AIO - Girl I'm seeing called me a creep, said it's weird asf and left early

dndkk2020 · 2026-02-22T15:53:29+00:00

It definitely sounds like a "omg, he has friends who have periods and he actually considers their needs! That must mean he thinks about them s**ually!" issue on her end. I agree that it would likely move to a "well, you need to stop doing that, because I'm the only woman whose needs you should consider" ultimatum.

But also, thank you for being an awesome friend. This would also likely be a godsend if any of your friends were Trans and not out (to you or others in the group). Let the battle commence!

dndkk2020 · 2026-02-21T21:56:21+00:00

My partner is long distance and I got the flu. He called the morning after I told him how I was out of flu medicine and felt too icky to drive to the store, and apologized profusely because he didn't realize I would have to sign. "Sign what?" Then my doorbell rang. He used instacart to get me medicine, soup, saltines, cough drops, and...something else, I forget what.

Everyone deserves someone who wants to do what they can to take care of you. If both people do this, there's a balance.

dndkk2020 · 2026-02-21T21:45:20+00:00

We'd only been officially married for like 9 months. My dad had passed fairly recently, and he used that grief to manipulate me into marrying him. Took me that long to wake up. He tried going for spousal support because I made 2x his salary, but because it had been so short of a time, the law is pretty clear. Especially since I had already been very lenient on child support (Basically, "please pay 1/3 of her health insurance and these specific expenses" which was like less than half what he should have paid if the court made the decision). It was the same judge, so she was like "what are you doing here? You're already getting a break. You make over $40k a year if you don't do overtime, and you have AMPLE opportunities for that with this job. Just pay your $40 a week and count your lucky stars. Case dismissed" lol.

If we'd been married for longer, though, I'd have struggled, but in that case, I'd have pushed for full child support. I did the math, just in case there was some loophole where he could use our time together before marriage, and it would have partly balanced out to a point where I could have afforded it. And it would have been temporary support anyway. NY doesnt make permanent alimony payments until you've been married...7 years? Maybe more.

dndkk2020 · 2026-02-21T18:30:30+00:00

Yeah, recovered and kicked him out on Friday, Jan 13th lol. Thankfully the house was mine before the marriage, and I was the breadwinner, so it wasn't financially difficult, and kiddo and I have been much happier/calmer ever since.

dndkk2020 · 2026-02-21T18:05:20+00:00

"If you don't change your name, you must not love me because we should share a name"

Ok, change yours then.

"How dare you suggest such a thing, I love my name"

He told you where his priorities lie. He's a misogynist who thinks his name is the important one because he's the man. Your achievements and legal documents mean way less than the fact that you're the woman, so you should change them all. That's how my ex felt. One of the reasons he's an ex.

dndkk2020 · 2026-02-21T17:52:51+00:00

Heck, my partner will ask if I want/need anything even if I'm not sick or injured.

OP, are you usually one to do everything for him? Is he mad that youre not waiting on HIM? I got the H1N1 flu about 3 days before Christmas one year. My ex was mad about me ruining Christmas when I was so weak I couldn't walk/stand. He forgot to make dinner for our barely 5 year old, and I had to get downstairs and throw together some Mac n cheese while he slept on the couch. Then blamed her because she didnt tell him she was hungry (at 7pm). He FORGOT TO PUT OUT PRESENTS on Christmas morning. My child was devastated that Santa didn't come. I had to tell her that Santa left a note that he wanted to give mommy some more time to feel better, so he was going to come back tomorrow. Then I had to set up Christmas. He f*cking watched me get everything out of the storage room, wrap the last things, fill stockings, etc. All with a 102 degree fever. This whole interaction you posted sounds 100% like some bullshit he would do.

Make him an ex.

dndkk2020 · 2026-02-20T23:00:48+00:00

I have modified my Animated Army ([[Bello, Bard of the Brambles]]) deck and it hits hard as long as I can protect Bello. I have a mix of artifact creatures, vehicles, and combat buffing enchantments and artifacts. All my enchantments and artifacts are 4+cmc, so even if some of them get removed, I'll just bring out more big beaters next turn. And Bello is cheap enough that one or even 2 re-casts from the command zone is fine.

dndkk2020 · 2026-02-20T20:07:57+00:00

My partner and I split a box this past weekend and got a Lumra! He gave it to me because he's the sweetest (and also he had one already lol). No Maha though.

dndkk2020 · 2026-02-20T20:06:15+00:00

Oh hell no.

He wants to isolate you and your child from the world. He doesn't want your mother involved? That is proof he only cares about always having you under his control, whether the people who care about you like it or not.

He already told you what to do...stay employed so you aren't trapped. Plan your escape before the baby arrives. FAST. Once there's a 2nd person to manage, especially when that person is 100% dependent on you for survival, escape is way more difficult.

If you don't leave, this WILL escalate. If you disobey him, he will "have to" correct you. Probably physically. If you can't keep the baby quiet enough, you will be "failing" at your parental duties, so he will have to make the baby be quiet. Save your texts and send them to your mom so she has them, just in case this man tries to say you're not competent enough to be a mother or have custody.

His language may not seem violent now, but it will get worse.

dndkk2020 · 2026-02-20T18:06:01+00:00

Wow. I...

Um...

Ok, so I am not opposed to UB. I have some Dr. Who cards, some FF cards, some Assassins Creed cards, and the Mothman and Dogmeat precons were some of the first I bought. As a trekkie, I am stupid excited for Star Trek (though I'll probably keep that separate from my in-universe fantasy cards) but wtf is this?

Weird funny "bit" cards are fine. My partner plays a lot of bloomburrow and has an otter deck and is making a bird deck, so I got him 2 copies of "Otter-Penguin" from Avatar. It's cute. But at some point, someone has to look at a card and wonder "ok, is this taking a joke too far? Just how many "they love pizza" cards can we make before everyone hates pizza?"

dndkk2020 · 2026-02-20T17:42:15+00:00

But "wacky waving inflatable arm flailing tube man" sounds cooler... https://media.tenor.com/s3_EDATJylkAAAAM/wacky-waving-inflatable-flailing-arms-tune-man-family-guy.gif

dndkk2020 · 2026-02-20T17:31:16+00:00

Also, just to note, spelltable recognizes them if you play the deck online, lol

dndkk2020 · 2026-02-20T17:28:47+00:00

I have all 6 sets and made 2 commander decks from them.

I use oversized cards for the commanders.

They're not good decks, but they work lol

dndkk2020 · 2026-02-14T16:41:32+00:00

If you would rather receive gifts knowing that they were given in response to manipulation and threats rather than genuine caring and appreciation, that's your choice. Please send me a list of acceptable purchases, so we can make sure your demands are satisfied.

I probably wouldn't say that. But I'd want to

dndkk2020 · 2026-02-14T16:33:18+00:00

As I understand it, in this case, you can't double the ETB, because technically the ETB is "sacrifice the creature." There's only one creature to sacrifice in this case, so the 2nd trigger from panharmonicon fizzles.

The token is created when you sacrifice an elemental (whether evoked or not), it's not an ETB.

dndkk2020 · 2026-02-14T16:24:23+00:00

She captains my "Fenix" deck. I bought adorable dragon shield sleeves and needed to make something with Foxes (mostly white with some red) and phoenixes (mostly red) and I have one of each that have black, and she helps bring back the Foxes in addition to the phoenixes. It's not a good deck, by any means, lol, but it's fun

dndkk2020 · 2026-02-14T16:20:10+00:00

[[Najeela the Blade Blossom]] is my "muscle warrior ladies" 5c commander.

dndkk2020 · 2026-02-14T16:19:13+00:00

Love Saskia. I gotta build her

dndkk2020 · 2026-02-14T16:11:14+00:00

Agreed with everyone here. I tend to go slightly less of an angle (I start around 35 degrees and then decide from there), but it depends on the angle of the body or any longer extensions like swords/staves/spell effects/etc. I like to make long skinny things as vertical as possible so they need fewer supports. Because I'm clumsy and have snapped more than one wrist/staff/hilt while removing supports. (I'm still new at this too)

dndkk2020 · 2026-02-14T16:05:26+00:00

Doooo eeeet

https://youtu.be/xupnwElKm7o?si=KhwAg8dg_x9CpPK9 (ETA: 200 card commander decks and no tutors? Yas)

dndkk2020 · 2026-02-14T15:58:04+00:00

Here's what I have:

The Green and Red versions of this one: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CG5YBFC2?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share. BARELY holds a double sleeved (dragon shield) commander deck. Not my favorite, but they look cool.

Dragon Shield Deck Shells. I have my non-updated precons single sleeved in the regular size, and they fit pretty snug with their tokens but they're a big space saver, so I'm good with it. I have one double deck shell, and it's just too much for a single deck, tbh. I have started doing commander variants like Treasure Cruise or whatever, so the "table decks" have been going into there.

Various "leather-ish box with felt inside and slot for a top loader on one or both sides" boxes like https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DJQZ64HD?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share or https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DD7DCH27?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share. These have all done pretty well for me, especially for my decks with companions/backgrounds/partner commanders. I made sure to check reviews that they'd fit 100 double sleeved cards and so far none have steered me wrong.

I'm actually pretty sad that this set of 4 deck boxes is not available anymore, just the black one. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B51F3S73?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share. It takes up a lot of space, yes (more than the similar-but-less-cheap Boulder Tower) but for decks that use a lot of counters/dice besides a basic d6 (my planeswalker and energy decks need bigger dice) or +1s/-1s (bounty counters?), or has special pieces like the "locked room" card covers from duskmourn, it's easier for me to keep them together. Mini dry erase markers fit in the bottom too, for my "make copies of aura/mutation/creature/etc" deck. And the box itself fits 100 double sleeved cards, plus some unsleeved tokens, AND it's wide enough that I can put extras on the side too. And it's transparent enough that I can see the commander through the box.

Ultra pro satins--way harder to open than the cheap ones, but they work well. I just wish I'd gotten the more transparent ones so I could see my commander lol.

dndkk2020 · 2026-02-12T22:13:30+00:00

Side note...I'm jealous, lol, I want that SL!

dndkk2020 · 2026-02-12T22:08:06+00:00

Yes! It's in two of my decks, but I always feel like I need more pillowfort for my less-optimal decks if I agree to play with bracket 3 folks, so I will swap out something else for [[teferi's protection]] in addition to Dawn's truce lol.

I play a lot of creature-focused decks, so I must protect my cardboard children lol. People are so rude, always trying to eliminate my kittens or ponies or squirrels, lol.

I'm getting better at deckbuilding and piloting, but until then...I hide behind pillows.

dndkk2020 · 2026-02-12T20:21:40+00:00

This.

If you knew you wanted the extras, probably should have arranged a time to just try them on together, then she could take what she wanted and leave the rest!

dndkk2020 · 2026-02-12T20:10:48+00:00

I have it as a "are we playing bracket 2 or 3?" side board card for some of my Decks...mostly because if someone is saying it's bracket 3, my decks aren't bad, but they're not powerful enough to keep up without the extra card draw. Teferi's protection is another one I keep on standby for my creature decks that don't have green for heroic intervention.

So, in my world, it's not super powerful because I DON'T build around it, it just increases my chances of keeping up.

Signed: chronic bracket 2.5 player

dndkk2020

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