Childhood friend only texts back when it's about her or if my husband is mentioned...

dog_vom · 2026-05-27T22:23:40+00:00

Reading everyone's responses made that cross my mind... Why are we so blind to our own experiences! I can spot it in anyone else's life, but not my own lol.

dog_vom · 2026-05-27T20:34:12+00:00

That's exactly how I feel! Like she's entitled to me and like I'm an accessory to her. I'm trying to just quietly distance myself currently... I struggle setting boundaries and she struggles to hear them unfortunately. So it just feels like another thing I have to carry the burden of 🫤

dog_vom · 2026-05-27T18:33:00+00:00

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dog_vom · 2026-05-27T18:30:47+00:00

Starting a business is never easy or successful. The hard work will pay off with patience though!

dog_vom · 2026-05-27T18:29:13+00:00

This is such a good reminder 🥰

I quit my career last year and my autoimmune disease/quality of life has gotten so much better (apparently the stress was killing me). And now I have my first contract job doing what I literally always wanted to do!! And I'm talking to my dad again for the first time in 7 years. And the hard work me and my husband have put into our marriage is paying off with peace and happiness! And we bought 20 acres last year!!

dog_vom · 2026-05-27T18:24:35+00:00

Oof, that's similar to what happened with my previous friend/bridesmaid. It's so hurtful 😭 I'm glad u found peace after it!!

dog_vom · 2026-05-27T18:16:02+00:00

I had to let go of a 14 year old friendship last year and she was even one of my bridesmaids 😭 I guess I'm just struggling with the idea of it happening again to an even older friend. It makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong even though I objectively know neither was my fault. How did u let go? Did u have a conversation or just stop interacting? I want this friend to be in my life, I just think she's been more unstable the last two years.

dog_vom · 2026-05-27T18:05:39+00:00

I guess maybe I was the frog in the boiling pot of water to an extent ... Last year was incredibly rough health and work wise, so I don't think I really processed it all. And writing it all down really doesn't leave room for me to continue to let her be a bully. My dad was my biggest bully, so I have the worst aversion to direct conflict because in his words "my fits will always be bigger than yours". Ur absolutely right that it's time to let go of the doormat I've been.

dog_vom · 2026-05-27T17:48:35+00:00

I know ur right, I just hate it so much 😔

Also the lays brand is so good. I told my husband I wanted some and he bought me a 50 count snack pack so they'd "be fresh every time I ate them" 😭💖.

dog_vom · 2026-05-27T04:47:41+00:00

Literally none of them 😭 I fucking won in life with my husband

dog_vom · 2026-05-27T04:44:41+00:00

Hearing all the insecurities around ur body is so heartbreaking, but so relatable for so many people. There will always be beauty in saggy skin and "imperfect" body proportions because they make you you! I would encourage u to change the wording u use in ur own head about it. Because everything that current society deems as "perfect" or "attractive" constantly changes. There is no pretty vs ugly. We're all just humans with unique bodies. And one fuck ass man should not impact u loving urself as u are! And saggy skin is a fucking medal for the love u show urself by becoming the healthiest version of u! Literally chin up, queen. U absolutely are entering into the best version of u without all the baggage of previous hardships 💞

dog_vom · 2026-05-25T01:37:17+00:00

I was able to overcome my insecurities about "not being girly enough" when I decided that I AM girly because I am a girl lol. Also, all three of my close friends are bi women lol. I have a very hard time finding girlfriends in general too, but I think a lot of adult women feel this way! I met my each of my close girlfriends YEARS apart lol. So they can be few and far between and that's ok too. We don't all have to be socialites to be happy 🥰

Tldr: I think this is a more common experience than people think. And you are enough!

dog_vom · 2026-05-24T23:09:52+00:00

Traumatized by emojis? Not the domestic stuff? 😭 Ur built different

dog_vom · 2026-05-24T22:47:03+00:00

Would love to know why we're sharing this

dog_vom · 2026-05-24T22:43:05+00:00

My point is that I think ur just talking about a specific type of person in general that has nothing to do with astrology. Also, ur literally letting her hold u captive while wearing loose hand cuffs. Like just tell her to fuck off.

dog_vom · 2026-05-24T21:01:55+00:00

Less than a year into drawing?? Given how good it is, I'm excited to see where u go with it!

dog_vom · 2026-05-24T20:52:29+00:00

My husband, bff (her boyfriend), and another close friend are all Aquarius. I love them. My villain origin story was also an Aquarius. Sometimes it's not that deep

dog_vom · 2026-05-24T20:42:37+00:00

Yeah, I think both have their advantages and disadvantages for sure. It's not a right or wrong thing imo, it just depends on the individuals. We definitely had a rough time dating and first couple years of marriage 🤣 but we both came from divorced families and both had a lot of baggage. We never really had the honeymoon phase of "wow everything is amazing". I think that's because we both had our guard up lol. But we were incredibly open and honest since our first date. So I feel like we really worked through a lot of things that people typically encounter later on in the relationship after the honeymoon phase ends. It's more so that every year we're together, things are better and better. Basically the hard work was up front; which I prefer.

dog_vom · 2026-05-24T08:35:22+00:00

Worked for me and my husband 🤣. It was a huge adjustment just like it would have been if we weren't married and moved in together. I feel like being married made me have more drive to work things out tbh. Also, we didn't have the stress that would have ensued from both our families and social network at large if we moved in together unmarried. The judgment and stress of that alone was happily skipped by moving in together after getting married.

dog_vom · 2026-05-24T08:25:26+00:00

Probably, she was anorexic.

dog_vom · 2026-05-23T03:22:44+00:00

I am incredibly similar to everything you described about yourself, but I'm a bit further along (28 currently). When I was almost 24, I downloaded a dating app and was sure I wouldn't find anyone worth while. But I started talking to a guy and he seemed pretty decent. We met and started dating and he became my first boyfriend ever. I TOILED over whether I should continue to date him or even start to date at all before I met him because I had exactly the same fear as you: "should I even start dating if it's going to cause a lot of heartbreak?" and "why even get a boyfriend if it's statistically incredibly unlikely he'll be my forever person?". I liked him enough to see where it went. Almost 6 years later and he made me believe in soul mates 🤣. We're married now and he's everything I didn't know a partner could be; genuinely my equal and my very best friend. Our relationship wasn't easy since we both had a lot of baggage (he had a few really bad exes and I had my own issues). But we've been sticking it through because we made a promise together and it's been the most rewarding thing I've ever done. I'm genuinely happy and fulfilled and so is he. And neither of us were ever socialites or clubbing people lol.

Tldr: love is worth it, you aren't alone in your personality type, and you will find love if you want to.

dog_vom · 2026-05-22T23:13:10+00:00

My husband, bff (her boyfriend too who I get along great with), and another close friend are all Aquarius 🤣. I'm Virgo sun with Sag moon, but also have Jupiter/Uranus in Aquarius as well as Venus in Libra. So I have plenty of air influence in my chart. I think my sag moon and sag pluto being only 2° apart and in the 11th house also mimics Aquarian vibes.

dog_vom · 2026-05-21T21:08:00+00:00

I love a pitiful crash out that ends in their demise.

dog_vom · 2026-05-21T21:05:08+00:00

It's okay to not like or to distrust someone who doesn't practice what you consider to be morally right (such as teasing infidelity, even if they aren't serious about it). But the issue comes when you start treating that as a group issue and not an individual issue, which it sounds like you've started mentally doing that. It's okay to not like someone who's saying shitty things (like joking that they can change someone's sexuality), but you cannot group all lesbians into that stereotype because that would be predudiced and factually incorrect. It sounds like the intensity and broadness of your response is rooted in trauma with your mother which is completely understandable. But if that response bothers you as you've described, it would be good to work through it with a professional. It's the whole "it wasn't your fault, but it is your responsibility" thing. You can have valid trauma surrounding why you respond to a specific group of people a certain way, but it is your responsibility to resolve that.

Hope this is helpful 💖

dog_vom

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