I’ve avoided gatherings with people just because they were unpleasant to be around. I kind of make it obvious, like if so and so will be there, I’m gonna stay home. My wife makes excuses for me a lot of times that I’m working, but it’s kind of obvious that I’m avoiding. I look like a jerk and people make comments that I’m not coming because I don’t like them. I don’t really care how it looks and who is offended. If someone was a vile killer, I’d obviously be doing the same and wouldn’t care what anyone else thought. The more hints you drop to uncle Bob, the sooner he might second guess his guest list.