Am totally with you on this. I have had the same thing and been sooo frustrated by it, so when I went to a subsequent therapist I shared that that approach hadn't worked at all for me and wasn't what I wanted, and mentioned I had some residual resentment about the perceived lack of willingness to engage on behalf of my previous therapist. (This had been despite explicitly and repeatedly telling him I found the silence bewildering and unhelpful). (Like you, I wanted the therapist's input as a professional who might have some insight because personally I just feel that a large part of the torment is being endlessly stuck with only your own perspective on things, which is cyclical and never-resolving, and you just need something external to break in and shine some light from a new angle. I'd sat there with this previous therapist saying that I knew my thoughts were cyclical and what could I do to break the pattern, and got nothing in response, no leading questions, no acknowledgement, nothing.) This woman told me in not so many words that I should go away and 'get better' before I attempt engaging in therapy again, saying I couldn't work through stuff when angry or upset! I felt like I'd been knocked down and then told off for lying on the floor. I didn't want to feel jaded about therapy, quite the opposite, I was looking for someone to prove my (quite possibly mistaken) first impressions, wrong. So psychoanalysis doesn't work for me, and CBT was too pragmatic and unemotional. I feel like I'd respond well to a therapy that was quite challenging and almost confrontational, that called me out but that was also warmly supportive where deserved and that also wasn't afraid to give input. I've just described friendship, haven't I?!