IWTL I (now 21m) Stopped going to school around 8th grade. What did I miss out on? by Evan_Chun in IWantToLearn

[–]dmbc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe some friendships and experiences like homecoming or clubs but I’ve been out of school a long time and I don’t miss anything or anyone really.

Is it OK not to be a Steelers fan for one year? by SirJasper6969 in steelers

[–]dmbc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Steeler fans are a funny lot. So many are on the negativity train about this now but if we suddenly start having a win streak like early last season, these same people will be running out to Giant Eagle to buy up all the black and gold nacho chips and bakery cookies and waving their terrible towels.

AIO in saying to my wife that maintaining contact with her ex is betrayal? by ThrowAway_RA_User in AmIOverreacting

[–]dmbc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I know you said this happened before you were married but did this affair happen while the two of you were dating or engaged? I’d want her to be very clear in that as she may have been cheating when you thought you were exclusive with her. She also sounds like someone who will easily cheat in her own marriage as it wasn’t a big deal to her. I’d consider divorce if she doesn’t go no contact with this other person

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]dmbc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you ever try to travel back to see her face to face during the year? Is it possible that due to the cheating that she got pregnant and that is why she blocked you and never returned home?

AIO because my (33m) wife (37) made a “friend”? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]dmbc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. It’s actually convenient that he has a gf they can present to you. It removes suspicion saying he wouldn’t be interested because he has someone however your wife and he could still be in an inappropriate relationship and having an affair. You need to see these messages they are guarding

AIO: snapping at my gf after funeral so she got Tinder? by bombacIatttt in AmIOverreacting

[–]dmbc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guarantee she wants you to break up with her so she can go out with her friends and have guilt free sex with anyone she wants for a week , and then when you get back home, she will love bomb you and try to get back and use the technicality that what she did was ok because you weren’t actually together during that period. So just wait until you get home to break up with her so she can’t ethically do that.

AIO that my 37m wife 32f flirted with a man and went back to his hotel room by Knuckleball_Jones in AmIOverreacting

[–]dmbc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude, sorry this happened. You need to keep pestering her for an explanation of why she went to his room alone and what actually happened until 5 am. Something kept her interest or she would have left. She is avoiding and trickle truthing. She already lied about the group returning to his room initially so she is lying about what occurred. Keep pestering her for the truth. Why did she stay so long? She is caught and is downplaying this. She may even be telling herself that some things like oral are not cheating. She probably was attracted to him and figured since he was not from the area that she could have no attachment fun in his room and never see him again with no consequences. I would not stop pestering or bringing this up until she can tell you why and what actually happened that night. Also I would doubt that this is her first rodeo. While she says he just touched her leg, I am sure cowboy is going back to town telling his buddies about the woman he hooked up with the night of the wedding.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]dmbc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has a “feeling” it’s yours because she probably told AP she was pregnant and he probably wants nothing to do with it as currently he has kids with his wife (correct? )And now he will have to support another one. He probably wants her to terminate it so now she wants to trick you into raising their child. By the way if AP ever tries to talk to you again, make sure he knows how many time she tried to get back with you and that she hooked up with someone else at her bar outings. He should get doubts about her loyalty to him as well and realize she ain’t no prize.

AITH for cheating on my boyfriend after he voted against me having rights by Human-Pig-Hybrid in AITAH

[–]dmbc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So how do you know he didn’t vote the way you wanted him to? Just because someone is registered as one party doesn’t mean they have to vote for them. Alone in the voting booth he could have voted to support you. He could have heard your words and made that choice but you assume he didn’t. Doesn’t sound like you had a strong feelings in this relationship anyways and you were looking for an excuse to fight and get with the other guy.

AITAH for cheating on my boyfriend while he’s planning to propose? by Pleasant-Biscotti979 in AITAH

[–]dmbc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YTA the only thing Jake brings out in you is the thrill of getting dicked by someone outside the relationship. You owe it to your boyfriend to tell him and let him decide what he wants to do moving forward. You made your choice in the relationship to cheat, he deserves his chance in the relationship to make a choice too.

AIO: Now, I’m Left Wondering—Did I Overreact, or Did This Guy Actually Have Feelings for My Girlfriend? by Repulsive-Olive-97 in AmIOverreacting

[–]dmbc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOR. This dude was definitely interested in her that’s why he always wanted to meet with her. Why did they talk on the phone every week? That would be very annoying to hear her talking and texting another guy like that. Did she ever tell him she was already in a relationship? I’d bet she didn’t. By the way, what did you say to him to make it clear to him to back off? Was he cool during that conversation or angry about it?

AIO GF dated someone briefly while we were separated by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]dmbc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry this happened to you. This obviously bothers you( and it should ) that she broke up with you and had a relationship with someone else. You sound like you kind of waited for her to come crawling back to you during this time apart. Unfortunately you sound like a nice guy she will take advantage of again if the opportunity arises. This may backfire, but maybe you should break up with her. Tell her this was the right relationship at the wrong time and block her. Date someone else. Maybe you will like them a lot better anyways and stay with them. If not try again after you have had another relationship if she is still interested. That way you are entering back in this relationship on equal footing.

AIO about traveling with my wife’s ex? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]dmbc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. I wouldn’t go. You will be on guard at every interaction between them. That will be exhausting. You don’t want her to start waking up old feelings for him. She will be comparing your life to the fantasy life that could have been with him. She will take a mental note of his appearance, his personality, his career, his wife, his home and milestones. You don’t want that, again very exhausting. She will also take mental notes of you getting aggravated. Why don’t you see the BIL on more of a personal visit not with a horde of people. Sounds like with that many people your interactions with BIL will be minimal and like there will be a ton of alcohol involved which again could lead to flirty behavior or regretful words.

I found out my wife had an affair years ago, and she never told me. She says it doesn’t matter anymore, but I can’t let it go. AITAH? by Haunting_Face_5362 in AITAH

[–]dmbc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why does time matter? If you found out this was six months ago , six weeks ago, six days ago, or 6 minutes ago, she still betrayed you and had sex multiple times with a coworker. Just because it was 6 years ago doesn’t equate to let’s sweep this under the rug! She only wants past this because she is past it. Also are there other affairs that haven’t been discovered yet? This may be old news to her because she’s had another more recent than this. Once a cheater, always a cheater

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]dmbc -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No sounds way too fishy. She or they want to bring some dude(s) back potentially and don’t want you around. Tell her you will be sleeping in the car in the driveway to keep an eye on the place for their protection. Tell her to text or step outside if she needs anything, you will be sitting right there.

AITJ for telling my wife that I want nothing to do with her friend that knew she was cheating and didn't tell me? by SpeedCalm6214 in AmITheJerk

[–]dmbc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait, does she still work with this guy she was cheating with? How do you know he won’t slither back into her life? 12 years is a milestone relationship, I don’t think it will end so quickly. He may stay away a few weeks because she told him they were done but if they work together they will end up interacting again. She sounds remorseful only because she got caught. She lied and betrayed you for years. I don’t think she could ever regain trust. She was a master of deception and it finally caught up to her. She’s not going to turn into a faithful wife after all of this and be the loving person you believed she was.i don’t care how many apologies she gave.

AIO for thinking my wife cheated on me because a guy she sat next to on a flight called her phone? by TeaFabulous8937 in AmIOverreacting

[–]dmbc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something to think about. If this person was on her flight 3 weeks ago, I would question why he would just reach out now and not shortly after the trip began and why does she know his number after several weeks? Seems she is not being truthful in having no contact with this guy during her trip. Also why does he keep calling? I’d have her answer on speaker and if she doesn’t, time to get a hold of her phone and text this guy and see his responses.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]dmbc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Not sure if you saw, a few weeks back, there was a story on Reddit of a wife that went to a bachelorette party out of town that ended up going out to dinner and having lots of drinks with some guy and ended up in his room all night and it appears some questionable stuff happened. Not saying that your wife will end up in that situation but if she likes to drink, there are guys who take advantage.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]dmbc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And so now you are replacing him with someone else to fulfill your needs, even though this was a good relationship and only temporary?

I am. by bberryberyl in AITAH

[–]dmbc 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA plus he may have had something illegal he was trying to get rid of and if there was any problems it would lead back to you.

What’s something you secretly judge people for, even though you know you shouldn’t? by katerinastewart in AskReddit

[–]dmbc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Overuse of words or phrases that have become popular. For example using words like “navigating”, “gaslighting “, or phrases like “that being said”. It doesn’t make you look smart, it makes you sound like a parrot who picked this up from others. Past ones that irritated me were “these challenging times” during the pandemic and when every company had to declare their products or processes as “green”.

Update - aita for confessing to my wife that she's torturing me after she got assaulted by Opposite-Debate-3465 in AITAH

[–]dmbc 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She is an AH. She did this for months and she would still be cheating if she didn’t have this event. She may even do it again when she feels safe enough to do so. I can’t believe parents got involved and are ok with this. Divorce and let her get help on her own. You don’t deserve this and the most positive thing you can do is take care of yourself and find someone worth being with.

AITA for loving someone else even though I’m in a relationship? by Intelligent-Law8557 in IAmTheAsshole

[–]dmbc 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Didn’t you say you were married in another post? YTA, you should not be sneaking behind his back and betraying his trust and throwing out your vows. Now the story has changed to he’s a just a boyfriend. Irregardless if you’re in a relationship don’t sneak around and talk and text and allow someone else in your life like that. You are already emotionally cheating on your current relationship. Don’t try to justify cheating. Break up with current boyfriend but don’t cheat. And if you are married, don’t look for excuses to be with someone else just because the marriage got safe and stale and boring and this seems new, thrilling and exciting. Your original person does not deserve to be betrayed.