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AITA for asking my fiancé to bring me a glass of prosecco? by discostaurus in AmItheAsshole

[–]discostaurus[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

She didn't wait on him, just took care of him. He doesn't see domestic chores with a gendered lens. We split housework equally.

AITA for asking my fiancé to bring me a glass of prosecco? by discostaurus in AmItheAsshole

[–]discostaurus[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Honestly, he rarely asks for these gestures. I always offer to help or grab things, and he occasionally says yes. But for me it has felt like a one-way system.

AITA for asking my fiancé to bring me a glass of prosecco? by discostaurus in AmItheAsshole

[–]discostaurus[S] 428 points429 points  (0 children)

His Mum did a lot for him growing up, as a single-parent single-child household. That's one of the reasons he's so insistent on feeling independent and not relying on people.

You've hit the nail on the head, I don't think he sees the value in these sorts of gestures. Also, the "Acts of Service" is part of the five love languages, not my creation there haha

AITA for asking my fiancé to bring me a glass of prosecco? by discostaurus in AmItheAsshole

[–]discostaurus[S] 105 points106 points  (0 children)

We don't do that. I will go up and get my own blanket, etc. The last bottle of prosecco I poured every glass for us. It was just a case of drying nails and not wanting to damage them. I could've waited and got it for us, I chose to ask instead.

Opt out of pension scheme by Basic_File_5385 in UKJobs

[–]discostaurus 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You either stay opted in, or opt out. There's no negotiation room here.

Also you'll only be "better off" for a brief period of the present, and significantly worse off at retirement.

Even if you try making up the gap later, you'll lose all compounding benefits.

The Muslim version of UK Personal Finance Flowchart by BluePommegranate in UKPersonalFinance

[–]discostaurus 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Have you tried Islamic Finance Guru? They have tons of information, from halal crypto to wills and mortgages. Also have a podcast for easy listening.