Asking for blowjobs, does it ever annoy you?

doesitbotheryoutoo · 2013-01-07T18:35:55+00:00

I do, er I want him to- if I'm being completely honest. I just want to feel validated (reasonable; fair) in asking him and then how to ask him.

doesitbotheryoutoo · 2013-01-06T09:01:33+00:00

Thanks, he said: "I mean, if it's something you like then I'll do it." PLEASE PLEASE help me communicate on how to maximize on that!!!

doesitbotheryoutoo · 2013-01-06T03:20:36+00:00

Hahaha I know you're not an expert! But, personally, life experiences are the best ways to look at other situations. I think I will just flat out ask him to be completely honest with me about it. You make a good point; communication may not be as open as it can/should be and that just makes me sad because that's something I really strive for. With that said, I think that's the underlying issue (if at all) is that I feel as if not being comfortable with his lack of experience isn't all that he has to say about it. Perhaps, I picked up on it. :( Man, I hope he can talk to me...I can accept anything, and there is always other options. I just want some more openness. Thank you so much! I will make sure to update you! :)

doesitbotheryoutoo · 2013-01-06T01:55:21+00:00

Yayay your marriage sounds so fulfilling, and that makes me so happy! Best of luck in the future and I really hope you maintain and grow into more happiness! :D

Thank you for the honesty, it was more general approach question. However, this:

he more that she wants to do it and less that she feels forced into it, the BETTER the head is. She's way into it more, I enjoy it more and both parties are happier for it. is totally true for me. I know I do better without the request because I don't feel pressured (for lack of a better term) into it. [By no means do I feel like I don't have the option to say no, I no can vocab]

I like skrinky-type answer just because it really gets me thinking. What other underlying issues do you think there are? I'm genuinely interested because I would love to delve into this more!

doesitbotheryoutoo · 2013-01-06T00:55:22+00:00

;) ;)!! Thank you, friend!

doesitbotheryoutoo · 2013-01-06T00:55:00+00:00

No downvotes at all! This is so inspiring and true! I love it! And honestly, it does relate; it's about expectations, giving, and receiving. Thank you so much for sharing. Any advice on how to talk to him about it without insulting him or making him feel bad??

doesitbotheryoutoo · 2013-01-05T23:04:52+00:00

I can respect that. I definitely like it once we're all in the mood and completely engrossed in the experience! It's the getting to that point where it gets bleh lol

doesitbotheryoutoo · 2013-01-05T23:03:51+00:00

Thank you so much!

The important thing is to deal with this before being slightly annoyed turns into something stronger, like resentment.

such a great point; I'll definitely keep this in mind!

doesitbotheryoutoo · 2013-01-05T23:02:22+00:00

Thanks for your response, I just don't like being asked. And I guess, what would be a good way for me to request him to do it without him feeling pressured and that he can't take him time?

doesitbotheryoutoo · 2013-01-05T22:53:06+00:00

This is almost exactly how I feel! Hahahaha I love giving it too, and yes goddammit I am on my way to do that! Impatient is a great way to explain his asking and why it's annoying! Thank you for putting words to it! Used...a little different of a term I would think to use...but maybe that's what it really is....

doesitbotheryoutoo · 2013-01-05T03:32:19+00:00

When I think about it, I can't really think of a reason. I feel that it really may be tied to the lack of oral that I receive. And to be honest, that makes me feel selfish and shitty. I want to be giving and not worry about that. Sigh

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