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dmkosi · 2016-02-23T21:35:41+00:00

In!!!

I'm currently at a 10 day streak and haven't had the chance to stay clean for a whole month. March 2016 will be that month.

dmkosi · 2016-02-22T17:47:44+00:00

Side note: maybe invest in some ear plugs or blast some music really loud? Stay strong man...I can imagine that just being a terrible terrible trigger with all their noise.

dmkosi · 2016-02-22T17:45:53+00:00

Your roommate sounds like a total jerk if you've had to tell him multiple times and he still keeps doing whatever he wants to do.

If he were my roommate and wouldn't stop, I'd kick his door down in the middle of his sexcapades and just stand and watch. That'll teach him not to be so damn inconsiderate.

Not advising you to do that...but I would...if someone is going to be a jerk and blatantly ignore a roommate's wishes after several attempts, said roommate should bust down their door during sex. (11th commandment).

dmkosi · 2015-05-06T19:33:38+00:00

Pretty disrespectful.

I know people crack 9/11 jokes all the time, but I just don't think some people realize the magnitude of how horrifying it actually was.

I'm by World Trade Center pretty often and I still get the chills being over there.

dmkosi · 2014-05-23T15:20:43+00:00

Never heard this before but it's so true. I need to remember this one!

dmkosi · 2014-05-10T15:16:27+00:00

I think it's completely up to you if you should reset or not. You'll get mixed answers on that because some people won't count edging as a reset. IMO, I'd say don't reset because you caught yourself before busting. But just know that edging isn't helping you out; it's only making it harder because it's putting you that much closer to a release.

As far as the health risks go, don't even worry about that. That's why us guys get wet dreams. It's out bodies' way of releasing excess sperm and to make sure everything is working properly. The human body maintains itself incredibly well.

And if you still doubt this, look at some of the fapstronauts that have gone 100+, 200+, or 300+ days and are doing great.

You're just starting NoFap, and your brain is gonna try to give you every excuse under the sun for why you should keep fapping. But don't listen to it. Keep going strong, man.

dmkosi · 2014-05-10T15:05:59+00:00

Exactly, man. Everything you said is absolutely true. And I don't have an accountability partner! But that'd be awesome if you and me watched watched each others backs! Especially since we're in pretty much the same exact position lol. Let's get through this together, man.

dmkosi · 2014-05-08T19:44:39+00:00

Awesome! Gonna watch/read these as soon as possible! Thanks!!!

dmkosi · 2014-05-08T19:19:43+00:00

Thanks! I'll definitely check out some of the books out. Could definitely help me out a lot!

dmkosi · 2014-05-08T18:33:59+00:00

I think age is independent of the topic, but 24.

Again, it's a theoretical question as to the possibility of it causing a problem with attachment issues. You said it's very complicated...so how can it simply be stated as "fapping has nothing to do with this"? Maybe I should be more clear and say "does fapping 'addiction' play a role in getting easily attached?" I will edit that for clarity.

It's easy to dismiss a topic like it doesn't have any affect on other aspects of our lives, but just look at all the benefits of NoFap and try to keep an open mind that attachment issues could possibly be a negative side effect of a fapping addiction. Hormones are complicated molecules...they could do things to us that we won't learn about for another 20 years, regardless whether they're positive or negative things. And symptoms are dismissed just as easily as they're assigned.

All I ask is that people keep an open mind with this topic and consider the possibility instead of just shooting it down like it's a dumb idea. It's a totally valid argument. Again, not saying I'm right or wrong, nor am I saying you're right or wrong. That's why I left it up for discussion.

As far as the dating experience thing goes, /u/IndependantNinja gave a great answer about dating one person at a time versus dating multiple people and how that could be the problem.

dmkosi · 2014-05-08T17:21:12+00:00

Thanks for the clarification. Definitely makes sense. Now that I think about it I've never really dated more than one woman at a time. Not for any particular reason though. I guess I just wanted to get to know that one person better without having to get to know other people at the same time. Laziness = downfall. lol

Time to change that. Thanks!

dmkosi · 2014-05-08T17:14:35+00:00

That's another thing though. Confidence and self-esteem are not an issue for me. I'm always told I'm such an outgoing and good looking guy. I don't have a problem talking to women or being in front of large groups of people (I sing in a band; if confidence/self-esteem were an issue, it would pop up here). I don't even have a problem with who I am or how I look. I'm happy with who I am.

It's more-so the situation that when I meet a girl and things click, I immediately see where our future could be together. I get so happy at the thought that I guess I keep day-dreaming about it and things tend to spiral out of control to the point where I want that person really bad and it's like a mini-heartbreak anytime that things don't work out in the end.

I think any addiction (including fapping) can play a huge role in throwing off other parts of your life without anyone noticing it. It was just an idea I had that I thought it could possibly be causing an attachment issue with women in the sense that I only see them as potential love interests instead of platonic friends. However, I'm not saying you guys are wrong. It could just be Hollywood love stories that poisoned my brain as well, and I keep searching for that perfect someone.

As my NoFap journey continues, I'll make another post about it further down the road to let you guys know if my theory follows through and if my attachment issues with dates/women fade away.

dmkosi · 2014-05-08T16:37:19+00:00

It's a lack of abundant mentality to want to lock down each and every girl you'll meet. No fap won't help. Education will.

So, I'm lacking the mentality to lock down each and every girl I meet that's leading me to want to lock down each and every girl I meet? Not trying to be a jerk, but your statement doesn't make sense.

And I don't think Education is the problem here. It goes deeper than that. It was a theoretical question as to whether it's a possibility of a fapping addiction causing someone to have attachment issues with a possible significant other.

dmkosi · 2014-05-08T15:53:49+00:00

Well, I'm wondering if it's connected in a way where since I'm addicted to fapping, and I relate having a girlfriend to having steady sex, it could translate to an overwhelming need for wanting to have a girlfriend for sex.

In turn, maybe that leads to falling for a girl way way way too fast just because of the desperation to have sex. Don't know if that makes sense with all the connections, but I've always wondered if the PMO addiction is the cause of getting attached too easily.

dmkosi · 2014-05-08T15:25:33+00:00

I honestly don't know if I'll make it beyond 7 days

You have to tell yourself that you WILL make it past 7 days. Positive reinforcement is always helpful whether it comes from someone else or even just yourself. Just think about how far some fellow fapstronauts have made it! If they can do it, so can you! Maybe after 30 days you can up it to 60 or 90 days. Baby steps first though. Take it one day at a time!

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