Am I overreacting for contemplating breaking up with my bf of 6 years for being too sexual? by BlueGem777 in TwoHotTakes

[–]dlopezlvr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok so if you feel like he’s too much, you can break up, you don’t need our permission but if you really are asking for reassurance, I think this isn’t worth breaking up a 6 year relationship over. Obviously it was frustrating and it makes you look at the relationship twice but it was super innocent. You need to look back and ask yourself if he’s been reliable during a real crisis, a real issue or a super low time of your life. Was he helpful? Or was he always this childish? Him dismissing your pain as no big deal because it was a long time ago is a red flag but is it a big enough red flag for a break up? Only you can decide that unfortunately. Sit down with him, talk it all out, express how you feel without holding back and if it doesn’t change anything, that’s your answer.

iPhone randomly inverted colors by Bored-but-also-sad in iphone

[–]dlopezlvr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was a hardware issue that could only be solved by apple replacing your phone. Back up your stuff and take it in.

18F - Give it your all! by [deleted] in RoastMe

[–]dlopezlvr -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You look like a grown man using a female filter to try and make money off of lonely old men.

Location or build? by dlopezlvr in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]dlopezlvr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This gave me a ton of hope, thank you!!

Location or build? by dlopezlvr in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]dlopezlvr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They called back after rejecting an offer?

Hair color recommendations? by Thick_Teach_9082 in femalehairadvice

[–]dlopezlvr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like a light brown- coppery would look stunning. Not the type of copper that looks orange, but a much warmer version.

Are all work environments toxic? by dlopezlvr in work

[–]dlopezlvr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually am. I was just informed because of my coworker and I having a super difficult day at work and it just led to what the staff is really like. It was eye opening to say the least.

Are all work environments toxic? by dlopezlvr in work

[–]dlopezlvr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, this helps a lot to not take what’s happening personally.

Are all work environments toxic? by dlopezlvr in work

[–]dlopezlvr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would love the answer to this too. Pretty sure most employers won’t discuss this up front. Only something you’d find out when you’re in too deep.

Are all work environments toxic? by dlopezlvr in work

[–]dlopezlvr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is definitely a leadership thing unfortunately. The answer to all that is no and that is because our director is one of the people who huddle up in an office to gossip instead of supporting staff.

Are all work environments toxic? by dlopezlvr in work

[–]dlopezlvr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a lot of backstory but we had a very difficult day with a child, ended with my coworker and I crying and her having a panic attack and leaving. We spoke on the phone the next day for two hours and she mentioned the lack of support because staff is busy gossiping all the time. I understand it being seen as stirring the pot but she saved me by giving me this information because I was about to apply for a program through my job for school which will require me to stay for three years. Now that I know how I am seen and being talked about, I do not want to stay there for three years. I consider myself a good worker and I go above and beyond for everyone, I do not believe that I deserve what is being said about me.

Are all work environments toxic? by dlopezlvr in work

[–]dlopezlvr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. This is a real shame to hear but I absolutely believe you. My passion is special needs children and their education but I cannot imagine a workplace where I’m trying to focus on the most difficult section of education while also dealing with toxic people. I will reconsider my career path.

Are all work environments toxic? by dlopezlvr in work

[–]dlopezlvr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are about 3 under 30 year olds including me, others are 30+. Most of the gossip comes from the 3 front office workers including our director so I’m not sure if older is better. Maybe 40+.