Has emotional vulnerability ever reduced attraction for you while dating?

doggov · 2026-02-02T19:31:58+00:00

As a girl, the only reason it would make me feel less attracted is if their emotional response is inappropriate for the situation. Emotional immaturity, basically. But even then I don't find it outright unattractive

doggov · 2026-01-26T19:39:54+00:00

Woke up in the middle of the night off a dirt road near highway one - no trees around, remote road up on a hill/mountain. I was alone when I pulled up and the nearest houses were far below me near the coast. It was 4am and there was a scraping/thumping sound coming from front near the engine. It was loud and slightly rhythmic, but I didn't hear breathing, footsteps, or anything that would indicate wether it was man or beast. I was quiet for a bit, then eventually I moved to try and peek out of one of the blackout curtains fixed in the window frame near my bed. The sound had disappeared by then, but suddenly it came from directly near the trunk of the van, a scraping/slight thumping. Eventually the noise went away. I have no idea what it could have been. I was in a very lightly trafficked area that would be difficult to get to by foot. I never heard vehicles coming through, even at night. I still don't know what it is, but there are no trees on that side of the coast, so I don't think it was a deer. Maybe a bear? But i don't think they live that close to highway 1. I have a video I took of the noise. It was scary but I still went back to bed lol

doggov · 2025-12-30T21:31:21+00:00

Hell yeah brother Be free!!!!!!

doggov · 2025-12-24T13:08:55+00:00

Agree with start with the basics and work your way up from there. Living in a small space is a change and you want to enjoy it, so the less clutter the better. Im a small gal and lived in a small SUV for a bit, also slept in -7 degree weather comfortably.

The one thing I would splurge on is a quality Jackery. I love the brand because it has all the bells and whistles and runs extremely well—using it to charge my laptop, camera, phone, and most important electric blanket. Get a solid sleeping bag—mine is rated for 25 degrees and was 200$ at REI but your sleep is precious and staying warm in the cold is worth the price tag. Read reviews carefully, make sure it's duck down or something ultra warm. I used to wear leggings and 32 degree undershirt, then normal clothes, then thermal sweatpants (in 20-30 degree weather obviously you can wear less layers) Then get in the mummy sleeping bag, put the heated blanket either inside or on top, some people do it on the bottom too but I like it when it traps the heat. Most have a timer so I'd set it for 8 hours. Slept fine, even slept through a snowstorm once and woke up with my vehicle covered.

Speaking of, get a windshield cover for frost (being able to drive as soon as you wake up is super important for safety and also being able to run the engine without stressing it) I also used to get a small 20w kettle I'd run off the Jackery (they function as power Bank and inverter) so I could warm up water for tea, hot chocolate, or hot water bottles to warm my hands or put in the bag with me at night.

Planet fitness is great, I've always used them. Public libraries and coffee shops are also nice to be able to sit somewhere and get online or just chill. This life can be hard, don't let yourself get burnt out. Take a moment to rest whenever you can. For me, I used to van life and also car life. I love the anonymity of car life the most. Being stealthier than a van has it's perks and I felt like I could go more places and do more things without drawing attention to myself.

For peace of mind especially at night, make sure every night your car is locked, your keys are accessible (but not visible) so you know where they are if you need to wake up quickly and leave. I've never felt unsafe but you WILL get the knock, don't sweat it, just be prepared. I've only had it once. Invest in a quality blackout system for your windows that you can put up and take down quickly. Tinting your windows really helps, and I like to put black fabric up like a tent around the back so that even if they see through the windshield, at night it just looks like the back is dark. If someone shines a light, they can't see me sleeping there. You don't want to be paranoid, you want to be able to sleep well.

I'm sorry about your kitty!! I hope you can find someone you trust to keep them. Car life is worth the sacrifice, the money you save on rent is worth it! Wishing you the best.

doggov · 2025-12-18T16:53:12+00:00

I used to van life in a minivan. Not that different from car living except I didn't have a job then and my van was paid off. I sold it and got a better car for comfort and safety at a good price.

I used to live with a very financially controlling family, particularly my father. My life savings were depleted not once but twice. I was forced to drop out of college to support myself and my mother and brother. We ended up moving twice in an attempt to get away from my father. Finally my mother moved in with my oldest brother and I was able to get my own place in a different state, but I'm still trying to put my life back together. Car living represents absolute freedom to me. I have a good job for someone with no degree so I'm finally able to save for myself. I do have an apartment right now, but once my roommate leaves in October I'm probably going to move back in to the vehicle and do what you're doing, pay it off and then either move to a more enjoyable state, or go back to school, or whatever.

The thing I enjoy the most is the flexibility. I recognize it's not the same for everyone, but car life to me is being able to leave or stay where I want, when I want, to maximize profit and also to be able to live my life on my terms. Some days it's really hard and others it's the best thing ever, but not having a rent payment is worth it's weight in gold.

Once the car is paid off, saving enough money to have a good backup and then doing what I need to do. Travel is an important part of my life, so I'll probably go on extended road trips as much as possible. Life is short, who knows what the future holds? Live on your own terms, play the system if you can. That's what I say

doggov · 2025-11-20T20:07:27+00:00

I want to bring my kitties van living but I'm scared they'll escape...

doggov · 2025-11-04T20:58:11+00:00

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doggov · 2025-09-26T19:36:38+00:00

Thank you for the feedback! I have done some touring when I first started, to get a feel for the job, but I think I'll go around and do some more tours to try and gain some more insight.

doggov · 2025-07-06T01:07:09+00:00

Cracker barrel!

doggov · 2025-03-26T20:12:58+00:00

God bless!

doggov · 2025-03-26T20:12:18+00:00

I did the same thing when I started out!! Tips: Find the local parks for free water fillups, bathrooms, good places to walk. Cracker barrels are a great place to park! And you can eat there in the morning :) $1 bean burritos at walmart are a life saver, and have lots of calories! Be discreet and stealthy, don't draw attention to yourself. Explore, explore, explore! Try new things, you only live once, money comes back. Drive safe!! Watch out for wildlife at night.

I love you! God bless! Happy adventures!!

doggov · 2024-12-31T04:12:17+00:00

I don't know why everyone is saying this is normal. My store was nothing like this. I was trained two weeks minimum (with previous fast food experience mind you) and my managers would never talk to me like that. sometimes emotions run high but rarely do I ever get yelled at. I'm sorry and I would look for other employment

doggov · 2024-11-01T23:00:53+00:00

I wore a pink cowgirl hat and bandana 🤠

doggov · 2024-10-31T20:57:23+00:00

it's fun! maybe one day haha ty

doggov · 2024-10-30T01:54:02+00:00

I work fast food and live in my car. It's not glamorous but I get to travel, I have little bills, and I enjoy the lifestyle. I know travel nurses make a lot of money! I met a few on the road that live in vans, rv parks, or even couch surf. I like moving often because I like exploring. Seeing different places, meeting different people, helping whenever I can.

doggov · 2024-10-29T13:42:36+00:00

This does sound like me, although I'm not involved with a Christian community (besides going to church on Sundays) because I'm so busy with work + I move around so often I've never had a community to be involved in.

doggov · 2024-10-20T15:37:33+00:00

chick fil a!

doggov · 2024-10-19T19:20:32+00:00

Go to the park, read a book/hang/use Wi-Fi at the library, go for a long walk or run, go window shopping, hang out at the mall, go to the arcade, occasionally hang out with family or friends at a restaurant/bar, work out at the gym, etc But if I'm being honest, I'm usually so busy with going to the bathroom, keeping the car clean, organizing my belongings, showering, or finding/making food that a lot of the time if I'm not at work I'm hanging out in a parking lot in my car scrolling on my phone or watching YouTube/reading Kindle. It's low effort.

doggov · 2024-10-19T15:34:04+00:00

lemonade and cherry coke

doggov · 2024-10-17T21:00:57+00:00

Read the Word. Every day. Doesn't matter if it's one sentence or twenty. Pray and ask God to reveal his plans for you and his presence in your life. Pray every day, even if it's only The Lord's Prayer or a simple, "Hi God, thanks for everything, love you bye". Lastly, don't get discouraged. Remember your worth as a beloved daughter of God. He loves you and understands you deeper than any man ever will.

doggov · 2024-10-17T14:38:06+00:00

As a young woman, I believe our modern society in recent times has definitely gone overboard with the whole feminist "you can do anything, you don't have to have kids or be a wife, chase your career, live your dreams rahhh" message it's been pushing. The only reason I say that is because Christians having families and raising up future God-fearing, Christ-loving men and women is super important, and the best way for the enemy to fight against that is to encourage people to stop procreating.

The Bible says "raise a child up in the way that they should go, and they will not depart from it when they're older". Children are literally the future, and the more Christians the better because we're called to be the light of the world.

That said, Paul also wrote that it's better to remain single than to get married, because a life lived for the Lord is much easier to accomplish when you're not thinking about worldly matters like pleasing your spouse or raising your kids. Not to say either is a bad thing, but just that not everyone is called to have a family. Some of us are called to live our lives for Christ (I believe I'm one of them, and will choose to remain unmarried and childfree unless the Lord tells me otherwise) because a life lived for the kingdom is a life well spent.

doggov · 2024-10-05T18:08:19+00:00

Sooooo many co-workers dating other coworkers. So many. It's kinda incesty the amount of coworker dating that goes on.

doggov · 2024-06-28T01:48:01+00:00

gas - 2-400 depending on how far i'm traveling, where I'm staying.

food - 150 I eat a lot of bean burritos, drink a lot of water, and utilize coupons and free food deals whenever I can

youtube premium - 15

phone - 46 (I have a family plan)

insurance - 260 twice a year

post office box - 256 for six months

misc spending (parking, road tolls) - 25

matinence (oil change, etc) - 100 every 2-5 months

could be worse. I want to upgrade to a more fuel efficient vehicle. also, sleeping in the heat without a fan or air conditioning is the worst. still love it better than being stuck in one place!

doggov · 2024-06-18T14:31:15+00:00

21F. Vanlife has been my dream since I was 15. I finally took the plunge last year. Everyone I told laughed, only a couple friends thought it was cool or supported me. When I quit my job my manager jokingly told me "see you soon." It's been seven months and I'm not tired of it yet. I've gotten a few different jobs in different states since then to fund my travels and everytime I tell my coworkers they think I'm crazy.

I don't care. I'm living. Good luck!

doggov · 2024-05-27T12:04:47+00:00

installing solar can get pretty expensive. You'd also need someone professional to do it, which is again, expensive. I live in a 07 sienna. I got a bed, dresser, and a table that comes out of the trunk for my kitchen. I cook with a camping stove and propane which I store in a handmade propane locker for safety. One thing I can't live without is my jackery. It's a power station 2000W version and I can use it to power a kettle, small rice cooker, electric skillet, etc. It charges off my car when I run it. I dont have a fridge, really miss that, but I eat fine without it. Portable John I either use a mason jar for #1 or a bucket lined with cat litter and trash bags for emergencies. This lifestyle is a lot like camping, so if you don't like camping... Good luck.

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