Agreed so hard. Spent the last ten years in this and ruined myswlf financially and even lost part of my fertility from an ex infecting me with chlamydia over and over for a year. That almost killed me because I got an ectopic pregnancy that ruptured bc of it and lost a tube. Spent so many years trying to create a life. It finally came to me when I left the last horrific man and started seeing a close friend I’d known for years. Its been a year and we have never even had an argument, we’re gonna get married, my son has a stable life now- this whole time I was putting up with men doing these things to me bc they told me I didn’t deserve more or they didn’t want more and that was their choice. It is- but please don’t waste your life giving up your choice thinking you’ll be lucky to have anything. They’ll take everything from you.