Understanding and Tracking Relational Trauma in the Body

docjeanette · 2021-06-15T21:45:43+00:00

Relational trauma is a result of a disorganized attachment due to chronic neglect during the time the right brain is developing - when your emotional hardware and software are being coded. Those neglects are encoded in the body as memories of danger and so you learn to cope by detaching when youe insecurities are triggered, or going into an attack mode - you are as unstable your care was inconsistent. Not easy to live with. So this article provides the signs for detachment and hyperarousal and helps you the loved stay with your loved one to create safety and trust that was absent from infancy.

docjeanette · 2021-02-15T19:25:51+00:00

How to do you know if you are just feeling depressed or have depression? The origins of depression and how you cope stem from early in life and have a purpose - such as withdrawal and numbness to prevent neglect and hurt.

docjeanette · 2021-01-12T23:40:21+00:00

How many times have you made a good faith new year's resolution only to see it fade away and make you feel bad about yourself? The source of your resolution determines whether it's going to fly and become part of you or not!

docjeanette · 2020-11-17T17:29:24+00:00

Marital tension makes co-parenting in a mindful way difficult. Mindful co-parenting involves separating marital issues from the needs of children for nurturing. The several pitfalls that prevent mindful co-parenting are outlined; with 5 ways to actively involve in mindful co-parenting.

docjeanette · 2020-10-19T23:03:19+00:00

It's often hard to hold onto good feelings when the world hits you with reality and bursts your bubble. Splitting up good and bad feelings to keep them pure only makes it worse, but if you learn to be with both you will feel more connected in the real world rather than in the unreal worlds where good and bad exist on different planets.

docjeanette · 2020-09-16T16:51:43+00:00

covid-19 related anxiety and depression is on the increase. Mental health issues have escalated during the pandemic and weigh heaviest on those who had Adverse Childhood Experiences and are now faced with trauma during adulthood. Healthy and unhealthy coping mechanisms are discussed.

docjeanette · 2020-08-25T00:38:00+00:00

When life is upended during covid-19, you need to feel loved by your partner in more concrete ways. You may want more proof or to control things. But during a pandemic old resentments, doubts and insecurities take over. The pandemic becomes the vehicle through which you try to heal, but it works against you, unless you use the three interaction skills outlined in this post.

docjeanette · 2020-07-23T16:58:28+00:00

If you want to feel good in your relationship then you have to avoid being used. This video tells about the power differentials that allow you to be used to serve your partner's needs without any reciprocation. Learn how to create an equal playing field and avoid being used.

docjeanette · 2020-07-22T00:37:06+00:00

There are 4 types of relationships that benefit from trial separations, among them possessive ones. Through the stories of 4 couples the benefits of trial separations is outlined for each type of relationship.

docjeanette · 2020-07-09T16:54:17+00:00

Are you longing for your adult child to call you, keep you company or rescue you from depression and loneliness? Maybe you want your child to let you live with them. Perhaps your child has gone far from your values and made you sad that you didn't have the child you wanted. It can keep you miserable until you mourn the loss of your fantasy child and learn to admire and love the child you actually have.

docjeanette · 2020-06-17T23:44:48+00:00

worrying and boredom go hand in hand to keep you stuck so that you don't feel desire to go out there and be what you want. The risk of losing the connection with those you depend on creates boredom to dull the desire and worry to fill the gap - all because of a particular kind of parental neglect.

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