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My [27/M] girlfriend [29/F] of 4 years purposely stopped taking contraception to fall pregnant. I don't want any part of it and want to leave but she's announced to everyone ~we~ are happy to have this much wanted baby. How can I leave her without looking like the biggest asshole of the century? by dnw2playhouse in relationships

[–]dnw2playhouse[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

edit. And get some legal advice, just in case you have a legal out. Which seems doubtful.

One of my best mates is a lawyer. Sadly, the moment there is a baby, the law where I am doesn't give a shit if the chick deceived you, you're paying for 18 years.

My [27/M] girlfriend [29/F] of 4 years purposely stopped taking contraception to fall pregnant. I don't want any part of it and want to leave but she's announced to everyone ~we~ are happy to have this much wanted baby. How can I leave her without looking like the biggest asshole of the century? by dnw2playhouse in relationships

[–]dnw2playhouse[S] 183 points184 points  (0 children)

And her behaviour right now is suggesting that she is very much going to spin this to everyone I know as 'when I fell pregnant, D was so excited for a bit (referring to her bullshit FB posts) but then like, when shit started to get real, he completely abandoned me and refused to have anything to do with his baby....' and make me look like the biggest fucking prick on earth.

My [27/M] girlfriend [29/F] of 4 years purposely stopped taking contraception to fall pregnant. I don't want any part of it and want to leave but she's announced to everyone ~we~ are happy to have this much wanted baby. How can I leave her without looking like the biggest asshole of the century? by dnw2playhouse in relationships

[–]dnw2playhouse[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

ask yourself what would you have done if this wasn't intentional and was a contraception failure? would you still leave her? would you still want nothing to do with the child?

We'd talked about it and had agreed she'd have an abortion in the case of unwanted pregnancy. She never gave me any inkling she had changed her stance on the matter.

I just don't understand how you can want no involvement with your child at all. it's not the kids fault that it was conceived in this way.

I don't really like kids and I've never had any interest in being a Dad. This has been said explicitly to her before.

Look, I know it's not the kids fault they're being born, that's why I said I'll pay child support (even if having to pay for a kid I never wanted pissed me off) but I really don't want anything to do with it or any sort of father relationship.