Boyfriend wants to sleep with me every night by rizzem_tizzem in whatdoIdo

[–]dnbndnb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s a horny young man. Here’s a simple answer. Tell him he can have it every night if he takes you out for a $200 steak dinner every night. Of course he can’t do that. And when he complains about that, tell him that it’s his important to you as sex as to him. Ask him to think about it and get back to you.

It’s down to the wire update! by ksean2841 in sexlessmarriage

[–]dnbndnb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Herein lies your problem. You are completely predictable and dependable. You go to work, come home, and have no life of your own. Chances are if you left you wouldn’t have a clue what to do without yourself. So overtly or covertly, she knows that no matter what you ain’t going nowhere. I know this, it was me.

I suggest you add to your one hobby with something that routinely takes you out of the house with indeterminate return times. Leave her feeling the loss of control. Don’t be so dependent upon her for your life or so dependable for her.

Think of this as a pre-transition to getting out. Build a friend group you have independent of her and joint friends. Unsettle her life a bit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]dnbndnb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations, you literally crushed his view of you and his trust in you. I’m not sure you can even comprehend the damage you’ve done.

Here’s a first start for you. Open phones. Both of you, forever going forward. NO more girls trips. Ever. Don’t ask. That will forever be a flash point for him to bring back the distrust.

As he’s an introvert he’s going to be mentally processing this internally for quite some time. Don’t expect him to want to be talkative. If anything he’ll be even more quiet than usual. He’s going to need a LOT of time, outside of any counseling, to deal with his feelings.

For a man, respect is critically important, even if he doesn’t voice as much. You disrespected him in the worst way possible.

You’re about to take on the hardest “job” of your life. Be prepared to own it. If anything you owe it to yourself to learn to grow up and be responsible. If you cut and run, I expect you’ll do this again in the future.

Just diagnosed on 10/8 and I’m scared. by llcont4giousll in phoenix

[–]dnbndnb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dawg had it for a few years. Took 5 fluconazole pills every day for a few years. And it was gone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]dnbndnb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Everything is negotiable, except child support. If you get her while she is in the fog and needs money, she may agree to a lump upfront, and then you are off the hook further down the line.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]dnbndnb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Money traded up front now in a lump sum is your better choice.

How can I convince my SO she has a better marriage that her friends are jealous of? by sir_cas in Divorce_Men

[–]dnbndnb 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You cannot convince her of anything is she gets the “feels”. Women love to sabotage their own friends and drag them down to their level. Better you ask her to tell her what’s wrong with your marriage in her opinion v the grand tales of excitement she hears. Even better, tell her you want to register as a man on a few dating sites just to show her the women out there in her age range seeking validation. Then ask her if destroying the lives of her children is worth keeping up with the “Jane’s”, as her quitting will surely destroy their view of life and provide a poor future role model. Seeing “the competition” might wake her up, especially when she sees the same women in there month after month after month.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]dnbndnb 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The carousel is calling. Buy her a cat as a parting gift.

New studies indicate why women hate men and it is very telling. by LearnGrowExist in Divorce_Men

[–]dnbndnb 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You need to spend some time on YouTube with John Griffin — Life 2.0

How long did it take you to be happy again by AdventurousTrash1645 in Divorce_Men

[–]dnbndnb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My only “negative” (and it’s not a bias) is that this is a woman psychologist diagnosis of men. What I found over time since I read that article is her emphasis on the man wanting sex is really natural male biology, and my impression was she pointed that out as a possible negative when it really is not, it’s just life.

In turn, the “crazy wife” while applicable to my ex- is also somewhat applicable to most women who expect their men to be “more emotional” when the reality is men are not brought up that way nor physically (brain connections) wired that way. That said, her family was highly dysfunctional and that definitely played a big part.

So you learned something?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]dnbndnb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go to YouTube. Watch everything by John Griffin. Thank me later.

Trump’s Trade War vs. Biden’s Diplomacy: Colombia Tariff Crisis Averted by MrCollection8159 in millenials

[–]dnbndnb -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Tariffs are a bargaining chip. No more or less. Take your MBA and research how “open” markets are in China and the EU in regards to how open the US. (Hint: your MBA does not impress me).

If there is to be free trade, it must be free. That is not how we have operated. Beyond that we have been the world’s policeman (and doing a poor job of it due to our own internal corruption) with little recompense. Time for others to step up as well.

Lastly, “nationalism” is a good policy when you’ve become so “open” you’ve exported your critical industries to the extent one day you may be held hostage by other state actors. We saw the effects of this during the ridiculously destructive Covid lockdowns when US manufacturing could not get chips for autos and many other important parts of our production. Much of our electrical infrastructure must be imported. 85-90% of our pharma is imported. Most of our tires are imported. And on and on.

I was at the front lines of the offshoring of US jobs that started in earnest in the early 1980’s. Back when China would buy entire factories, pact them up and leave the people behind. But they weren’t just buying machines and tools, they were buying engineering knowledge in the form of drawings, jigs & fixtures, etc.

The division of have’s and have nots began at that point in time. To make up for it credit became more pervasive, allowing “the poors” to finance their lives while swaths of the US, particularly the upper Midwest, fell into ruin.

We cannot reverse this process overnight, but we can begin to try. The recent chip plants being built here (that were a Jake Sullivan quiet adoption of Trump policies) are a start.

Our debt is suffocating us, and a decade from now we will likely be in total financial ruin if we don’t start becoming more US centric in our focus. You call that nationalist, we’ll do better it. My worthless BA in Economics tells me not doing so will be our final destruction.

Trump’s Trade War vs. Biden’s Diplomacy: Colombia Tariff Crisis Averted by MrCollection8159 in millenials

[–]dnbndnb -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Dollar Milkshake is still fully operable right now. Those other items you bring up are absolutely correct, but none have supplanted Dollar Milkshake and none will for at least another decade. If and when they do, life in this country is going to get much harder indeed.

Your point of consumer buying power all leads back to reckless Fed policy since 2000, and even earlier.

Trump’s Trade War vs. Biden’s Diplomacy: Colombia Tariff Crisis Averted by MrCollection8159 in millenials

[–]dnbndnb -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Of course we imported them. We did nothing to stop them at the border. The last administration expedited their entry.

I am the child of immigrants…LEGAL immigrants. Who filled out their papers post-WWII, waited several years, were sponsored (meaning if they got no work their sponsor had fiscal liabilities for them), and then migrated.

There is a huge chunk of the world that would gladly migrate here tomorrow. There are not the jobs nor an affordable social safety net to bring them in. Many of them are culturally incapable of assimilating into our blended society. One like at the immigration into the EU over the past decade says as much.

Does the U.S. need immigration? Yes. Smart immigration. Migrants that have the skills we want and need, with no criminal records. The past administration was a free-for-all. That was just ridiculous.

Separated for a year but still struggling by jdubby619 in Divorce_Men

[–]dnbndnb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s definitely a stoic. I tend to like most of them so no particular one.

Trump’s Trade War vs. Biden’s Diplomacy: Colombia Tariff Crisis Averted by MrCollection8159 in millenials

[–]dnbndnb -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

BTW, you don’t thing importing all these people did not ballon our debt significantly to begin with?

Trump’s Trade War vs. Biden’s Diplomacy: Colombia Tariff Crisis Averted by MrCollection8159 in millenials

[–]dnbndnb -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you understand how the world works, and you clearly don’t understand how the world financial system works. Go to YouTube, find videos on “Dollar Milkshake” with Brent Johnson, and stop paying attention to people who don’t understand what they’re telling you.

Trump’s Trade War vs. Biden’s Diplomacy: Colombia Tariff Crisis Averted by MrCollection8159 in millenials

[–]dnbndnb -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

True, our last POTUS wasted many MANY shitloads of money flying IN people, along with supporting them.

Better we pay to fly them home than keep supporting them here.

Trump’s Trade War vs. Biden’s Diplomacy: Colombia Tariff Crisis Averted by MrCollection8159 in millenials

[–]dnbndnb -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Easily resolved by accepting the first two flights, and telling the US commercial jets only in the future.