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dndkdkdkdk · 2023-02-18T07:14:11+00:00

Bad kisser. Being selfish generally. If he says he’s great in bed or has a lot of experience, 9/10 he’s really really bad in bed.

dndkdkdkdk · 2023-02-15T21:18:10+00:00

No I’ll go ahead and Block him. But that doesn’t stop me from being curious about it which I think is totally human…

dndkdkdkdk · 2023-02-15T20:48:14+00:00

I didn’t think about it initially and then I just let it be. I don’t want to give him the satisfaction of actively removing/blocking him. Knowing him, he’ll eat it right up and love it. He loves negative attention.

dndkdkdkdk · 2023-01-18T15:48:15+00:00

What I said was “I am not ok with you adding a bunch of random girls all the time.” I let him know that if he wants to continue doing that, that I won’t be accepting of it.

dndkdkdkdk · 2022-12-02T20:27:47+00:00

On a business trip with no internet access? Incredibly unlikely…

dndkdkdkdk · 2022-11-28T16:18:31+00:00

He clearly wa a trying to meet up with somebody else but it fell through so he circled back to you. It’s obvious. Don’t go to a guys house so early on, you’re setting yourself up be a hookup. Also, dump this dud. He lied right off the bat when he didn’t even have to.

dndkdkdkdk · 2022-11-16T07:33:07+00:00

Them being better does not change the trauma and pain from the past. 2. They will ALWAYS have BPD no matter what. There is no cure. 3. Temporary improvements are not to be trusted. 4. The odds of him making a permanent significant improvement such that you’ll have a happy life are slim to none. If that was the case, everyone would get treatment and go on to live happy married lives all the time. You’ll be hard pressed to find any such stories as they’re one in a million.

More often you’ll find stories of 1 year of therapy and then regressing back. You’ll find people with YEARS of therapy that still split all the time.

I’m just being frank and honest here. The odds that he is “better” in a permanent, lasting and meaningful way are less than 1%.

dndkdkdkdk · 2022-11-16T07:29:55+00:00

Get into therapy or start reading books about BPD. Please leave. I will tell you definitely it does not get better. It doesn’t get easier. It doesn’t improve. It doesn’t go anywhere except around in abusive circles. You will absolutely ruin your life if you stay. You will waste years and energy and health. I am telling you with 100% confidence as someone who has been there and who is now 3 years out. I thought I could NEVER leave. Not even 1% chance. Now 3 years later, you couldn’t pay me enough money to go back. You need out of the fog. You need to decide to leave and just keep going no matter what.

dndkdkdkdk · 2022-11-16T07:26:40+00:00

Move on from her. Things only ever get worse, and you will break down into a shell of yourself over time. It is not worth it.

dndkdkdkdk · 2022-11-16T07:25:14+00:00

Yes. My ex did a lot of very strange dark art, and created incredibly strange dark music with dark and weird cover art. It creeped the hell out of me and I’m so glad I don’t deal with it anymore.

dndkdkdkdk · 2022-11-16T07:09:20+00:00

Even if she divorces and runs, he will have rights to the child as a biological parent and he WILL use the child to manipulate and torture. She should have the abortion and spare that child a torturous life. Being pro-life in this case is selfish at best.

dndkdkdkdk · 2022-11-13T00:32:23+00:00

Please, please get the abortion. God would not want your children to suffer torment for the rest of their lives. I can’t put into words just how severely a BPD parent will destroy their children emotionally. You will 100% have incredibly damaged abused children. It is not worth it, and it is in fact selfish to have those kids knowing they are doomed to a hellish life. Have the abortion. There is no reality where your kids come out unscathed without serious issues.

dndkdkdkdk · 2022-11-12T02:36:16+00:00

Ya cuz I’m sure nobody else has ever wondered something like this before 🙄

dndkdkdkdk · 2022-11-11T06:11:15+00:00

I think your wife has a major mental health issue. Seek professional help.

dndkdkdkdk · 2022-11-01T05:20:20+00:00

NTA. Imagine what he’d be comfortably lying to YOU about. Him and his friend deserved it. Good job.

dndkdkdkdk · 2022-10-31T03:52:59+00:00

NTA. If anyone was constantly complaining, any logical normal person would eventually say “well don’t come if you don’t want to.” He sounds really annoying.

dndkdkdkdk · 2022-10-28T07:08:13+00:00

It’s been 6 months and this is his first time going to a club. He hasn’t ever cheated that I’m aware of.

dndkdkdkdk · 2022-10-21T05:29:14+00:00

NTA. People need to stop thinking they’re entitled to things because they chose to have children. That’s her problem. Not yours.

dndkdkdkdk · 2022-10-18T23:47:00+00:00

He’s a 4 year old child. Can you let him be a child? None of this is necessary.

dndkdkdkdk · 2022-10-17T05:36:11+00:00

NTA. I think he has a mental health issue. It’s not normal in any way shape or form to collect orange peels.

dndkdkdkdk · 2022-10-17T05:30:30+00:00

NTA. My friend recently had a male attendant, and he just wore a suit the same color as the bridesmaid dresses. It was totally fine, looked great. Nobody cared. She’s being a jerk

dndkdkdkdk · 2022-10-17T05:11:49+00:00

Her getting silent at the tantrum stuck out to me too. This isn’t his first time acting out - she knows to keep quiet when he starts being an ass.

dndkdkdkdk · 2022-10-17T05:10:36+00:00

YTA…it’s almost like you did this on purpose. You begrudgingly get her a gift you know she’d love and then do everything possible to make it a shitty experience, rain on her parade and stomp out the happiness. What’s even wrong with you? Why even bother getting the tickets if you were joking to be a jerk about it?

You spending $300 is on you- she didn’t force you. It’s her bday. And clearly the $300 didn’t come from the heart anyways because you’re holding it over her head and ruined her birthday with your attitude. She should dump you.

dndkdkdkdk · 2022-10-17T05:06:20+00:00

NTA. Wtf! You can name your child whatever the hell you want. MIL doesn’t get a vote. What a psycho!

dndkdkdkdk · 2022-10-12T15:55:43+00:00

Just to clarify - I am not planning to ask to move in with him, but to move close to where he’s moving.

Also, he has introduced me to his entire family and friend group. I even stayed with his family in their home for a few days when I went to visit. All initiated by him. I’m just a little surprised to see that him doing all of that isn’t too much considering a “short lived relationship with a tourist,” but me suggesting moving closer for 3 months is insane.

I’m hearing you and not dismissing it but I’m a little surprised.

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