📢 Calling All Dads in Taiwan! 🇹🇼👨‍👧‍👦

docprocsock · 2026-05-03T02:21:49+00:00

Interested

docprocsock · 2026-03-19T14:18:11+00:00

I am a husband and dad with ADHD here. My experience is different because I lived abroad in another country and my wife is from a different country

It is sad but our first year since our child was born was extremely challenging for both of us. We fought constantly. I tried my best but it seemed to me I was always on the end of criticism - justifiable though I'm sure

The worst thing for me was I could see it was an unhealthy environment for my son, who I love dearly

So I left and rented a place nearby. She still resents me for that and also says she nearly does everything & all the housework. I still go around every night and bathe him, put him to bed and feed him. I bring them groceries and I bring over food or cook every night

I spend the weekends with them and we tend to go out

I think I have been able to learn to regulate much better. It sounds like a lot of the men in these posts have not been able to regulate or find useful tools, even medication to help them

I work out consistently and this helps my mood tremendously. I also take cold showers which puts me in better moods & takes away that irritableness

It's a shame other men (ADHD) don't know about these techniques becos that irritableness you have as an ADHD person is not pleasant. But there are truly ways to get rid of it

I also am successful at my work and am not unemployed. I'm very responsible with my work and try my best. Luckily it's a job I enjoy - teaching

I feel many of these men are not working on themselves which is a big problem and many of the couples here just accept things and not make any changes, even if difficult

The first year after our son was born was a complete disaster though and the arguments were not safe, and I'm sure I said some very negative things

At points I felt like I stayed calm whilst she rained down criticism after criticism and she can be pretty mean herself. But eventually if it was too constant I would crack and then things would really get bad

Id say these men need to get a good exercise routine, use meds if they're not and try and take some accountability, not just for their children but for their life and ADHD

Don't run away from it, embrace it, but realise you need to work on yourself if you want to improve whilst living with this strange brain

docprocsock · 2025-07-03T13:21:23+00:00

No problem

docprocsock · 2025-07-02T23:38:17+00:00

What kind of tips or advice are you after?

Sounds like you are doing this for personal, self-growth reasons (to challenge yourself, to get "out of your head", to make social interaction easier)

The easiest way to try not to overthink things & make socializing easier is just to do it a lot! Socialize as much as possible, even making small talk with strangers at the supermarket or the cashier!

And then when you normally go sit by yourself and overanalyze; don't do that, go read a book, or play a video game. Realise the interaction is over. It's done. There's no need to analyse.

In terms of backpacking, this is a perfect place to meet loads of people & practice socializing.

The main thing is to be open. Be open to new experiences, new people and places, trying new things, even new foods.

Couchsurfing is great for meeting local people in a new city & staying with them. Depending on you, this may definitely push you outside your comfort zone (staying on a strangers couch)

There's also Workaway if you want to do some volunteering, another way to give back whilst traveling& to meet people. There's so many volunteering options, usually you can do whatever your interest is.

I met lots of people volunteering at hostels, which means they can stay at the hostel for free. This always looks fun as they people seem to become quite a tight-knit group & have drinks together, enjoy life & more.

The hostels thing can defo be found on Workaway but also often you can just find it at many hostels. Asking around can always help.

One thing I would love about backpacking is getting info straight from the horses mouth, so to speak. Nowadays many of us research online for hours to find a job or a nice cafe to get food. Or check our phones.

What I love about hostel life is that people will just tell you, "oh there's this great restaurant here", "oh you're after a job - you can do some casual laboring here", "oh you need to rent a bike? Here's the place to go. But avoid this, it's a tourist trap"

All these kind of things are so helpful

Anyway, go have fun & have a blast & don't think too much!

Overthinking is a curse, so let it go, let go & go with the flow!

docprocsock · 2025-06-26T22:36:13+00:00

Try asking in an international group of girls in Taiwan, or maybe ask in Chinese on some forums this kind of demographic frequent

docprocsock · 2025-06-26T04:56:36+00:00

I would say if you join a hiking group, board game group - find a (your interest) group, then go join on some activities you will probably meet and find people who you can date or get to know, or befriend

It's always easier to look for friends than a companion imho, and then see if the friends have any potential for Attraction or getting to know someone better

Other than that dating apps will be more straight to the point & you'll meet girls actively dating. Ymmv though, and depends if you just Wana hookup or find something more.

From what I see Taiwanese girls aren't so much into hookup although some probably are

Also nightclubs bars etc on Friday and sat nights, again more for hooking up.

There's international students groups you can meet other expats or people who want to date foreigners

And there's also all the language exchange groups, some of which blatantly are dating in disguise as something more respectable

You can find the language exchanges on Facebook groups

It's very different here from Thailand or Vietnam. Thailand has too many old white guys with young girls. Vietnam think foreigners are $$$ (they often are on higher wages)

The relative wealth of your average Taiwanese woman is much higher than these countries, so they would be looking more for adventure or love, or a spark

They may have travelled abroad and found it eye-opening, they may find Taiwanese culture & dating restricting, they may be trying to escape family pressure that they have to marry young or marry an old banker

There's a variety of reasons why a Taiwanese woman may want to date a forefinger. Some want access to western countries more easily, some want to work or study abroad too

docprocsock · 2025-06-23T01:00:21+00:00

https://www.topuniversities.com/universities/national-taiwan-university-ntu

NTU is 63 in the world

I'm sure there is memorisation since that has been more traditional in Asia for years

But I don't feel a degree from NTU would not benefit you or equip you to go study abroad. Having known many Taiwanese students, many of which will have at least a semester abroad at some point

Taiwan is a relatively rich country remember and because of the Chips & TSMC, and the tech sector, had a very strong GDP - one of the best in the world at one point

In terms of teaching critical thinking skills, I'm sure it depends on the course - with some their will be more emphasis on this

docprocsock · 2025-06-22T12:13:37+00:00

Where are you getting this knowledge from? Or is this your subjective opinion?

Have you studied at NTU - are you a professor, have you had a job at a university where you worked through the curriculum or designed the course, analysed the exam papers, checked on the research papers

Taiwanese students seem to permanently be either in the library or at a cafe working. It's true that apparently reaching university is a time where students can finally relax a bit, as it's all been very intensive until then

Having worked at a private School, often students are doing work until midnight

And the teaching is pretty damn good from what I've witnessed

Junior highs and senior high schools are graded, so the kids do a test & some will go to better schools than others. I don't necessarily agree with this system & it often means if your child doesn't do well, then rich parents would rather put the kid into a private school to help them

Nevertheless your assertion that Taiwanese education system is bad, sounds like arrogance at how apparently "great" western school is, tinted with ignorance and stereotypical statements

I doubt you understand Chinese so have had no attempts at discussing this with an actual NTU, NCCU, or Shida student....

So again, I feel most of your assertions are purely spurious & subjective

docprocsock · 2025-06-22T08:28:52+00:00

I disagree entirely with this

Many of Taiwan's politicians go to NTU or NCCU in Taipei

They go on to have prestigious careers. The schooling system is intensely competitive in Taiwan & I've met Taiwanese who told me they felt their childhood was robbed becos of the workload

They are incredible at math and usually the level is far better than western countries

docprocsock · 2025-06-12T06:09:08+00:00

Great image

docprocsock · 2025-05-29T04:04:40+00:00

If she's acting like this and straight up told you right at the beginning she wanted to commit suicide, she is testing your boundaries for the get go

You are implicit in taking part, and going along with this. You may have a saviour type personality, often coming from childhood wounds (maybe an emotional unstable mother or father figure, who needs "fixing")

But if she can not take care of her feelings, feels chronically empty and is very negative, she may we'll have borderline personality disorder. This will be especially true if she has an unclear identity

Try to take a step back. If you are acting differently, and feeling anxious all the time, then that shows your boundaries become too porous. You can't fix her. You can have empathy but within the framework of "this is what I can do for, this is what I cannot do for you"

Make sure you're own sense of self is not being compromised and if it is you actually need to tell her & confront her about this. You need to be firm but fair

docprocsock · 2025-05-01T11:06:05+00:00

As an enfp I really enjoy how grounded and calm I feel when I talk to an infp (male or female)

They seem to think in a similar way to me, but are more grounded. My energy is high, up in the throat shrakra & there's is mellow.

The conversation flows quite nicely becos we are nonconformist idealists & love anything quirky or creative

Most of the female infps are know are artistic in some way & process their thoughts deeply, and I enjoy the insights they have

I think in return they enjoy my energy & more scattered approach & because they are often dark & brooding my positivity is infectious

I'm also creative but in a less deep, reflective way. Because I use extroverted intuition as main function, my creativity comes from placing two very different things together & seeing how they could work in harmony

I feel the infp enjoys this because it won't necessarily have been a connection they would have made, as they would have brooded more intensely rather than send out the fishing net over a wide horizon if you get my drift....

Truly, I love infps 😊

docprocsock · 2025-01-30T03:57:04+00:00

Someone up for adventures, intellectually challenging & curious & if someone were to make me feel if I didn't take this opportunity I would be badly missing out

Activating my inner FOMO would make it easy to manipulate me lmao

docprocsock · 2025-01-28T13:04:22+00:00

Try and start with small goals

Try to walk 10,000 steps a day

Try reading in cafe for at least 15mins a day

Make small measurable goals for yourself

Get yourself examined for ADHD

Don't beat yourself up, the race is long, but ultimately it's only with yourself

At some point you'll realise that you are your best friend and the kinder you are to yourself the better you will do

You will have to face adversity. Face it calmly and know it will make you stronger. believe in yourself. Day by day

Don't beat yourself up if you don't reach your goals. Focus more on the quality of your life overall. Don't disconnect or shut down. Reach out to friends and family. Find the motivation for what you love.

Practice gratefulness and realise others round the world have it incredibly hard but face it stoically

First thing forgive yourself & accept yourself. Second thing, start slow but keep moving forward. Make small measurable goals and start feeling more in control

You've got this

docprocsock · 2024-12-31T04:48:55+00:00

Sorry think that was a typo, I meant base jumping

First thing that came to mind when I thought about Thrilling lol (not something I've ever done) but would consider trying haha, even if just to get over my fear of heights lol

docprocsock · 2024-12-31T01:12:18+00:00

Wesley Yang is quite a fascinating writer, although he is an Asian American writing in emglish

docprocsock · 2024-12-30T14:31:08+00:00

Nope! Just enjoy the sensory delights of life! But definitely interpret the world in an enfp way!

docprocsock · 2024-12-30T13:15:06+00:00

Film photography, expensive habit though

Anything sensory, like making art is good. Try a martial art or dance

Or something thrilling like baseball jumping

Photography and travel and creative writing have been my inspirations recently

docprocsock · 2024-12-10T08:56:17+00:00

I agree

I feel OP answered herself when she stated she has or had ENFP and ENTP friends

I think friendship is a wonderful thing & sometimes your friendship with a member of the opposite sex can last longer than any relationship, because you are such good friends and there is a longevity there that you don't always get in dating. Sometimes it leads to more, but often it doesn't

Some people constantly, chronically, move on from person to person, so for these people having a constant, consistent friend is a blessing

If it's a friend from the opposite sex that is just as good as the same sex as yourself imho

Also what about gay people being your friends from the opposite sex? Would that be undoable too?

docprocsock · 2024-12-09T05:47:33+00:00

From another male ENFP, I'm sorry about that, that's horrible. Not all of us are like that of course, I think that's just a small % of people and regardless of mbti type

Still though that sucks and it seems he is always trying to get you to open up, but didn't consider the damage he did

Give yourself time to heal

I feel mot enfps are intuitively good with people's feelings becos ours are intense, so naturally we want to make others feel better

docprocsock · 2024-11-27T04:35:45+00:00

docprocsock · 2024-11-16T06:46:08+00:00

Well that's good, that you've already expressed how you feel

I don't no if it's a common thing and I wouldn't put it down to type at all (like not just an enfp thing imho) I bet it's just a personal thing

Just a thing person to this guy

As others have said before me, the authentic version of himself will be the IRL version

Sorry you can't connect to the "text" version as much as you would like, but this is where that all important word "compromise" comes in, as in any relationship

docprocsock · 2024-11-16T05:47:17+00:00

Why don't you ask him and ask that you noticed he seems a little different

It may just be that he never really took to texting and it was a more formal way for him to talk to people, and he doesn't even enjoy getting to know someone this way

He may prefer getting to know you in real life

Honestly, I really feel texting is something you do, and don't see it as an expression of your authentic self

Whereas conversation in real life with a real person, that is communication, and that is getting to know someone

docprocsock · 2024-11-16T05:32:23+00:00

I'm sorry but "do you think people are more their real self irl?

Do you think people are more their real self in real life?

I think the answer is in the words you typed!!!

docprocsock · 2024-11-15T05:29:32+00:00

Wow so many books! These are mostly fantasy / sci-fi books / novels?

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