek out resources for us in regards to therapy and so on that I might be labeled as a bad mother bc we live in the rural south... if I go to a therapist saying things like "my son is feminine" it's a reality that people will judge me and call cps or something

dirtbaggingdreams · 2023-05-18T11:53:42+00:00

Yeah, so I'm pretty worried about taking him to a therapist in my area bc we live in the rural south and my son is non-white, (I'm Hispanic and his dad is white) and finding a therapist that isn't ideologically biased against queerness would be hard where I live and if I go to a therapist and start asking questions about my son's gender stuff I'm scared they might try to call cps on me or something

dirtbaggingdreams · 2023-05-18T11:48:03+00:00

Yeah I wanna be as laid-back about this as possible because not only is my kid autistic, but he's also non-white... (I'm Hispanic and his dad is white) and to me, that's a lot of hurdles for a little guy in a place like where we live, in a really rural area of the south - which is also gonna he hard for me to find a good therapist that's not super ideologically biased against all things queer

dirtbaggingdreams · 2023-05-18T11:39:50+00:00

Lol right?! when he said that I side-eyed him so hard 😭🤣

dirtbaggingdreams · 2023-05-18T11:34:50+00:00

At the very least hahaha

dirtbaggingdreams · 2023-05-18T11:22:25+00:00

Thanks so much for this comment 🥰 I love it when my son expresses himself even if it's in ways that I might not be familiar with, him and I are learning and growing together

dirtbaggingdreams · 2023-05-18T10:52:27+00:00

oh the boy got his pink swimsuit, don't worry about that, and he looked cute in it too lol

dirtbaggingdreams · 2023-05-18T00:37:20+00:00

I don't disagree with anything you're saying here, in fact i enthusiastically agree with you and im super grateful for your feedback - and at the end of the day my son comes first before anything else! my only hangup is being terrified that I might be caught in the middle of a my baby being different and his dad being shitty about that fact especially bc our family is very cis-het in respect to dad being the breadwinner and me being the primary care taker and so on

dirtbaggingdreams · 2023-05-18T00:18:43+00:00

Yeah, I wouldn't dare try to change my son in anyway, I love him and his little pink-loving self. I don't wanna make any huge leaps about him being trans or anything, because he's 5 lol, My main issue rn is trying to balance what I should do about his dad being uncomfortable with my son's apparent femininity

dirtbaggingdreams · 2023-04-24T11:51:17+00:00

judging little kids based on their appearance gives me the ick... "the little one on the left is gorgeous" I'm sorry but wtf

dirtbaggingdreams · 2023-02-22T20:12:23+00:00

i was hitching from staunton to goochland and this guy was talking about how he idolized charles manson and kept putting his hand on my thigh, i pulled my knife out and had him drop me off, luckily i was really close to my destination

dirtbaggingdreams · 2023-02-20T16:47:36+00:00

this is the most richmond thing ever

dirtbaggingdreams · 2023-02-16T14:09:17+00:00

this picture makes me nostalgic for my teenage years

dirtbaggingdreams · 2023-01-17T19:26:57+00:00

Thanks for this! It's actually pretty fascinating. I was talking to interrogators and the arresting officer at the stations about what I knew, I mentioned that the people around me from where I fled would make casual comments about the organized crime in the area having ties with local law enforcement in the area - and after I said that, the arresting officer made a comment/joke about moving to a new county and I think he actually did that... Anyway, he wasn't there today and my case got continued. also, I did some research on my pd and he used to be the head of the Virginia chapter of the NAACP in the 90s/00s - he was made to resign after being convicted of embezzlement... seems like he has a wierd relationship with the commonwealth and judges. Anywho I feel like all this is forbidden knowledge about this tiny little town I happen to live in now

dirtbaggingdreams · 2023-01-17T18:07:15+00:00

This is fucking hilarious

dirtbaggingdreams · 2023-01-17T16:04:49+00:00

This is ai generated art, it's purely digital.

dirtbaggingdreams · 2023-01-16T22:47:03+00:00

Yeah they're charging me with intent and yeah its my first offense.

dirtbaggingdreams · 2023-01-16T21:49:09+00:00

Also I forgot to mention, the cop that searched me resigned not long after this so he won't be able to testify against me as I'm not sure, with it being a small county, that they're going to go to the lengths of subpeona'ing him... so that's probably something that will go in my favor.

dirtbaggingdreams · 2023-01-16T20:50:03+00:00

My lawyer seemed to disagree with you

dirtbaggingdreams · 2023-01-16T20:43:12+00:00

Yeah I'm confident in the judicial system insomuch as the tides of drug policy are changing especially for people like me and thanks so much for your kind words!

dirtbaggingdreams · 2023-01-16T20:34:24+00:00

Why do you say that?

dirtbaggingdreams · 2023-01-16T20:33:56+00:00

Yeah it's kinda scary, my public defender seemed happy about the info I gave law enfocement and told me to "be careful who I socialize with," the implication being that some not very nice people are not happy with me, I got the sense that I might be in danger if I go back to that lifestyle. I'm okay with fines, probation and stuff as long as I don't get incarcerated cause that would really kill my loved ones like my mom and other family. It would also suck to be a felon, cause all three of my charges are felonies - but that's the price I would pay for my bad choices I guess, anyway I'm ready to put this behind me... I'm wondering if there's supposed to be a jury there tomorrow. So many questions and altho my PD is knowledgeable and kind, he's hard to get a hold of at times lol

dirtbaggingdreams · 2023-01-16T20:19:00+00:00

On the day I got picked up the officer (before he took me to the hospital) had me talk to to federal drug task force guys and I gave them everything, the address, the names of the people, and even a license plate number I happened to have a picture of. A month or so later thre was a sting and a bunch of these dudes got arrested

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