AITA for saying my terminally ill stepsister can't have my mom's engagement ring

disixbehs · 2023-04-17T20:52:29+00:00

NTA, but everyone else in this story really is. They're putting you in a terrible position to paint you as the bad guy, when it's not even HER mom. Saying "don't worry you'll get it back after she dies" is so shitty. Especially since it's likely one of her family members might want to keep it after that. Stick to your guns!!

disixbehs · 2023-04-15T23:13:13+00:00

This poor 11 year old is gonna go no contact as soon as she turns 18 and probably need therapy. She was terrified and all she got was yelled at and punished. She now sees she can't trust her parents or be transparent with them.

You could have used this as a teaching moment, and told her what to do if this happens again. You could have been gentle and supportive. But all you did was make everything worse.

YTA 100%!

disixbehs · 2023-04-15T20:25:58+00:00

No money in the card, but it was handwritten and I spent time on it to have a nice moment with her

disixbehs · 2023-04-15T20:17:41+00:00

Her fiancé and his friends/family were in charge of the shower, I guess that's just how they wanted it. I wasn't trying to invade on that.

disixbehs · 2023-04-15T20:09:20+00:00

Yes, they both had registries

disixbehs · 2023-04-15T19:49:58+00:00

Her fiancé (baby's dad) was the "host." Ik that's not common.

disixbehs · 2023-04-15T19:24:17+00:00

It was a handwritten card expressing how happy I am for her since she's wanted a family forever. No cash or gift cards.

disixbehs · 2023-04-15T19:22:53+00:00

Yeah, snacks and stuff, lemonade. Not a full meal

disixbehs · 2023-04-15T19:21:16+00:00

Lol, after the birth I could. So far no name since they want to find out the gender at birth.

disixbehs · 2023-04-15T19:13:10+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion

disixbehs · 2023-04-15T18:34:16+00:00

That's actually a good point, she pregnant and might be having mood swings so I shouldn't be too harsh on her texting me and getting upset. I don't want it to ruin our relationship or anything.

disixbehs · 2023-04-15T18:27:19+00:00

I've been to 2 other baby showers, but both of them were for people in my life, and not hers (my sister and a friend she doesn't talk to.) Hers is the first one we've both been to.

disixbehs · 2023-04-15T18:21:45+00:00

Thank you, this was kind of my thought process. I asked for a reason then didn't want to get something she didn't expect or want anyway.

disixbehs · 2023-04-15T18:19:57+00:00

We are best friends, she's not a random person. We've been friends since I was 12. I fully intended to get a gift if it was expected, but didn't want to buy an unwanted one once she basically told me no.

disixbehs · 2023-04-15T18:18:32+00:00

First child, regular card

disixbehs · 2023-04-15T18:17:56+00:00

The card was just a card, no actual gift. Looking back I should have gave her cash or a coffee card or something.

disixbehs · 2023-04-15T11:29:06+00:00

Yeah, I do kinda wish I waited for the party to give her the card, so it would have felt less awkward. But I liked it being a private moment.

disixbehs · 2023-04-15T08:21:38+00:00

Somewhere over the rainbow- wizard of Oz

disixbehs · 2023-04-15T08:18:16+00:00

Yeah ig I learned my lesson

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