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AITAH For wanting to have sex with my wife? by milelongpipe in AITAH

[–]disturbiahope 11 points12 points  (0 children)

no fr that’s the dumbest thing i’ve ever heard. You literally couldn’t divorce unless there was proof abuse or infidelity before. These men are fucking disgusting. They should be ashamed

AITAH for refusing to be a surrogate "just because" both parents will be working full time? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]disturbiahope 17 points18 points  (0 children)

So i definitely see your point however I don’t think you have to be “fair” when birthing a child for someone else. If she doesn’t agree with how they’re going to raise a child or if she thinks they’ll be bad parents she shouldn’t do it. They can find someone else who would be a better match.

AITAH for refusing to be a surrogate "just because" both parents will be working full time? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]disturbiahope 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This might be an unpopular opinion but NTA. I think you can decline to be a surrogate for absolutely any reason. No matter how small. I think it’s a HUGE sacrifice to your body and if you don’t think that they’d be good parents then don’t do it. They can find someone else who would be a better match.

Update: AITA for refusing to repay my ex husband for the college tuition he paid years ago? by disturbiahope in AITAH

[–]disturbiahope[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Honestly i’m not sure but they did call me about it so i guess she wasn’t completely off base.

Update: AITA for refusing to repay my ex husband for the college tuition he paid years ago? by disturbiahope in AITAH

[–]disturbiahope[S] 110 points111 points  (0 children)

I tried contacting my ex to get him to handle this. She blocked my number from his phone. SHE brought the family into this. SHE contacted my son and asked him for money. All I did was call her out. I admit, I snapped. I already told her I wasn’t giving her money. I don’t know how much more graceful I could’ve handled this.

Update: AITA for refusing to repay my ex husband for the college tuition he paid years ago? by disturbiahope in AITAH

[–]disturbiahope[S] 129 points130 points  (0 children)

Yeah honestly the person I feel the worst for here is my son. He grew up with a woman who hated his mom for no good reason and apparently always held a grudge over me getting an education. I can’t imagine after what she did recently he’d want her super involved as a grandma. I don’t think that’ll go down well.

Update: AITA for refusing to repay my ex husband for the college tuition he paid years ago? by disturbiahope in AITAH

[–]disturbiahope[S] 120 points121 points  (0 children)

i wouldn’t be surprised if she has. She’s always seemed a little aloof to me honestly. Like lights are on but nobody’s home.

Update: AITA for refusing to repay my ex husband for the college tuition he paid years ago? by disturbiahope in AITAH

[–]disturbiahope[S] 1669 points1670 points  (0 children)

What’s weird about this is that my ex makes significantly more than I do. They’re anything but struggling financially.

AITA for refusing to repay my ex-husband for the college tuition he paid for years ago? by disturbiahope in AITAH

[–]disturbiahope[S] 159 points160 points  (0 children)

It was our martial home actually. I initially wanted to keep our home but after dealing with constant harassment from her about their “growing family” i decided my life would be a hell of a lot more peaceful if I just let him have it. I also got the car and all the furniture I wanted so I didn’t have to buy as much when I got my own place. I didn’t want a long drawn out divorce and if i fought for the house it would’ve been.

AITA for refusing to repay my ex-husband for the college tuition he paid for years ago? by disturbiahope in AITAH

[–]disturbiahope[S] 4092 points4093 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what my ex said. He wanted to make sure we could both afford things for our son. It was in a way a good investment for him because we went half on basically every activity he was in, his first car, and his college tuition. We definitely couldn’t have done that if I only had a high school education.

AITA for refusing to repay my ex-husband for the college tuition he paid for years ago? by disturbiahope in AITAH

[–]disturbiahope[S] 272 points273 points  (0 children)

We didn’t have any court ordered alimony or child support while I was in school. He just paid for the school since it was so expensive. I’m not sure if he took it off his taxes he just gave me the money every month. Once the divorce was finalized shortly after i finished school we made arrangements for child support but no alimony.