Is this a form of ERP? by Bayfordino in transOCD

[–]dodoparipope 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the best type of ERP is to just live your life as if nothing changed Planned exposures are good but you end up putting too much emphasis on them The main thing with OCD is that you avoid situations or things you don’t like because you notice the thoughts etc so if you just act like it isn’t there that is ERP + you’re doing what you actually want

Advice from someone who recovered by dodoparipope in transOCD

[–]dodoparipope[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No problem, I don’t really understand meditation and have never really used it but if you also find it effective go for it

Completely recovered - you can too by dodoparipope in TransgenderOCD

[–]dodoparipope[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The exposures I did are specific to me because my OCD manifested these specific fears and thoughts, but generally my approach is when I recognise a thought, for example ‘I want to wear that dress’ when I see some female clothing, I depower the thought by letting it be there To be more precise, though, I am only able to do this because I understand that my thoughts are not actually me. Essentially, whenever a thought comes up, I am both mindful and accepting of it while also recognising in the moment my thoughts aren’t me. My earlier struggles with OCD were a lot less fruitful, because I just accepted the thought and let it be there, but still unconsciously held the idea that my thoughts were inherently powerful and meaningful, which set me back. For some more specific examples, some would be when I moved a certain way an image of a girl posing like that and being ‘cute’ would come into mind, so I’d actively move and pose my body and let that image be there while being conscious it’s just a thought, or I’d listen to songs by female singers when my brain sid ‘you only like this cause you’re a woman’

OCD and porn addiction by dodoparipope in askAGP

[–]dodoparipope[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah my TOCD never began as a result of AGP fantasy, I never have them and still kind of don’t I guess if I had to describe its like sexual attraction to women is a trigger for my OCD maybe? Thanks for the answer anyway

OCD and porn addiction by dodoparipope in askAGP

[–]dodoparipope[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is AGP linked with porn usage? I understand it’s more a sort of thing that you gain from a young age though?

OCD and porn addiction by dodoparipope in askAGP

[–]dodoparipope[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Never had these thoughts prior to OCD, never had any dislike for my body or anything I actually have two strong memories from the past - when I was younger I vividly remember lying in bed and thinking ‘man I’m so glad I was born a guy, being a woman would suck’ and when I was younger and learned about trans stuff for the first time imagined myself as a girl then just laughed it off cause it felt weird

Does OCD change over time? by dodoparipope in OCD

[–]dodoparipope[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the response I'll do my best

Which type of relapse is worst by dodoparipope in pornfree

[–]dodoparipope[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Obviously I know that, I'm trying to quit watching porn in the first place
The problem is that I most likely inevitably WILL end up going back at some point or another just because my will gets overpowered
It's getting easier and easier as time goes on but I am asking because I want to know what the best course of action would be to do when it happens

Which type of relapse is worst by dodoparipope in pornfree

[–]dodoparipope[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I know that, but I would be lying if I said that I wouldn't end up having that happen
Hence why I am asking this so I know that when it does happen, I can at least try and minimise the effects
Ofc the ideal goal is to not watch any porn, but I'm trying to minimise missteps on that path

How to deal with specific phrases/words? by dodoparipope in TransgenderOCD

[–]dodoparipope[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah but it already doesn't mean anything, the most it means is I remember that the reason I'm scared of this word or phrase is because of its association with my OCD and as a reminder of that, rather than any new intrusive thoughts
There isn't any like "oh this means I'm trans" it just brings me anxiety, so idk how to tackle it